I often find that communication is a big trigger of anxiety. So let's have a look about communication and about how we can improve it. So first of all, how do you communicate? Do you get nervous going out and meeting new people? Or even going out to a dinner party with people that you do know? Do you worry about what other people might think of you?

Or might think of the things that you've said? Do you worry about giving talks or lectures in front of a group? Or even talking on the telephone? Would you like to be able to speak with confidence? Would you be like to be able to begin conversations more easily? Let's have a look at what do you need to change to be able to enjoy comedy?

For more, and to be able to feel confident with your compensation. So for those people that worry about being boring and interesting, or having nothing to say, there's quite a lot of different techniques that we can use. And first of all, you might be surprised to learn that speakers practice their conversation techniques. They practice what they're going to say. And they have practice how they're going to say it. And they practice, practice, practice, practice until they have it down to a tee.

And most people that give talks in groups are very nervous or have been nervous when they first began. So practicing is a really good way for you to start overcoming your nervousness about talking to people, whether it's people that you know, or people that you don't know. We can practice with our questions. How are we going to start a conversation? If we have two or three questions that are really good at starting the conversation, then you're halfway there. We can practice leading the conversation.

So actually keep asking questions about the other person. Because that way, you don't have to talk about yourself. I know that when my daughter was going for interviews, and she was asking me how she could improve her interview technique. My remark was, oh, that's easy. Just get them talking about themselves because people love to talk about themselves. And if you can talk about themselves, they usually think that they got Really, really well with you, and that you have a lot in common.

So just to practice asking the questions, or what do you enjoy doing about that? What do you like about that? How often you do it? Where did you go last time and just keep the conversation focused on the other person. It really helps to give you confidence. But it really helps to make the other person feel good about themselves because they are suddenly very interesting and somebody is really interested in what they have got to say.

So the next thing you need to do is visualize yourself being engaging. Visualize yourself, making people laugh, visualize yourself being interesting, and not at all boring. And in fact, everybody wants to hear what what you've got to say. So for them People who get nervous before a conversation starts. So just go into a dinner party. Just go into a social event.

Practice, practice, practice. And make sure that you have something interesting to talk about. What is your hobby? And how you can can you make it interesting for other people? So, I always find that actually, the topic of the conversation is only half of the remedy hear how you speak, is the other half. So if you can speak with passion, enthusiasm, and really inspire people about what you're doing, this person is going to be really interested in what you're going to say.

So whether you want to talk about animals car skiing, work, family Whatever it is, talk about it as if it's the most exciting thing that you ever heard in your life and your enthusiasm will make sure that you are the most inspiring person in the room. Practice, practice asking questions. Practice talking about yourself, practice talking about your hobby, practice being enthusiastic and always talk while smiling. If you smile, the other person will smile and they'll enjoy your compensation a whole lot more than if you are not smiling. Now I'm also going to put in here as well. In our homeopathic section, we have a whole set of remedies for anticipatory anxiety.

So if you are a person that is getting into the car and really worrying about what you're going to have to do, then you need to check this out because there are little remedies that will really help this anxiety disperse so that you're able to get on with whatever it is you need to be doing. So for some people, they worry about what's going to come out of their mouth. So do you forget the words? Do you forget what you were saying? Do you say the wrong thing? Do you stutter and stammer?

Now this is very close to my heart, because I am always forgetting the words. I often leave a gap because I really can't think of the word that I wanted to put in there. And my little strategy at the moment is I just leave a gap and then continue if I haven't thought of the right word, as if it wasn't a problem in the first place. So We all have to develop our little strategies. And we won't become confident doing this until we've practice quite a lot. And in fact, doing little videos, such as this might actually help you practice getting your words out in the right order.

But the main thing to remember is that we all forget what we were saying. We all have a blank. And quite often, we say the wrong thing. But you know what? People quite like us being human. And to accept that we've made a mistake.

Move on, have a laugh, is really not going to do you any any problems at all. Can you see yourself with an abundance of confidence? Can you visualize yourself being engaged This is another way to practice. Whenever you're doing anything at home. If you have a fear, or you're anxious about certain things, you need to be visualizing yourself with that confidence and achieving what it is that you are nervous about. And it's all in your mind.

But by seeing it, you're halfway there. So whenever you speak, speak with enthusiasm, energy, and be full of vitality. I love this photo. She's just obviously buying glasses and trying them but look at the enthusiasts. Now, we can't tell here, who's the client and who's the salesperson, but they're both having fun, they're both engaging. That's a great photo and a great thing for you to read.

Lies that actually you can be practicing whilst buying your glasses, while spying your groceries whilst doing all of your daily chores with every interaction you have. See if you can engage the other person and make them smile or laugh. It's a really good exercise. So having said all of this, we know that it's not what you say. It is how you say it. Let's just repeat that again.

It is not what you say. It is how you say it. Are you saying it with passion? Are you saying it in good humor? Are you laughing and smiling? This is how you become engaging.

It's not really about the content. It's about the energy you've put into the conversation. And cats have a little look about our body language. Because this is also a big part of the conversation and it tells the other person a lot more about you. So I always say, Tell the truth. Be positive and talk about the things that you really love and are really passionate about.

Or ask questions and listen to the other person. Because being a good listener, makes you a great conversationalist. Stop worrying about what other people are thinking about you and start thinking how you can help them you will see that I made quite a few mistakes. With my words during this recording, and I'm not going to go back and do it again. Because I want you to understand that it's not the end of the world when we make mistakes. And we're not going to worry about how people judge just because we put in the wrong word always says it with the wrong expression.

Let's just move on and be more engaging next time. I hope you enjoyed this one. Take care