True self love goes back to your past as well, what happened happened and it formed who you are today. The past belongs in the past, but it will always affect your present. So why not turn the pain around? If you never endured pain, you wouldn't have learned how to stand up, how to carry on, and just how strong you truly are. Without challenges we couldn't improve. Being stuck in the past takes away the possibility of a healthy future.

This is why we must leave it where it belongs and move on. If I asked you who do you have negative feelings for? Who are you angry at? who couldn't you forgive? Who would you say? forgiveness is forgiveness regardless of the sin.

This was one of the most difficult lessons to learn for me That I don't forgive because that person deserves it. But because I deserve not to have to live with hate in my heart. I deserve to free myself from the ghosts of my past. I deserve to let stress, anxiety, pain and hurt leave me and I can fill that empty space with love, passion, courage, anything I could use more. This next exercise will cause anxiety for some of you. But if you don't face your ghosts, they will haunt you forever.

So I want you to think of a person or situation that you haven't been able to forgive anything that haunts your present sometimes Close your eyes and relive that moment when the pain happened. Feel it, truly feel it. Think about all the details. You can remember the temperature, the clothes you were wearing, the smell of that person, the place where it happened? visualize and feel the pain. Tell yourself loudly the name of the person or describe the situation where you felt hurt in a few words.

Now open your eyes and read this feeling in your heart. walk up to the mirror and look into your eyes. Tell yourself Why was it good that it happened to you? What made you stronger? In what way did your life turn out to be better? For some of you, it might be almost impossible to find anything positive to say about the memory.

But if you can find just one good thing to say, you can put the forgiveness in motion. It will take time for some of you even years to fully forgive, but it must start so you can learn to live in the now and be thankful for your past. Living life with hate. guilt or pain in our hearts affects us tremendously. That lingering Stress could cause a weakened immune system, anxiety, sleeplessness, and just being emotionally drained. Forgive for you, not for them because you deserve peace in your heart.

Practice finding the good in anything bad all through the week.