I would like to start with some general remarks on the dynamics of relationships. This elearning serious relationship skills offers a concrete and true to life approach to dealing with specific relationship issues. And to find better ways of dealing with each other. As is to be expected when dealing with relationship and partnership issues. They're part of a problematic relationship dynamic. You have to change yourself, if you have want to change something.

Of course it is helpful if the partner is putting in the same direction. But this is not absolutely necessary. Because if one changes his behavior, the other cannot keep his at least not for long. So it's about to you to improve your relationship. Partners in a love relationship are almost constantly under observation by the other. Therefore, in case of conflict, one partner can describe in great detail it's what the other one is doing and saying and also what the other one is not doing and desirable should do.

How the partner behaves is something you can see you are affected, you are angry or you're happy about it. To observe the other person, even to have a critical attitude to him or her is usually no problem. To observe oneself is naturally more difficult. Everybody talks about the partner being a mirror or holding up a mirror to you. When you stand upside, you are looking at another person that not directly yourself. In this respect relationships have a peculiarity that I caught observations as symmetry, describing one owns behavior sell impossible, with the same sharpness, clarity and intention to details as the rich applies to the behavior of the partner.

Observing oneself is certainly a challenge. The consequences of salvation are symmetries that each partner believes that the other partner is responsible for an application or difficult situation at least more than yourself. Therefore, it's up to the other to improve the situation. This expectation is understandable, but it ignores the simple fact. The fact that the behavior of partners is always mutually dependent on each other. What one partner does is ritual to what the other at least when it comes to ingrained behavior and that is what this series of courses is about.

One can define a relationship on a sober and profitable way. relationship is the story of two partners mutual reactions to each other. One of them says or does something, the other Rick St. With coaches one to react to which the other rigs etc. This reaction reactions begin in the first moment of getting to know each other. And as long as partners react to each other, they are in relationship with each other regardless of the quality or frictions. Maybe for lifetime.

If you are looking at long term relationships from this perspective, it becomes clear how unpredictable this material reactions are what the partner initially reacted to his joy. Maybe knowing how his partner will react to this noise, maybe surprised by it, and based on the reaction to this reaction, and so on. And so let's take a look at a graphic communication has a starting point. And from there on it can go in any direction. Depending on how one partner rates three other partner the results will be very different. This unpredictability of reactions is the reason why it is impossible to predict the duration or the course of a relationship.

And right there's basically a chance at every point to change the reaction the relationship is going to only in one case, can the populace reaction to each other and the cause of the relationship beat predicted quite accurately, in case that certain problematic reactions to each other have become a trench, and everyone reacts in his or her usual way. Relationship patterns creep in, when the the partner can come up with a different or better reaction, and everyone in the helplessness falls back in love and habitual behavior, then they direct stereotypically to each other, even if nothing good comes out of it, and the relationship may be damaged. In such cases, you can hear partners accusing each other as if you wouldn't do X, I wouldn't have to do I immediately that comes to response. I only do why because you do x or in this version, if you let y be I wanted to raise.

The truth is, if one's behavior become attuned to each other the reactions of the partners rock up each other. The more one does x, the more the other does. Why? For example, drama, the more one keep silent, the more resistant the accusations of the others become and the more he uses, the more closes his counterpart. The partners are then trapped in a spiral of mutual dependent reactions through which they find a way out. Each is first by the other to behave in a certain way.

However, the problematic relationship is by no means caused by the partner because everyone can react quite differently towards somebody else, for example, towards a friend. The problem is created by the unconscious cooperation of certain personality parts of post partners. So, it is their special relationship problem. One can define relationship problems based on such a reaction patterns, relationship problem exists, when partners reactions to each other follow a fixed pattern that you that produces unwanted results, it is then necessary to get out of this frictions according to the dynamics described above, problems are solved, when one partner changes his or a behavior from this moment on the other, the other direction no longer makes sense, he or her has to come up with something else, then the cards are shuffled from this very resonant rule for relationships can be formulated. It is as follows the behavior of the partner can also be influenced by changing one owns behavior.

This is how it stays. If you expect your partner to behave differently. You have to wait hold on one's own nose and change your own reaction in this E Learning Series when courage and provide support trusses, in each case related to the specific topics of the perspective course