How to meet new people if you are alone. So I had a lot of experience with that, because I went to Sydney and to Brazil to live there. So I would arrive to a new city. And then I had to make new friends because I knew no one. So first, I would like to say that it can be a little bit scary first, but then it's also really great because you can learn more about yourself, you can really do what you want. If you want to leave the venue, you can leave the venue, if you want to go to another place, you can do whatever you want, you are free, because you are by yourself, you know, you don't have friends that you have to convince to go to other places.

And you can also you know, they've locked this wheel and this courage to just approaching people. And you see that if you do that over and over again, if you go out alone, then it will be really easier for you to go out with friends. So I did that a lot of times and I would like to share with you my best techniques on how you can deal With that, so first, I encourage you to arrive a little bit early, if you go to a class, or if you go to a bar to a networking event dressed a little bit early, why? Because that people who will be there also early. So for example, if you go to drama classes or to dancing classes, and that's how I did in in Brazil, so I was I attended, draw dancing classes, and they will arrive half an hour before.

And I will just sit there and wait. And I would wait and we'll be relaxed, and then maybe one person would show up. And then we'll just say, Hey, my name is Alan, are you attending drama classes? Also? The person who say yes and say, Hey, then I started talking to this person. You know, if you are alone, it has to be relaxing, be cool with that.

So if you have drama classes, you go to a gym. If you do something that you know that you could arrive a little bit early, and you could still meet people in a quiet environment, too. That you can also arrive a little bit early in a bar or in a club, if you would want to, for example, meet a boyfriend or girlfriend or just meet new friends, you can just go to a bar, I would say at the opening, when the bar opens, and you will just be there and there will be it will be really quiet. So it's really great to talk to people. And you can approach someone and you can just say, Hey, my name is Alan, and then you introduce yourself. We'll see later in the course how you can talk to people, but dress I'd like to give you the idea that arriving before in early is a really great now when you arrive in a place and you are alone.

Is it weird or not? It all depends on how you frame it. What I would say to people is that I just arrived to the city and I wanted to make new friends. So I don't know anyone here I just go out. I just went out to make new friends. So this is great if you really go to a new city.

So for example, if it's not a new city, you can approach people. And then you can just say that you are waiting for your friends and they are late. Why am I saying that? I'm not necessarily saying that I just went out alone on a Saturday night. Because most people will think that it's weird, because they will say in their head, why is this person here going out alone on a Saturday night? And the main thing that you have something weird or wrong going on, because they're not dunno, people around you.

But if you approach them and you tell them that it's a new CD to you, and you don't know anyone that can then understand why you are alone. But if it's not a new CD to you, and you really don't know anyone, I would like you to give a reason of why you are low. So I would approach people going on, say, Hey, my name is Alan, I just wanted to say hi, because you look friendly, can I stay with you for five minutes, I'm just waiting for my friends. And even if my friends are not coming, then I would just say that they can sell or they did something else. It's not lying. It's just framing that you are not weird.

You can also say that your friends are over there for for example, if it's a big club, or big bar, just say that your friends are over there, and then at that you will meet them later. And then you can just say, Oh, they left. It's all about giving a reason. And if you don't believe me, just go out alone. And just say on a Saturday night that you went out alone, to, for example, develop better social skills, it's may come across as weird. So like to give you the best tools here.

Also, my advice would be to if you arrive early, for example, in a bar or in a club approach People started interacting with them. And then also use your intuition to see to see if this person is weird or not. So my example and that happened to me in Brazil many times. So I would arrive early in a bar in a club. And there was one person here, one person he alone. So I went, and I talked to them.

And I had no one to talk to. So I stayed with them. And then later in the night, two hours later, I was approaching a group of people, and they were really interesting. And then they just got to say, Hey, are you his friend? And they were pointing to the guy that was alone that earlier I was talking to, and I said, Yes, sir. Oh, he's so weird.

You are his friend, and they left and it happened to me many times. So with that, I would like to say be careful who you hang out with. If you are alone. Just see the person is weird or not of the person is not Because most of the time that you will be meeting people who are alone in a social place, I would say in the bar or in the club, it's because maybe there's something going on. So it's not to judge here. It's just reality.

So I would like you to, I would like to give you the best social skills, so do it. Okay. Go out alone, practice. And don't tell that you are alone because you don't have any friends. You could also approach new people and say that you want to make new friends. That's also a great option.

But don't just say that you are alone on a Saturday night and don't explain why because it can be weird.