Hey, welcome back, everybody. Welcome to this section on Bs, belief systems and lies. What a great title right? I'd have to read a book with that title. So, just a little bit of a recap, because we talked a little bit about this before, belief systems, I call them bs for short, just to remind me what they truly are. They're simply beliefs.

And they're not always right. believing something does not make it true. Now, that seems obvious, but we have so many things that we believe in, that we haven't proven, and they're not true. Remember, we said that was part of the Zen philosophy, that if you were alone in a room by yourself and you rigorously examine things 99.9% or higher of everything you believe, if thought over and sometimes, you know, you have to discuss it with somebody else to get another perspective, would be found not to ultimately be true to your own satisfaction. But you believed it for so long. You defended it.

You based your Life on it. And this is why most people are losing it the game of life. We said there was two reasons. The basic one is you don't know the rules of life, which is why you're doing this. You don't know how things work from the neck up. That's your control system.

Second thing is, you don't even know what's true or not. That's the entirety of the rest of the world. between those two things, you never stood a chance. Now you do. So the next concept is no matter how much you're in love with a lie, it does not make it true. And we're in love with these lies.

We wrap ourselves in these lies, we make love to these lies, we hug these lies, we sleep with these lives, we're married to these lies. We are in love with our lies. We will defend them we will give up our life for our lives. We think Kamikaze is the give their life up for something that was very likely a lie. An absolute lie. So, how do we get past this?

We need to learn ways to counter our own Bs, our belief system, not questioning what you believe, is called delusion. You're literally in a state of illusion, you believe something to be true. And it isn't. It's just an illusion. If something appears to be something, but it isn't, that's an illusion. I want to disillusion you which is what?

A lot of people don't like that where they say, oh, disillusion that sounds like you know, you're going to crap on my beliefs or you know, it's a negative word. Oh, no, no, no, no, that's the major misconception. disillusionment is the removal of illusions. And when you remove those illusions that Fake false information which has been holding you down and hurting you your entire life. That's the best thing that person can do for you. Your best friend is the one who disillusions you.

I hope this training is the most disillusioning experience you've ever had in your life. So, primary concept, much of what we believe is actually delusion 99.9% we said of what we believe is not true. Now, a lot of people say, How can that be? 99.9? That seems really high to me. Mr. Paul, you know, if you said, you know, 80% or 90, I could go 9598 99.9.

That's amazingly high. You know, that's setting off my bs meter. Well, let's see. And I'll give you a very simple example. In physics, it's called the table problem. And the problem is what the Hell is a table.

And you can get all the best scientists in the world studying this. And they can't agree on what a table is. So get all the most brilliant minds in the world, get them in a room, and they're not gonna be able to figure out what a table is. In, you're like, I can't figure out what a table is. I'm looking right at it. It's wood.

So unless that's a bad picture, you're trying to fool me. It's a wooden table. Mr. Paul, I want to thank you for coming. You've been a wonderful audience, you know, thanks for playing. We're done here. Everybody clapping Let's go.

We know it's a wooden table. Well, you're not wrong. But that's not the ultimate truth. You're not completely right. Because a wooden table is so much more than wood. And wood isn't its ultimate thing that it actually is.

So therefore, if that's not the final thing that it is, that's not what it's actually made out of. Then That isn't what it is. Right? That makes sense, right? If it's not what it's actually made out of, that's not what it is. So at different levels of understanding, there's different levels of reality.

So the first level reality is, Hey, you got one level, right? But your brain stopped. You figured, oh, it's a wooden table, I'm done. But it's also other things. Wood is biological. So it's a previously alive organism, which is now a table.

That's a different way of looking at it and it's wood. Now I can tap on the table. Knock on wood, literally, and say, Oh, this is a solid. Ah, here's the challenge. Wood is made out of molecules. molecules are constantly moving If it's moving, and things actually pass in between the molecules, and they do Hello, they do tables kind of a liquid.

It's kind of a liquid. Now we call it a solid because your hand won't go through it. And we say, well, that's the definition that that's a solid. If it were a liquid in your hand would go through it. That's a human distinction. But that's not a scientific distinction.

Basically, it's suspended molecules floating around. Yeah, it's a liquid. You know. Now, if I dig a little bit deeper, people will say, Well, no, it's not liquid. It's atoms. Atoms with electrons and protons and neutrons, you know, atoms, and you'll say, Oh, yeah, you're right, you know, at a different level of understanding.

It's it's atoms. So yeah, it's atoms. And a scientist will say, You know what's interesting? It's actually made of empty space. And you're like what? Yeah, that table is like 99.999% empty space.

Really? No, let me bang your head against it. I'll show you it's a solid once again. It's not mostly empty space, like your head. No, they're right. If you looked at the space between two atoms, it would be like 10 times the distance between the planet Earth and the Moon.

Proportionally, okay. Atoms are really far apart. I don't know how they ever become a solid. I can't wrap my head around it yet. I don't have that kind of wisdom. Now, if you asked another scientist, you'd say well, the scientists would say Well, yeah, very well and good.

Yeah, it's a lot of empty space. Yeah, there's some solid to it because there's atoms, atoms or you know, tiny particles of mass. You know, it's a, that's another solid substance, okay, quote unquote. But what is that made out of? And they'll say, Oh, it's made out of light. And then they'll say, Well, what is light made out of?

And they'll go, Oh, well, it's, you know, it's a certain frequency, it's a vibration. So therefore, the table is vibration. What? How can it be all these things? And yet, it is. So depending upon you how you look at it, you don't know what it is.

And the best scientists in the world don't know what a table is. They don't know the ultimate reality of what a stupid table is. And you know what the wisest of the scientists are going to say no matter how far you drill down. That's just the best our science has. What comes after, you know, vibrational, say, Oh, well, it's corks. And it's this sense that the best Scientists will say, we don't have the final answer.

And that is what, that's my final answer. We don't know ultimate reality, even when it comes to something as simple as a table. So, here's another way that people delude themselves. I'm going to give you the actual recipe for delusion. If you want to be deluded about something, here's how you do it. And if you do it and you follow the recipe, book, you'll always get it right.

One Step one, belief something to this is crucial. never checked to see if it's true. Three, it'll always seem true. Hey, you're diluted. I'm going to tell you is this is also the recipe for failure in pain, massive failure, and massive pain. Now, like I said, a lot of this is nearfall you know, good 80% of this was slammed in your brain between zero and five.

A lot of, you know, this rubbish shoved in between, you know, that age and 20. And it's never gotten any better sense. And you didn't even know how to deprogram and reprogram yourself. You didn't know how to analyze things. The average American and like the 99 percentile hasn't even had one class on critical thinking. We don't teach people how to think in this country.

We physically don't want them to think it would screw up the country. So believe something, don't check to see if it's true. It'll always seem true. This is why the dumber somebody is, the more sure they are. Isn't that strange? The dumber somebody is the more sure they are.

Why? Because dumb people believe things easily. They believe virtually anything they hear that strikes them on a guttural level on a gut instinct level is true. They never checked to see if it's true that would take valuable time. You know, they got important things to do. They got to read People Magazine, keep up with the Kardashians, things like this.

And it will always seem true. Why? Because they will support it. That's the next part that we're going to talk about. And I don't want you to think that only dumb people do this, the smartest, most genius people you can ever think of do this in all kinds of areas of their life. over and over and over again.

You know, you know the difference between a genius and an idiot would be the genius 99.8% of everything they believe, would be false. In the idiot, it would be you know, 99.99 and the average person would be 99.9. You know, there's not much difference. That's the first realization that we're all kind of trapped in this together. So, I'm going to teach you a brand new psychological concept. It's called confirmation bias.

So remember a recipe, take it an idea. And then don't check to see if it's true or not. What we do another version of that, we, we scan the environment, and we go out there. And once we have a belief, we decide we want to prove it's true. So here's how we do it. We confirm it.

And here's how we do it. We scan the environment. And in the environment, there's certain things that are telling us, hey, this belief is true. And there's certain things they're telling us. These beliefs are false. So instead of being intelligent, and saying, what is the ultimate truth?

And let's look at the things that say it's true. And let's look at the things that say it's false. And just very rationally look at it. We think we do that, but we don't. We do confirmation bias bias means I'm biased Okay, I want something a certain way and damaged, it's going to be like that if I have to shove round peg and square hole and hit it with a sledgehammer. That's what we do with confirmation bias.

So when we have this wonderful belief that we're in love with, we scan the environment to find the things that support it that say it's true, and we gather all those. Then we disregard, eliminate or discredit everything that says they're false. And boom. We have the beautiful feeling of being right. And security and safety in our world, that we have something we can depend on. I'm telling you, man, you are living in an illusion.

This ladder will not hold you up. We've got to escape this. We Gotta be able to look at it go back to what we originally talked about. Look at everything that's true. Look at everything that's false. Bring them together and find ultimate truth.

Not my truth, not your truth. When all falsehoods are removed, what's left? That is the ultimate truth. That's what we want to get to. I'm gonna remind you again, a lie. No matter how much you love it is not true.

I love that little graphic there. Just love Snoopy is the bomb. So, great section. Here's some of our favorite lies. You might recognize some of these. I'm not fat.

I'm big boned. I love all the things they do now. Women aren't fat anymore. They're curvy. They're thick. These are just variations of the word fat.

This is really good. Pr This is not changing anything. You're not big. boned. I love this one when I'm working with people that are fat. Oh, I'm big boned.

Do you know your skeletal structure weighs about 14 pounds if you're an adult male, that's it. But you're 140 pounds overweight. So I'm going to say you have a really fat, big bones skeleton and I'm going to say you weigh half again, as much as a normal human being. I'm going to I'm going to take off seven pounds for the bones. Okay, so you're 100 pounds overweight. I'm going to subtract your big ass bones.

Whole seven pounds. I'm giving you the whole thing. seven pounds. You're still 93 pounds overweight. Can we agree on that? Yeah, these are lies, lies and misconceptions.

Do not stand up well, under the light of examination. They call this reality therapy. When you bring reality in and you don't let them talk about anything that is An actual verifiable reality, the illusions dissolve. That's all reality therapy is. That's Dr. Phil. Well, I'm having a horrible relationship with my wife because, you know, I come home and we have the same argument over and over and over again.

Dr. Phil's like, Jerry consider doing a different. Oh, I tried everything. You tried everything that would fill the whole Library of Congress. 10 times over. You tried everything. Tell me everything that you try and it list off like seven things.

Do you think there's more than seven ways to handle another human being? Yeah, maybe? Yeah. There's almost an infinite number. So you haven't tried everything. We just know the seven things that you tried didn't work.

See, that's reality therapy. I'll bet there's several people in your wife's life, who have a better relationship with her than you do. Is that true? Yeah, you might want to study how they do it and duplicate that system. That's reality therapy. Dr. Phil is sitting on the outside using one of the oldest therapies in the book reality therapy, simply stating what it is because he doesn't have the lies.

He doesn't have the confirmation bias. He doesn't have to make himself okay with his current situation because he's not in it. That's the biggest benefit you have. When you go to a therapist. They see it from the outside, they do not have your illusions. And that's why they can see the problem.

Because they don't have to look through an illusion to see it. That's why therapists can't solve their own damn problems. They got to go to somebody else that can see through their illusions don't think therapists are any better. They're a little better trained. But they don't necessarily see things better. At least most of them right.

Okay, let's let's drive on. I just want to give that as a good solid example. We got plenty of them here. Things will get better next year. Who the hell told you that? Why do you believe them?

We should hunt that guy down and beat him this guy's a liar. We don't know that things are gonna get better next year that's a horrible lie I couldn't help myself What are you insane you couldn't help yourself? This This is terrible Of course you can help yourself course you can do better as the biggest lie there is a little can hurt. You know little What? Little cocaine a little tattoo. I don't know what you're talking about a little bit can't hurt.

Apparently it can hurt or you wouldn't have to come up with stuff like a little can hurt you and they say well, I just smoke every once in a while a little can hurt. I just drink a little like a snort local candidates do a little heroin you know, just beat my wife a little. These are all things that can really hurt. A little can't hurt is the defense against something where a little actually can hurt. So read it backwards. I'm going to quit plank soon.

Soon, is later. Now is the only time there is no later there is no soon. Therefore, you're not going to quit ever. I could say that carte blanche whenever whenever somebody says oh, I'm going to quit doing this or I'm going to make this change. I could say I'll bet good money you're going to fail. You know why?

Because only about 10% of them will ever try and add that 10% only about 2% or say 20% of the 10%. Let's go like that will ever give it a full try. And therefore, no more than 2% out of 100 will ever actually do it and succeed. Now fully shorted mental retardation, Alzheimer's, dementia, closed head injury, some kind of industrial accident, pretty much 99 out of 100 people could have done it 2% success See why they lie to themselves. Sorry, I got stuck in traffic. We used to laugh about this when I was teaching at university said, hey, we've got five students and they're late.

I'm gonna put some of the top excuses on the board. And you pick the one you think they're going to give and write down a piece of paper. If you get it right, you hold it up, and then we all clap for you. It's gonna be awesome. I'm gonna give it away a little bit, but you get to pick which one you want but the a number one ally is going to be I was stuck in traffic. So just keep that in mind.

Photos can be faked. Another good lie. I used to always use the joke you know the camera always adds like 10 pounds. I think when they took my driver's license, they had like three of them pointed at me. Didn't know. Why didn't you know it's your job to know if you didn't No.

Is this the first time this has happened to you? Are you new? These are all lies. They're great lies. I haven't had my coffee yet. Therefore I get to be a complete jerk to you.

I get to be mean I get to be rude I get to be distance focused. Everything else I haven't had my coffee yet. Coffee has nothing to do with nothing, but it's a favorite lie. People love this one. So, a little bit more about confirmation bias. Simply put, we block any information which does not match our current belief system our current BS.

When we find information which supports our current belief system, we use it to support our misconceptions and biases. And remember, we're also going to use it to block out anything that doesn't support our biases. So, confirmation bias is the leading reason one of the leading reasons why we do not grow confirmation bias I literally blocks new ideas in there for growth. If I believe in a lie, and I'm blocking out the truth, I can't grow. And I can't disillusion myself. I can't, I can't lighten my load.

I can't become enlightened. Because I believe the lie. I want you to love life. I want you to love your friends. I want you to love yourself. I want you to love the very experience of life and suck all the juice out of it.

But you can't do that. When you're surrounding yourself with lies. Don't let your ego get in your way and make you feel bad. We feel bad when we're wrong. I do weird thing. I love it when I'm wrong.

I want to be wrong as often as humanly possible. You know why? I don't find out. I don't find I don't feel that finding out I'm wrong is a bad thing. Why? Because once I find out out that I'm doing something wrong, or believing something wrong, I can get rid of it.

I'll never pass it on. I'll feel smarter for having figured it out, you know, or being told it, I'll have new information. I know that from here forward, my life will go better because I'm working on accurate information. Okay? And I can now share this accurate information with other people. I'll actually feel bad, not about finding out I was wrong.

But defending the wrong idea for so long. That's the only thing you should feel bad about. You don't have to feel bad about that. Why? You can't do better until you know better. So a lot of things you didn't know were lies you very beautifully with a good kind, loving heart, spread those things out to other people thinking you're helping them, you know, and they were wrong.

I do this as a teacher sometimes. You know, I hope I don't look back on this training 10 years from now and say, oh, man, I found five things in there that were wrong. darnit 12,000 people took that training. But over my time in teaching, and I've been teaching for about a dozen years now, longer if you consider other things, but I will find every once in a while that a belief of mine that I've been talking about for years was wrong, and I gotta correct myself. And I love to find those things out. So, know that finding out that you're lying to yourself or something was wrong.

That is freedom. That is power. That is growth, not just new information. The most important information is not new information. Sounds strange because I'm teaching a class right now, right? It's not new information.

It's getting rid of old lies. That'll make the biggest difference in your life. Not new information. We've got plenty of information we can be very simple, very a knowledgeable people. If we're free from our lives, we live our lives with genius. I leave you with that thought and I'll see you in the next section.