So how can you connect with people, it's all about finding commonalities. If you think about the people that you hang out with, it's because that you have something in common. Maybe it's work, maybe it's an activity that you do together, maybe you play sports, maybe you go to the gym together, you have something that you have in common. So the idea is when you start talking to someone, you can start looking for commonalities. And if you find commonalities, and you start talking about them, you will be able to connect with them. And then you can transform these people into friends.

So, the first way to find commonality is to think about the activity that you are doing together. Let's say that you are at the gym. You can talk about the gym and you know that the person will be interested in health foods in for example, exercises. So you see that these are all the things that you have in common with the other person and that you can start talking and bonding and creating commonality if you're at a networking event, and if the company events, you can you have something in common which is you work in the same place. So you can start talking to the person and you have something in common. If you meet someone when you are playing tennis or in drama classes, you have this activity together, and then you should talk about this activity, you will start connecting with this person.

The other way to connect with people is to find communities by asking questions. For example, if you ask questions about the passion, the interest, the projects, and you also have the same passion or the same interest, you will have a commonality and then you should talk about that you will be able to bond with them. So I always ask this kind of question, which is to find the passions, their interests, and I do that because if I can find a commonality with them, I know it's something on something that do really like, because if I have a commonality on something that they really love doing, I have an amazing commonality with them. So it will be a little bit more powerful than just the normal commonality. That's why I always try to find these commonalities based on positive things such as in what are your interests, your passions, exciting projects, a vacation.

And then if I also went, for example, to Barcelona, and the person went to Barcelona, we can talk about that and we have a commonality, the more commonality you have, and the stronger the commonalities are, the more you will connect with someone. So make the habit of when you're interacting with people. You go, yes, it's to feel great to ask questions and to lead the interaction, but it's also to find commonalities. So try to find commonalities by asking questions. The more time you spend with the person, the more you will have chances of finding commonalities. Also, If you don't find commonalities, what can you do?

You can use what I call indirect commonalities, it means that you can talk about someone who has the same passion, same interest as them. Let's say that for example, they they say that they want to go to Barcelona, you don't know where Barcelona is, you have never been to Barcelona, what do you do? You can say that you have a friend that went to Barcelona, and he enjoyed the beach, and it was really great place so that you have a commonality, which is in direct commonality through you, and your and your other friend and the other person. So you can talk about all the people that you know, that has the same commonality as as them all who do the same thing as the other person. It's not as strong as having a direct commonality, but it's something that can also work really well.