Okay, it's the number one question I get. It's the number one question on the internet about speaking. How do I get over my fear nervousness over speaking? Let me start by asking you a question. How do you get over your nerves of sending a document to your boss or your most important clients filled with all sorts of typos and grammatical mistakes? Chances are you tend to TJ that's pretty easy.
I run it through spellcheck, I edit it. I go through a couple of drafts. Well, no kidding. But that's exactly what you can do with your speech or presentation. Here's the difference. Your speech your presentation is not the words on a document.
Your speeches you actually speaking, so the only way to review it and critique it is for you to watch a video of yourself. Now, when I started in this business 30 years ago, you could make the excuse. There's no time It's too expensive to hire a production crew, but you don't have that excuse. Everyone is surrounded by video cameras. It's in your cell phone. It's likely in your computer or your iPad.
There are video cameras everywhere. They're cheap and plentiful. You can buy one for $10 at the grocery store. Now, you might not want to practice on video. Hey, you're the one who wants to get over your nervousness, your fear public speaking, I'm telling you, this is the absolute best way to do it. Now.
Here's the trick. You can't practice your speech on video once and say, Oh, well, I don't like that. But now I've practiced. No, that's only going to make matters worse. You've got to watch your speech. Figure out what do you like?
What do you not like the stuff you like? Do more of the stuff you don't like do less. Now here's the real key. You have to keep on pressing. practicing your speech on video. So you can point to it and say, Wow, that guy or that woman, she's great.
Wish I could speak half as good as she does. Once you get to that point it becomes impossible to be nervous. The reason you're nervous is you don't really know how you're coming across. The reason you're nervous is you're afraid you might really be boring. Well guess what? You might really be boring.
There's no way of knowing unless you watch yourself trust you can ignore every other piece of advice I give you if you follow this one piece of advice. You'll be head and shoulders above everyone else and you will never fear speaking that is you have to practice on video and tell you like what you see. Absolute guarantee it will eliminate your nerves.