So now let's talk about the positive focus and the mental pictures that will help you become more confident. So the first question that I have for you is, do you see this glass here? half empty, or half full? You say, Oh, no, I see half empty, half full or both. Let me tell you that. If you want to become a confidence, you must see the glass half full.

Why is that? Because confidence and negativity cannot coexist. So if you want to become a confident, you cannot become negative, you can't be negative. If you look around and you look at the leaders are the confident people, they're not negative. The situations that they are dealing with is the same, but the way that we perceive the situation that they will analyze will be seeing the glass half full. And this is the key to building your confidence.

Do this straight that to really hammer that into your brain. I would like you just to force us seconds to focus on a sad memory. How do you feel sad? Now that you to focus on a happy memory, how do you feel happy? What happened here, you just change your focus. So if you focus on the glass half full, you will be able to build confidence and experience positive emotions and confidence.

And if you focus on the glass half empty, it means that everything that you did wrong, all the facts or the fact that you are failure, the fact that you are not good enough, you will feel negativity and you won't be able to build confidence. So I would like to share with you here, the two best questions to build confidence at anything. The first question is, why did I do well, so like when you interact with people, when you do something when you give a presentation, when you do something challenging or any situation after that of like, you To ask yourself, what did I do? Well, I don't want you to say, oh, what did I do wrong? Oh, it was awful. Don't start with that.

Start by reinforcing the action positively. So let's say that I went to a bar and I wanted to approach woman at the end of the night, I will just think, and I will say, what did I do? Well, oh, I did when I approach woman approach three woman, Oh, I got the phone number. I made her laugh. And that will list everything. What I'm doing here that I'm reinforcing into my brain, the fact that I was able to to create behaviors in that in that situation.

And this is how I'm able to build confidence. I'm not saying oh, what did I do wrong? Oh, my god, that was awful. She rejected me. I'm not focusing on that. I'm not focusing on the glass half empty.

I'm focusing on the glass half full. So this is you can use in any situation. So this is the first question. The second question. He's What can I improve next time? Instead of saying, What did I do wrong?

I'm changing, and I'm framing it positively. So he would get the feedback about what you can do better next time, what can I improve next time, or maybe next time I can try to relax a little bit more when I approaching a woman, maybe next time, I can maintain eye contact longer. Maybe next time, I can just ask for the phone number. You see here, what I'm saying is here, I'm reinforcing the behavior of the situation positively, by just showing my brain that I was able to do something, create something positively, and something I was able to do something that situation. And here, I'm getting feedback framed in a positive way, so that I can get back in I can improve that next time. I can do again, I can go in the situation, improve it.

I can act there and then ask myself this. Question. I do that all the time. When I give a speech when I'm at work, when I'm interacting with people, when I'm coaching clients, after that, I will always build my confidence that this is how you can build confidence. You can build confidence with these two questions. So this would be, I would say, for the next action that you will be taking, for example, today or tomorrow, if you're interacting with people, these are the questions that you should ask yourself.

But now let's just look at your past. Maybe there were situations that destroyed your self confidence. And those situations had bad memories and create memories. In other words, the situation had the glass half empty and half full. And if you have a negative feeling associated to the situation, it may be because you were all you were looking at the glass half empty. Let's say that you had a presentation and it went really really, really badly and you are not confident because of that.

Your focus is on the glass half empty. And I would like you just to switch your focus. And I would like you to ask yourself this question, what did they do? Well, in that situation, I would like you to focus on the glass half full. Because if you're focusing on the negative memory on the glass half empty, never forget that there was also the glass half full. So maybe the presentation that you did really badly, and that you destroy the presentation.

Maybe there was someone who liked it. Maybe there was something that you said that was amazing. Maybe your body language was great. Maybe there was something that you did in that situation. That was great. And that's how you can build confidence.

You ask yourself this question, what did I do? Well, oh, I did that. Well, that whatever. What can I improve next time next time? I can do that, that. That's how you build confidence.

So right now, I would like you, I encourage you to just write an action point. Right now would be about today. Would it be to just see the life helpful instead of half empty? Would it be too after every interaction that you have or any action that you take today, you have to set these two questions ready