So this video here is really, really important. So this video here will really help you improve your confidence. Because here I would like to talk about the confidence mindset and how you can be confident in any new skill. So, this is here, what confidence is about, if you apply what is behind here, you will become confident. So I would like to illustrate the confident mindset with two examples. The first one is approaching new people.

And the second one is about giving a presentation. How can you become a confident and how would a confident person think about that? Let's talk. So here just I would like to show you how the person will perceive the past, the present and the future. So let's start. Small someone wants to become more confident at approaching people.

There. We are. always focus on the past on the accomplishments on the things that they were able to do well, why? Because we want to show our brain to reinforce it positively, that we were able to do some actions Well, in that situation. So I would be focusing on the times when I was able to approach people, and I was successful, I will really feel I will remember these, these times, I will really feel these positive emotions. And then I will also learn from my mistakes.

I'm not saying here, just be completely delusional and just think about your accomplishments and forget all the rest. What that will do is that that will really feel my confidence with my accomplishments. And that will just really quickly go over my failures when approaching people, and I won't feel them emotionally I will try to have some distance with the memory and that will just analyze and say, oh, what did I do? What what why? can i improve next time? And then with this question here, I will be able to say, Okay, I did, I did that that was not the best way.

But maybe I could do that instead, this is how I could improve it. I will just get feedback from the negative memory, I want to be fueling the negative emotion in my body. What I'm going to be thinking about is my accomplishments. So be thinking about all the times I was able to approach people well, in networking events in bars, every time every time every time every time then when I am approaching people, I was always taking care of my posture. Imagine that you are Superman. If you adopt the posture of someone who is confident you will become confident because the mind and the body is linked.

So if you think that you are confident, you will have a competent body language, but if you also adopt a confident language, a confident body language, it will also change your belief. So you can do it with the posture Positive focus, when I am interacting with someone, I will I will always be focusing on what is going well, I will be focusing on the great things around me, I will be optimistic, I will be grateful, I will be happy, I will cultivate all these positive emotions, I won't be focusing on the bad things that are around me I won't be focusing on the things that I did wrong or that I'm doing wrong. I would be really trusting myself being in the moment and really focusing on what is great around and I will be asking myself the two questions. So at the end of the interaction, I will ask myself the question, why did I do well, and what can I do better next time.

Remember, we are always reinforcing positively the behavior that we did. I will also brief dp three times my self talk will be always positive If I will be always, as if I was a cheerleader, I am my own cheerleader, it means that I will be motivating myself. I'm saying, Alan, that's good, what you are doing. Just give you best. And you are awesome. You are amazing.

Just go and share the love with people. Oh my God, you are enough. That's awesome. You love yourself, I will be talking myself in that kind of way. I won't be saying oh my god, you are a failure. What happens if you fail?

What happens if the person rejects you? It does not exist in my mind. So you should really talk to yourself more positively. And move and act is what I call you act as if you were already confident. And the question that I would ask myself when I am interacting with people is how would my confidence self behave in that situation? And I would act like that.

In the future. I would have positive visualization. It means that I would sit home, and I would just close my eyes. And I would just visualize all my future interactions going well, I will visualize it going well going well going well going well. And I will expect it going well, even before approaching someone for a few seconds, I will just imagine that I will approach someone and everything will go well, always positive. And because positivity and confidence go together, negativity and confidence cannot coexist.

So you can see here this model is always about focusing on the positive side, reinforcing the action. And that's how you build confidence that the secret my friends, on how you can build confidence. Now let's use another one, which is how you can become more confident at giving presentation. So again, I will be focusing on all the great presentation that I gave in my past. I will be learning from the bad presentations and always asking myself this question. What could I do Prove next time.

So be thinking, Okay, two years ago I gave a presentation, that was not maybe the best one. What can I improve next time next time? I could do that, that that, okay? And what are my accomplishments? Oh, I give this presentation that was awesome. This one This one, and that would feel the positive emotion.

When I am giving the presentation, I would have an amazing posture, I will be focusing on the great things. I would be focusing on the fact that I'm giving a great speech, I will be focusing on people who laugh, I will be focusing on people who are attentive, I won't be focusing on people who are bored and say, Oh my god, people are bored. Because my speech is awful. I won't be focusing on them. I will be focusing on everything that is right. The two questions after the presentation, what did I do?

Well, what can I improve next time? I will be breathing deeply before the presentation. And also when I'm giving the presentation. I won't forget to be I will be motivating myself like crazy. I would be saying Alan that's good. Good.

You best people, we love you people I hear in the audience because they really want to learn from you, you will learn you will teach them so much. I will be like that. And that's how you can have confidence. If you're not comfortable with that. And you just say, Oh, I just want to give my presentation. And maybe people will love you know, you want to build confidence here.

So you have to give yourself permission to act as a confident person and trust your abilities to say, Okay, I'm going to give this presentation, I'm going to give value to them and really own it. Okay. Moving act, I would ask myself this question, how would a competent person behave and give a presentation? In my case, I would also, for example, do some research to prepare myself, for example, buy a book on how to give presentations, I would really focus on how do people give great presentation, and during the presentation, I would ask myself, how would I act? How would my confidence self act in that situation, and I will also visualize me giving The presentation before the presentation, I will visualize me succeeding over and over again. So, I will teach you later a little bit more about visualization.

So now my question to you is, how can you use this framework here to your own situation? What would you like to become confident in? And then you use it. I would like you to write down what are your accomplishments according to what you would like to become confident in? When you are acting next time, according to what you want to become confident in? Can you take care of your posture?

Can you have a positive focus? Can you ask yourself the two question, can you breathe deeply? Can you have a positive self talk? Can you adopt the behavior of your competent self? And then after that, can you visualize yourself? Yes or no?

Can you visualize yourself positively succeeding? That's it. That's the confident mindset. So if you want to have confidence in a new skill, this is what you use. You take action, you reinforce it position. You deal with the two questions, you visualize that you will succeed.

And every time that you think about the past, you think about your accomplishments. You feel the positive emotions, and you just learn from your mistakes that you did in the past but you don't let that impact you. This was the confident mindset.