When somebody is struck, or by strong or ridiculing accusation, this are based as explained in the beginning of the course, on observations, that accuser perceive something he does not like and wants to change the other person's behavior. Now, it is rare for an observation to be completely wrong and education to be based on major imputations. There's definitely something true to it, even if the accusation is not entirely true. The question with which the accusation can be used is what is true about it or how is the accusation true as soon as this true component is free, cognized one then admits it intends to partner to what extent is excused ation is true, then further communication is definitely more fruitful, then if the accusation is pounced or denied. Here's an example. The man is an emergency doctor, and often arrives late or not at all for an appointment.

The woman accuses him to breathe too tight, too, thanks to our next unleash. For the man, the accusation in this form is false. But something about the accusation is true. He reflects and answers the shooting it does usually stink on the filming your music which dish the shrimp about US English students it will soon consist of dish names as of any current set up When a Muslim 100 I think is Nisha dish in lunacy to a church peeps who can older than me cannot say that accusation is admitted and the ball is now in the field of the thrower. He can sing about the expectation and check whether they are realistic or whether he wants to change them or give them up. The woman says good, especially the two could also go further.

For example by the man asking should about hooves on snow faster nine to four you to kind of obsession of tissue. Communication will become fruitful through such an exchange. The two exercises presented here unfold the benefits beyond the pure exercise. One effect is a more relaxed handling of allegations. Those who do the exercises a few times will soon know Very rarely, the not actually wanting to make a reproach, but one to communicate a need that is related to current state, when one is thrown by reproaches the question what do we want to say by that come soon to mind, one knows that the partner wants to tell us something about himself and that he is in a state in which is not able to communicate directly. When couples notice that they are increasingly reproaching themselves, they can conclude that the need situation has been changed, or one or the other on both sides.

And that this change had not split noticed or taken into account. Accusations first become a kind of early warning system in the sense of we have been reproaching or serve small Lately, what's going on? Has something changed, have mine or you will need strange. In other words, the benefits of this exercises lie in this. They had to ensure that accusations are not taken to tragically in support those affected using them for their communication to improve the relationship for that. I wish you good luck.