Now let's talk about this fear of approaching people. So first, I would like to say that it's a fear that everyone has. Most people say, Oh, and I can't approach someone, but other people can. No everyone has that. Even people who already have amazing social skills, they have this fear for approaching, but they have learned how to deal with that. So my first advice I would like to give you here is, the more important you think the fear is, the more impact it will have over you.

Let's say that you think that this fear is there and something that prevents you from interacting with people try to fit another way. Try to see that these fears as a challenge to just show how strong you are. Change the perception about this fear and don't take it seriously. I would like you to really see this fear Something light and funny, the more dramatic you you think it is, the more important you think it is, the more it will stop you. So for example, with my fear of approaching, I just imagine that it's something really fun that I have, and I will always have it. I know that when I am in a bar and I am interacting with people, I know that my fear for protein will be there.

And I will just say, okay, it's just something that is here to challenge me to approach people. It's just something that is here to test me to challenge me. And it will really help me if you just change your mindset. The other advice I would like to give you is to really focus on on what you can gain from the interactions. Because most people focus on everything they can lose. They say I don't want to approach because I don't want to be rejected.

I don't want people to see that. I am a loser. I don't want to appear bad in front of my friends and they focus on all the bad things that can happen. instead focus on the positive. Let's say that on the opposite of the road, there is a house on fire. And I say that there is $5 inside, would you try to get it?

And when I asked this question in my conferences, most people say no, I won't try. And now if I say there is a briefcase with 1 million doors inside, would you try to get it? And there are more people who are willing to try to get it. What do you do in the head? They say, what is the benefit? And what is the cost?

The benefit of 1 million and the cost of maybe being birds? What is it? They say, okay, for $5? No, I don't want it but maybe for 1 million, it's worth doing that. And it's the same thing with your brain. You want to associate as much as much pleasure and benefits as you can to an action.

It means that you want to approach someone as to shape as much pleasure that you can, by asking this question, what can you gain from this interaction, if you approach maybe you can have a new boyfriend girlfriend, you can make the other person have a great time, you can find a new client, you can, and you write down everything that you can gain from interaction, it will really help you. The only advice is to go with a friend. Because if you approach other people by yourself, it will be more difficult than if you go with a friend and you are with with him or with her. And you just approach people. Because you know, like, if, if you run out of things to say, then you have your friend that is there and that can help you. It's easier.

It's fun. I would say it's even better to go and approach with a friend. So do you have a friend that could come with you to networking events, or to the social places that you want and interact with people. You don't have to do that alone. You can do that with someone and it's So the other advice that you can also start talking to people to warm up. Because if you spend, for example, eight hours in front of a computer without talking to people, and then you go out, you won't be really excited to talk to people because you are in this mood of undress working for the computer.

So what I encourage you to do is to really start talking to people when you are at work. When you go to the place to the social place. You can call friends, you can do something that will make you that will make you start talking to people. The more you do that, during the day, the easier it will be for you to talk to new people, and the less fuel for approaching you will have