So now let's talk about how you can get over being shy socially. So I would like to share with you my five best advice. The first thing I would like to share with you here is about the vision that you have for yourself. So why do you want to have new friends? Is it to find a boyfriend or girlfriend? is it to have amazing friendships?

Why do you want to have new friends? And they would like you to take the time to just think about that, to visualize why you won't have what why you want to have great friends. Why? Because next time that you will be in a social situation, and that you will have fear you will you will have this fear for approaching people. You want to be at ease. I would like you to think about the vision that you want, so that it can fuel you and he that he can give you motivation to approach people.

So right now I encourage you take a piece of paper and a pen and write down Why do you want to have better social skills. And why do you want to have better friends? The second advice to get over being shy socially, is about focusing on the things that you have already accomplished socially. Most people who are shy, they tend to only focus on the things that they did wrong in social situations. And they focus on that over and over again. And it destroys their self confidence, and then they become shy.

What I encourage you to do is to make a list of at least 10 things that you did well, socially, of likely to start focusing on your accomplishments, focus on the things that you did well, let's say that you want to make new friends at a new ethnic networking events or in a bar. Just think about everything that you did well, in a bar environments, think about everything that you did well in a networking environment, and really Leave the experiences and show your brain give you brain proof that you were already able to do great things in that environment. And if you were able to do great things in that environment, and you show your brain that you were able to do it over and over again, you will become more confident, and you will be less shy. The third advice I would like to share you here is to focus on what you can gain if you approach people, because most people will always focus on everything they can lose from a social interaction.

They can say, this person can reject me, this person can say that I'm a loser, this person can say can say that I'm not good enough. And if they focus on everything that could go wrong, they won't take action. But if instead, you actually you ask yourself this question, what are the benefits of approaching people? What are the benefits of having your friends? Well, how would my life improve if I get employed Friends, how we might actually prove if I have the boyfriend or girlfriend that I really want and that I really deserve. So try to think in terms of benefits.

And you can do that before approaching someone or eat before going to a social place. Just in your car, for example, in diverse, your dress right down the list of everything that you can gain. If you approach people tonight, and write down how it can improve your life. The first advice would be about moving. And I know that most people say yes, but give me the best advice. Yes, this is the best advice when you're in a social place.

And you are shy. Start moving, start walking to the bar, go to this table here. Move with your friends because if you are here, it's really difficult for you to move and to approach someone. But if you're already moving, it's easier to just continue You move in and go to the direction of someone. So just move a lot. For example, if I am in a bar in the club, I'm always going to the bar going to a chair.

And then I'm going to say hi, I'm always moving because I'm showing my brain that I can move really quickly. And I can go and meet someone. Now I'm not saying to just stand in one place and do it like that and move. I'm not saying that because you don't want to show that you are nervous. Just stand still. And you just become confident and comfortable.

And then sometimes you go to the bar, so you walk to the bar, and then you come back and then you go to another place, but movement will really help you to take action. The fifth advice would be about lowering the criteria for social success. Because if you are shy, it's because because maybe the criteria of success is too high. You say okay, today I have to go to this event. And I have to meet the perfect woman or the perfect man. Today, I have to go to this networking event and have to find 10 clients.

Instead, what I encourage you to do is to really lower the criteria for the success. It means that if you go to a bar, your, your criteria for success is just to approach one person, try to make it's really low so that you can reach it. And then when you have reached it, it's easier for you and you say, oh, but I'm actually enjoying being here. Maybe I would approach other people. If you go to a networking event. And you see that your goal is to approach at least one person, you go you approach that person, and then you say, I'm enjoying it.

Why not approaching more people here? Hey, how are you? My name is Alan, and your approach with the people and you will be less stressed, more relaxed and less shy. So that was it. Here are the five advice so that you can really get over being shy socially. Practice that go out tonight, and practice at least one Have the five advice and see how it goes for you.

And you will see later in this course, I will show you exactly how you can approach people what to say. So that when you will go out today or tomorrow or even right now, you will know how to approach people and how to make new friends.