If you want to do some mirror exercises, the power position or want to compliment items or people, please do so. But I won't ask you anymore. It is your job to carry on this exercise whenever you feel needed. Today, I just want you to think about what I'm about to share and see how it makes you feel. What do you agree with, or you don't agree with just think deeper about the topic? Here's the story.
I don't get asked many favors anymore, because people get used to me saying no, when I believe it's an inappropriate favor to ask or it would cost the same effort for the both of us. So I no longer say yes to favors that are asked out of sheer laziness, or if it would cost me too much time or money. Obviously there are exceptions, but I try to follow this general 8020 rule. For example. In the past, some family members asked me last minute to pick them up at the airport because their car broke down and drive them back to their city, which was an hour and a half away from me. When I got this call, I was on my own surprise birthday party, and I didn't want to leave, I suggested my family to get a cab, then go to my place, spend the night, then take the train home the next morning, I was never going to spend so much time on a non emergency situation, I still left to prepare the house for my family.
Then I drove back to the party, which still cost me some time, but way less time and effort than what they asked for. They didn't hate me for saying no, it was just a bit less comfortable for them. They asked something too big and I didn't want to do it. So I offered a less comfortable alternative for them, but still a solution while keeping my needs as a priority. This is what's called a clean compromise or a win win? How does this make you feel?
What do you think about my actions? What do you think about my family's request? How would you have handled it? If you think it was a good approach? Next time remember this story before you say yes, and if you disagree, take this example and form your own approach that keeps your needs met. Remember, you're learning to prioritize yourself as much as others.
So when you're coming up with your own approach, keep this in mind.