We have to talk about emotion. This is a funeral you're delivering the eulogy. I don't have to tell you to act sad, presumably you are setting up. Even if someone is 100 years old, they've accomplished everything they ever dreamed of and die peacefully in their sleep. You're still sad about losing this person, even though they're death at that moment might not be particularly tragic. So I'm not suggesting you had to take on the demeanor of a stand up comic and be Haha, laughing all the time.

Although humor can be very appropriate. If it spotlights the things that make that person special and amplify. The person who's just passed away that person's sense of humor humor can be great. But here's the issue with emotion when it comes to eulogy. You want to strike the right chord, the right level. Because if you're just reading for example, blah, blah blah Up above, it seems emotionless.

And it's as if you didn't even know the person. The other big problem in eulogies, frankly, is that people are so emotional. They're so sad. They're just blubber. I don't mean to sound mean, folks. I don't want to sound cool.

But it is an honor for you to be able to deliver this eulogy and you need to take it seriously. If you just get up there, and start crying and blubbering. You're not honoring that person. Yeah, you're letting people know that you're sad and you miss the person. But now becomes more about you. Oh, I hope he gets through this eulogy.

So you want to direct the audience, the family members focus on the person who just died, not on you. So that's why I do think it's critical. For you to have a plan to get through this eulogy, without falling apart without falling to pieces. Now, you may love this person with anyone in your whole life. But you do want to honor this person, you'll do more honor by really talking about the great moments, rather than just crying and you have plenty of time to cry later, alone or with family or friends or other people, just not now when you're trying to deliver the eulogy. The number one way to not cry is to practice on video and I'm going to show you how to do that in a moment.

But if you practice the eulogy, several times on video, you become familiar with it. You're not saying it for the first time so it's not opening up new wounds the same time if you simply write out a speech or write out an outline. And you are saying it for the very first time in front of people and there's the casket. It's so much hitting you all at once. It can be so intense, that you just lose it. And that's why it's crucial to rehearse, in advance.

And that way you can certainly be sad. You can be reflective, you can talk about how much this person will be missed. But people will be able to understand you if you're just crying and blubbering and can't get through the eulogy. You're not really accomplishing anything. So now we're going to go on to the rehearsal.