Sometimes the fear of success can be more powerful and can impact you more than the fear of failure. And is that possible to be afraid to succeed? Yes, that's possible. Most people ask themselves the question, and it can be consciously or unconsciously, is that what can I lose if I succeed, and the thing that if they succeed, they can lose something, it will lead to pain, or it will make them uncomfortable. So in order to avoid pain, losing something and being uncomfortable, they will do whatever they can not to succeed. And this is what the fear of succeeding is about is that they think that by succeeding, they will lose something, it will lead to pain, other will be uncomfortable, and it can be even unconsciously.

And this is what is incredible, is that we are not even aware of that. But that one time, like we go, we take action towards our dream. And then at one point, we do everything not to reach that goal, and we don't understand why and here's the reason why. Because you associate negative things to succeeding. And it's, it's what you perceive, it's the pain that you perceive, will give you if you succeed. It's not maybe reality, but it's what you perceive in your brain.

It's what you perceive that you will lose. If you succeed. It's just a perception. It's not maybe reality. So, I will show you later how you can really transform it and destroy this fear of succeeding. Let's destroy that.

Let's say that there is a couple of two overweight people and the man wants to lose weight. So he starts eating better, he starts going to the gym, and you know, like his, his losing weight is good. And then at one point, it can be consciously or unconsciously, he will say, Hmm, but if I continue losing weight, what will happen is that maybe my my woman will be jealous of me. And I don't want my I don't want my movement, my woman to be challenged and also if I continue Wait, I will be eating eating more and more healthy. And we won't have these amazing moments that we have on when we eat food together. And I want to have these moments with, with my wife, Hmm, maybe I should, I should start putting, maybe I should start gaining weight again, so that I don't lose that.

And this is how our brain works, and it can be also unconscious. So that's why it's really important to just be aware of that. And I will show you later how you can I can even I can even show you that right now. You just take a piece of paper and you just ask yourself this question. What do I think I can lose? If I succeed, and you will get the reason and you will know why you are doing everything not to succeed.

Because you will just understand that you don't want to succeed so that you don't experience the state of Spain so that you don't, you don't lose something. And remember it's all about Perception is you can do that right now you take a piece of paper, and you ask yourself this question, what do you think I can lose if I succeed? And you will know what you're avoiding? So what's the solution? Instead of asking yourself this question, what can I lose? If I succeed and having the negative focus?

You change the focus to positive? It means that what can I gain if I succeed? So if you are doing everything not to succeed, it's interesting just to know why you are. You are doing everything not to succeed. So you make a list of what what do you think I can lose? If I if I succeed?

But then on the other hand, I would like you to ask yourself the question, what can I gain if I succeed? And I would like you to really focus on what can you gain if you succeed? Because I would like you to just show your brain that there are many positive outcomes if you succeed. And the great thing is that if you can come up with like many positive outcomes, and just show your brain The positive outcomes can be real and the negative outcomes. Maybe it's just an illusion, and it's not really real. So if you do that, to see that you can take massive action.

Let's take the example again of the men who wanted to lose weight. So if it's at the point, instead of asking himself, what can I lose? If I succeed? He could have asked himself the question, what can I gain if I succeed? And he could have said, oh, maybe I can inspire my wife to be healthy, I can be an example for her. And he would have come up with reasons about why he should continue losing weight, and why it was amazing wipe off why it was awesome if he loses weight.

And you can see here that if he just changed his mindset, he changed his results, because then the fear of succeeding is not treated anymore. And he could also have has said, Okay, I know that there are these negative outcomes. Maybe my woman can be jealous. But I don't think that's really the case. If you really think about that, and you try to deactivate the, the negative things that you think can happen, maybe it's not reality. It's just a fear that you had.

So you can try to show your brain that the negative outcomes if you succeed are not real. It's all about showing your brain and you focus on everything that you can gain. If you succeed, if you do that, you will be able to take massive action. We also have an internal thermostat that tells us what we can have and what we deserve to have. So it happens all the time with people who win the lottery. They make a lot of money.

And then one year later, they are back where they were, is because when they won the lottery, they got all this money. And their internal thermostat was just saying, Oh, I'm not comfortable with that. We should get rid of all the money until I become comfortable again. And it went until the we're comfortable again. So it's something that we have inside us. And it's also something that will increase our fear of succeeding.

It means that if we don't think we deserve it, we'll do everything we can to get rid of it, and not to achieve that goal. In this case here, if you win the lottery, you must raise your internal thermostat, so that you know that you deserve this money so that you can keep it another example if it's someone meets, for example, a man meets a woman of the of the dream, and the man is not really comfortable with a woman because the woman is of really high quality. And he, he says, Oh my god, I don't deserve this woman. So it's, again, the internal thermostat that is there that is showing, oh my god, you don't deserve this woman. And over the long run, he will make things to to to destroy the relationship because he wants to be comfortable again, because his setpoint is really low.

He says I don't deserve this woman. So if you make everything he can to, to stop the relationship, even even if it's slowly like everyday, he does something. And and the woman doesn't like you see here, it's really incredible. It's not maybe something that you will do once and it will be a big thing. It can be everyday take a small action that will prevent you from succeeding. And then at the end, you don't succeed.

So what's the solution, you must increase your setpoint of your thermostat. It means that you must understand that you deserve more out of life, you must increase your self confidence, your self worth, and you must raise your standards for what you want in your life. And it's not the process that you can do in a few minutes is something that you do over and over again. you increase your self force and you raise your standards for what you for what you think you deserve in life. Another thing that can activate the fear of success is that we are afraid of change. We are afraid of standing out.

And what if that person that we love doesn't recognize us anymore. So it's always these fears that we have the fear of just standing out from the crowd, and all these fears that can be here. And that can increase the fear of success. So how can you deal with that? It's always about focusing on everything that you can gain. If you focus on everything that you can gain if you succeed, and if you truly focus only on that, what will end up happening is that it will destroy your fear of change, it will destroy the fear of standing out, all these negative fears that you have will be destroyed if you focus on everything that you can gain.

Remember, everyone focus on everything they can lose if they succeed, and that's why they are afraid of succeeding, focus instead of what can you gain if you succeed. And if you truly write down the answers and you feel the emotions, I guarantee that you will take action, you will be able to take action because you showed your brain what it can gain if you take actions. And this is here, the summary of the fear of succeeding, focus on everything that you can gain If you succeed, instead of everything that you can lose if you succeed