Welcome back. In this section, we're literally going to talk about how you were created. That's pretty exciting, right? Here it is. We were a product of our history, we are mostly the sum of our experiences. Now most people say, Oh, I know that that's kind of common knowledge.

Well, you know, but you don't know it. A lot of people attributed this to Freud. But it actually goes way back to the Greeks. And if you look on the other side of the pond over in Asia, they had this literally thousands of years ago. So this is old information, and you should know it. But what we're going to talk about is something entirely different of how you were actually programmed as you were raised.

So let's jump right in. I'm going to teach you a rare psychological concept. This is really hard to find even in the psychological literature. I was lucky to run across it. It's something called the imprint period. The imprint period is it time that you were programmed.

And this is where you got 80% of your personality. Somewhere between the ages of zero and five and 780 percent of your personality is locked in. You're a young kid. Here's the challenge. At this age, your brain develops over time you've ever studied even had like one psychology course they probably taught you about Piaget. Piaget was a French psychologist, scientist who was studying young children, especially his own children.

He was fascinated by him. He tried to figure out what they could and could not do at different stages in their life. And he found that there was multiple stages. At one stage you could you couldn't do something at the next stage you did think of it this way. They use like the object permanency test. I hold a pin little kid sees it.

I put it behind my back. It disappeared. bag. I'm the best magician ever. I pull it out in front of me. It reappears I put it behind my back, it disappears.

They literally think it's gone. You're so later kids, a little older brain development has come along. I put, I show them the pin. They're like, great. I think I know this trick. They put it, you put it behind their back.

And the kids like, you just hide that behind your back. Come on. We know things don't disappear. We know things are permanent object permanency. So you have a lot of stages like this. And I'll teach you an interesting psychological fact, your brain isn't fully formed until you're 21 years old.

And the last thing to come in is the higher end executive functioning, which is basically critical thinking and good solid planning and decision making. So good thing they raised the drinking age to 21. So 80% of your personality is formed between the ages of zero and somewhere between five and seven depending on who you like in the literature and think of it this way If 80% of your personality is locked in at this age, what's the chances that the other remaining 20% is significantly significantly influenced by the initial 80%? That it's what based on. So some people in the literature will say the imprint period really affects a minimum of 80%. And it's more like 9095 98% of your personality is developed during this time.

Some of it just has to wait a little bit longer to develop, but it's based on what the original core personality so the imprint period, this is when most of your values and beliefs are programmed into you. This is the systems by which you're going to think and you're going to perceive the world. Here's the challenge. When you're this young, you may ask a lot of questions you know, as you become verbal obviously But you do not question the answers. Steve Martin used to have a funny joke he tell from the stage. He says, Hey, I got a great joke for you to play on a five year old.

He says, here's what you do. You hold up a pin and you say the kid, banana, banana, banana. Then a couple years later when the kid goes to school, it's gonna be shaking his pen will be like damn thing doesn't work. You know, he'll shout out to the class will be like, anybody have an extra banana? I can use a banana. Anybody a banana.

That's a funny joke. But not if you're that kid. You believe everything you're told because again, you do not discriminate. That's a later psychological function that you physically do not have in your brain yet. You are plug in play. You take commands from the outside world.

Everything you see you literally believe everything you hear gospel as if it came from me to God to you, you are simply being program. This is a dangerous time and I'm going to tell you why. It's a dangerous time because here's who's who is influencing your child, or looking back retro actively who influenced you. So, who impacts us during the imprint period? First and foremost, major influence our parents. Now, I think most parents are very kind and they're loving and they want the best for their kids.

But they're also experimenting on their children as they go. Most parents and you know, I go over this in my parenting class. They do what's called nothing to parenting, on the job training. They're going to learn as they go along. You know, my joke in my family because I'm the baby. I have four older sisters, is that we had four rough drafts before the final masterpiece.

Now I laugh at that, but my sisters don't. So, but that's true. Okay? My parents experimented on child number one, child number two, child number three, child number four, guess what, if you practice something, you get what you get good at it. So they got better and better as they went. It's a little less fortunate if you're the first, second, third or fourth child best if you're the fifth, boom, by time you get really good at parenting, what you're out of business.

Not a great way to do it. And again, most people do nothing to it parenting, what they do is they say to themselves, I am awesome. Naturally, you probably instinctively knew that about me. I'm awesome. I'm an awesome human being. That's what everybody says to themselves.

But I had these little flaws. And if my parents had done these five things, you know, where I didn't have these traumas in my life, these these things didn't happen to me if I can just eliminate these couple of bad things and these you know, five things that My parents did wrong, IV superduper double awesome. If that's if that's a real thing. So let's say it is. So what do they do? They raise their kids exactly the way they were raised, except they alter those five things.

And they don't realize that their parents said the same thing. And their parents before them and their parents before them. I used to do a survey my parenting classes, I would say, you know, or when I was doing therapy with people, I'd say, Okay, let's go over your list of parenting skills, just so I'm kind of up to date with what you have what you don't have. So I won't, you know, share any information that you might already have, because that would be a waste of our time. Remember, I'm very expensive. So I would say okay, how many people in here have a bachelor's, master's or doctorate in parenting or family therapy?

Anybody? No. No hands. Okay. So, anybody taking a maybe a seven day workshop or something like that? Yeah.

If you had one class in a class, anybody with class, almost no hands go up. Alright? check in again. anybody read a book on parenting? virtually no hands go up in this might be in a room of 300 people at a seminar. So far three hands have gone up.

Then I say well, maybe Listen, maybe let's do a cassette tape when you're driving around your car. Anybody? Anybody? Bueller, Bueller? Little or no hands going up. Well, maybe you're sitting around the podiatrist office, you picked up a pamphlet, flip through a magazine, you know, something, almost no hands going up.

Think of it this way for me to go into your home. And to give you a little bit of advice about your child. I got to get a Bachelor's which is four years. I got to get a Master's which is another four years now. It's now eight years in. I got to do a two year internship.

And now I'm brandy knew I probably stink at it, but I got 10 years into this, and I can give you one piece of advice about your job. That's how complex it is. But parents go out and say, oh, there's nothing to it. I'm just gonna, you know, do it like my parents did. And I remember exactly how they did it. And I'm not going to make these five mistakes that they made, and my kids are gonna be super double awesome.

It's simple, because it's me, and I'm a damn genius. That's not how it works. That is not how it works. That's like trying to say well, I'm a heart surgeon and I can go ahead and I can do surgery on anybody including myself. Because you know, I've seen every episode of Grey's Anatomy doesn't work like that. So these are the first people that are imprinting either you looking back retroactively or your child.

Let's see who the next influences. Teachers. Now I think teachers try to do a good job, but they got 20 to 30 kids coming at them out of whack in some teachers. Say No, it's not 30. Paul, it's 35 or 40 depends on how large the classroom is right? But they can care about a child as much as they want, but they will never care about that child like you do.

And if you had 30 kids, I guarantee your attention, your focus, your caring would be one 30th of what it would be, if you had one child, it simply has to be divided. Now, these teachers may not believe the way that you believe, they may not think, the way you think. They may not be instilling the values that you want your child to have. Or they may be instilling values you want your child not to have major, major influence. next major influence the media, most kids, their babysitter is the TV and the media is only job is it as one sole purpose and that's to sell you things. cluding the government, their job is to sell you a bunch of BS their belief system, so that you take it on and become a good little drone and go out there and obey.

That's what you're supposed to do. So you're getting programmed in the media, all the time. corporations and the government control all the media, it's always one or the other. This is not a good source of morals and values, or even critical thinking. It actually tries to discourage critical thinking. Here's your other other major source of influence.

You have two major sources, parents, and then France. Here's the challenge. Unfortunately, these kids are between the age of zero and somewhere between five and seven. They're also young and clueless. For a good portion that time they're still pooping their pants. These are not the People I would go to, to get good life advice.

This is the blind leading the blind, this is going to go horribly, horribly wrong. It's not their fault. Now, Einstein said, You can't solve a problem at the level of thinking that created it. What I take that to mean, it's just one way to take it. There's multiple ways to take it. But one way that I take it, you can take it take it for me, is that if I'm five years old, and I've got a five year old bulk of experience, you know, store of experience, and you're a five year old and you've got a five year old store of experience, you'll have a little bit different experiences that may say might be able to teach me a few things.

But basically, I'm at a five year old level, you're at a five year old level. To go higher. I really need something that's 6789 could be 90, but I need them to be above a five year old level. Fortunately, we tend to hang out with kids that plus or minus a year or two are our age. That's how we lose. And we don't get any smarter as we get older.

Look at your high school kids, they're all trying to figure out dating. And who are they asking? Not mom and dad who had like, you know, 10 years of dating experience or 20 in this day and age, right? And are you know, 2030 years older than them? They're asking their other clueless friend that's been dating for about six months or six days or six minutes, or hasn't even dated yet. Just lies about it.

There says, you know, Hey, I'll give you some advice even though I have zero experience. So, we tend to do this throughout our lives. Rarely do we seek out experts and rarely do we seek out our elders. Now, in this imprint, period, remember you're being programmed your legacy Computer you have a hard drive. So I'm going to teach you a computer term, it's called Gago, it's pronounced Gago gi, geo garbage in, garbage out. data in is the data that comes out.

So, whatever is put in, that's what's gonna come back out. I tell people, don't read crap. Don't watch crap. Don't listen to crap. You know why? Because that's what's going in.

And eventually, if enough crap goes in, you're going to be what? That's right, ladies and gentlemen, you're going to be full of crap. You haven't got time for the good stuff, the good information, at least skip the crap. So mental programming, this is a great old psychology phrase, born to succeed, but programmed to fail. So I want to tell you something. This isn't the let you off the hook.

Well, it is a little bit but also to empower you. You were programmed one way so you can be reprogrammed. Another we're going to talk about that later. But I want you to know that a lot of the things that you did in life, most of the things that you've done, at least up until now, right, because we're going to teach you a little bit better, was based on programming, you were running a program, you in a lot of ways, we're not free to be any other way. You were the accumulation of your programming of your experiences. And you just ran that program.

Matter of fact, there was a guy named Skinner, we talked about him earlier in the first section, and said, you know, if I can control the pain and pleasure, I can control the outcomes. Well, if I can control the programming, how you think your beliefs, your philosophies, I can also control you, and life has done it to you at a point where you were helpless to defend against it, where the bulk of your personality was already locked in. If you were raised to be a thief, and then you steal something, I wouldn't say you were a thief. I'd say you were a good product of your training. Like every Body, everybody is a perfect product of their training. And just like Einstein said, You can't exceed your current level of thinking.

You cannot break free of or exceed your programming until you've been trained how to deprogram yourself and how to reprogram yourself. I'm going to show you how to do that later in this program. So you'll want to go all the way through this training. Don't miss that. You will miss the only thing in life that will set you free. I'm gonna repeat it.

If you miss that. It's like the last section of the training or very close to it if I remember correctly, you will be stuck and you will not be able to change