Hello, everybody. It's our job. I'm sorry, I sound like this. I have been sick all week. And this is the best that I've sounded all week. So I hope you can understand me.

Um, I'm so excited. You guys are here. Oh, actually hang on, I can turn him if he can see me for a second. Can you see me? Hi. Hello.

How are you guys um, so we are here for the optimizer fertility stress physiology workshop. I'm so so excited that you guys are here. What we're going to do is I'm going to try really hard to keep it to 75 minutes, I threw so much stuff in here and I'm like seriously trying to like this is going to fit isn't going to fit over be really mindful of your time. So we're going to be very, I'm going to be watchful of the time I want to make sure that we have enough time for all of your questions. That's why you're here. So I'm going to be just watching all of But I'm so excited, I have so much stuff to share with you guys.

So what we're going to do is I'm going to, I think we've got a lot of us here. So I think we're just going to get started. What I'm going to do is start off with a, just a little bit of housekeeping. We're going to go through the agenda, and then we're just going to dive in. So get comfortable you guys are not on video and audio. So if you've got stuff happening around you, that's totally okay.

If you're watching this from bed, that's totally okay. We're all going to be totally fine. Okay, so I'm going to turn off my video so you can see the screen and I'm going to we're just going to get started. This is going to be awesome. Okay, so here we are. Here we are the days here.

This is the optimize your fertility, a stress physiology workshop. And basically what we're going to do First a little bit of housekeeping, some details about Actually, yeah, okay, go through that. And, um, some housekeeping about what to expect in the workshop, and how to deal with all the gadgets and stuff. This is a new platform for me also for workshops, and it's actually really cool. So I can't wait for you guys to test it out to brief introductions. And then we're going to jump into part one, research and data.

And then we're going to go into the guided exercise, and then the strategic plan we're going to work on together. And then we're going to call ended up with the q&a, which I think is going to be great for us because they've been really fun to chat with everybody. So housekeeping, just a couple things. There are. There's a chat button and there's a q&a button. You should see that at the bottom of your of your screen.

And basically, the chat is where you can respond to me and to everyone throughout the workshop. So I might be Asking questions throughout it. If you have an insight or an aha moment, that's the perfect place to put that. So actually can somebody before we move forward? Put in the chat whether you can hear me okay or not? That would be super helpful.

Just type it in the chat. Yes. Oh, hey, Tiffany, great to see you. Great. I'm so glad you can hear me as best as you can, considering that I sound like this. The q&a part is going to be what we do at the end.

But you can actually add questions throughout our the workshop. So as we're going through the material, as we're going through some of the work, you can actually add your key questions in there. You can even upvote questions that people have already shared. So if you really, really want that question to be answered, then just hit the up vote button, and you it'll show up higher on my list. The q&a I'm not going to look at long going through this. I will look at that when we're at the q&a part of it.

So during the workshop, the chat is best place to put stuff in the q&a part is for you to collect all your questions as we're going through, and then we'll go through them one by one. Okay. Um, I also want to mention here before we move forward, that I know the five pre workshop activities, we sent them out over the last couple of weeks, we had a little bit of a tech issue. So I know not all of you got all of them. And so that's totally, totally okay. It's not going to impact your ability to keep up with the workshop or anything like that.

They're great exercises you can even do after the workshop. You can rewatch the workshop afterwards, at your own pace, it's totally fine. If anybody's worried about that. I just wanted to reassure you that you haven't missed anything. Okay. So, you are also going to be given a recording of this.

This workshop, this particular recording, you're going to have for about 48 hours, you should have it I think we'll be able to email it to you by later today. And and then it's going to be gone after 48 hours because I'm moving it to a different platform, I did want you to have it immediately. Have it for 48 hours and it's gonna be gone. And then you'll get another email from us with where it's hosted after that, and you'll have lifetime access to that after that. So that'll come to you. Um, I think that's it.

If you can't understand what I'm saying, please let me know in the chat. I will try to repeat myself. And oh, and if there's a long pause while I'm talking, it's not your audio that's going out. That's just me taking a break to have some water. Okay. And that's where we are with that.

So get comfy. Like I said, I can't see you, I can't hear you. So you can be running around in the house with all kinds of stuff going on and I totally get it. If you're in bed, just get just get super comfy, get under a blanket. Grab a notebook and a pen if you don't have it already. There's going to be a lot of stuff.

We're going to go over a lot of questions, a lot of reflections, a lot of info and I want you to Make sure you have a place to put all that. But don't worry about writing everything down. Like I said, you're going to have access to the recording. So you can look at this and watch this over and over and over as many times as you need. Okay. So excited.

Here we go. So I would love to start with an introduction. I'd love to know where you guys are all from where, where are you guys located? What brought you to the workshop? pop that in the chat. I'd love to know where we have attendees coming from I from what I understand.

We've got an international audience today. But I'd love to see those of you that are here where you guys from? San Francisco? Yes. Is it raining where you guys are right now? is pouring.

I'm in California. So I'm in the Bay Area. It is pouring safely under oh my gosh, we have so many people from right here. How funny. Ontario, Canada I haven't been there in so long. How are you?

Are you guys hit with the polar vortex right now? Also, it sounds brutal. I'm sitting here complaining. so freaking mica. It's so uh, it sounds awful what's going on up there? Awesome.

Awesome. I know we have several other people on here. If you're shy, that's okay, too. It's warmer now. Thank goodness. Thank goodness though I do know that means the snow is going to eventually start melting if it hasn't already.

And then that is a whole other set of things, isn't it? Awesome. Well, if you're just joining us, feel free to pop in the chat where you're from use the chat button. Use that box to have this conversation. We're in here. We're in it together.

Okay. So let's, let's just keep going forward. I want to introduce a little bit about myself as well. I'm already john fish Monday, and I'm highest pregnancy expert a mind body medicine specialist. The author of pregnancy brain some of you I know have already read the book. Some of you have not yet.

It's totally okay and I am a mom of two a six year old boy v. Han, who is the reason I wrote pregnancy brain and the reason that I'm doing this work and a little girl Liana who was just born three months ago with the help of a gestational carrier, and fertility, fertility treatment, trying to get pregnant, all of that is so familiar to me. And really what drives me to do this work is is really that personal experience. I'm showing just showing women how stress affects health, specifically reproductive health before and during pregnancy is something that is in my blood. It's something that I just live for because I'll be honest, I am trained in clinical psychology I used to work as a therapist I used to practice traditional psychotherapy. It works great i was i was and still am such a believer in it.

Five my pivot to mind body medicine. Also fancy word for that a psycho, neuro immunology is because of my experience with fertility challenges and high risk pregnancy, because I saw how much the stress in the body affects our physical health and our mental health, that it's not just a top down approach, there is a bottom up approach to this. And during my pregnancy, I realized so much of what I've learned in my training and clinical psychology does not apply. When you're dealing with health complications. I had no idea and had I not gone through this, I never would have known either I would have thought, great stress, anxiety, here's how you handle it. Just like you've handled it at any other time in your life.

And it doesn't actually work. It does. It literally doesn't work. And I have so many client stories to tell you throughout this workshop to to show you why. What became abundantly clear that when I was going through this is that it wasn't things it in my head that was affecting my pregnancy, but it was a way that it translated to stress in my body that had a direct connection to what was going On. And you can tell that because towards the end of my pregnancy, I was connected to monitors 24 seven, so you can watch exactly what was happening to my preterm contractions.

And it was, it was when I was tense in my body, even if I was feeling happy and joyous or relaxed in my head. That's when the contractions picked up. And that's what really clued me in that there was there is a tremendous connection here. And we're not talking about it. nobody's asking me about it. And so that is what turned me to the power of the mind body connection.

And when my son came home from the Nick you and we kind of settle into life a couple weeks, a couple years later, not weeks, years later, I began doing my research and I found over 70 years of research, for pregnancy alone about this connection, this mind body stress connection and how it impacts your pregnancy health. And digging into the fertility research. There's actually even more than that, because that's really where the bulk of the research is. Come into is the fertility side of it. There's a lot of new research coming out about this too. And it infuriates me that it's hidden.

And so that's what brought me here. And so that's why I'm here with you guys today. That's why I do what I do. Because it's, this is more than work to me this is it's my life mission. Because if we can do something to empower each of us to take charge of our health, to take care of ourselves, to know how to pivot a little bit, our health, so we can have the family that we want, in whatever way that's going to be, then why are we hiding this? This needs to be fun, Sundar in front of everyone because it is an extremely empowering position to be in to know that you have the opportunity to impact your health as you're trying to get pregnant.

And so you might hear me get super excited about I'm going to try to keep it toned down so I don't cough my way through this workshop. But I am extremely passionate about this. I am so dedicated to educating you Women like you know what is possible and how much power and control we do have to help us build a family of our dreams as close as we possibly can get, right. So that's why I'm here with you guys today, I believe in this stuff so strongly, there's so much research to back it up. And I'm honored to be working with a lot of different clients and adopt a lot of different positions throughout the world who believe in this as well, which is amazing, and so needed in women's health. So one last thing before we dive in, is that what I'm about to teach you is rather unconventional, okay?

But it is completely backed by research, right? So if it doesn't make sense right away, or it takes you a little bit to wrap your head around it, that's totally okay. It's a completely different way of understanding stress and our bodies and our health and our fertility. But man, is it so powerful when you get it? And I'll throughs client stories. I'm going to show you how much you is possible when you're able to, to grasp this really fundamental concept of stress.

And so I'm really excited that you've taken the leap to take charge of your fertility and empower yourself in this new and amazing way. So let's jump jump in. And let's get rolling with this. And if you just joined us feel free to add your thoughts in the chat and your questions in the QA and we're just going to get rolling. Okay. So part one, as I mentioned, we're going to we're going to split this workshop into three different parts.

There's going to be Part one is going to be the data. I'm going to go over the What does the data say? What does the research say about how stress affects fertility? And I will say right here that a lot of doctors shy away from telling you this. Some don't. I have found amazing doctors who are actually very candid about this, but saw me shy away from it because they don't want to stress you out.

More. And I think that's ridiculous. Because I think the more you know, the more prepared you are and the more power you have to make the choices that you need to help you get pregnant and have a healthy pregnancy, right. It's not just about getting pregnant about having a healthy pregnancy. So that's what this is going to be. I am going to go through this relatively quickly because I want to make sure we have enough time for the guided exercise on part three, which is our strategic plan and the QA.

Don't worry about writing everything down. You aren't going to get a copy of this. This later, probably later today, and you'll have it for a lifetime. So you can watch it over and over as as you need. Okay. So I want to start with this idea of what is stress, right?

When we think of stress, we often think of us as being stressed out. That's how we talk about it. We're stressed out. We're doing too much. I'm overwhelmed. It's just like frenetic experience and when we're doing 7000 things and working Feeling crazy and overwhelming.

And it just kind of feels like, Ah, right. But those are just the symptoms. Those are just the symptoms. That's not what stress is. Stress is actually a physiological shift. It's a neuro chemical change that happens in your body, due to all kinds of stressors that we're going to talk about in a second.

Now, you'll notice that this has nothing to do with mindset, or beliefs, or values or thoughts, because those are also just symptoms. Stress is not something that happens in the head. It's actually something that happens in the body. But the triggers and the impact of stress radiate to and from the head and all other parts of your life. So when we're talking about stress today, it's literally we're talking about this physiological reaction happen at chemical changes happening in your body to these three particular systems, and these three systems are actually essential. to having a healthy menstrual cycle, good egg quality, it's not obviously the only thing that matters, but it is essential, good sperm quality as well and a healthy environment in the womb to sustain a healthy pregnancy, okay.

So when we talk about stress triggers, there are so many of them fear, which is not the same as anxiety, it's, it's, it's a different experience that there's fear, depression, unresolved grief, loneliness, negative thoughts, and a lot of you when you guys filled out the form earlier to register talked about your mindset having negative thoughts about wherever you are in the process. That's a trigger, physical pain, lack of sleep, dehydration, poor nutrition. There's so many of them, right? These are just a few that come up. And what happens is when one or many of these triggers occur, right, you might have just one you might have several lines. Almost most of the time, it's more than one happening at the same time.

There are shifts in any or all of those three systems that we discussed endocrine, immune and nervous system. And when you feel that, right when that shift happens, you're going to start noticing symptoms like breathing faster, your hands start sweating, stomach cramps, heart racing, pop it in the chat. Have you guys ever felt any of those symptoms before? Just like your heart's racing, your breathing a little bit like, Oh, your your, your eyes are kind of darting back and forth. If anybody felt any of those symptoms before. Maybe it's before a presentation at work.

Maybe it's before a date. Anybody felt any of those things before? Yeah, yeah, totally. Me too. Me too. This is what we call, this is a very mild form of stress.

This is a type of stress that is not a big deal. It happens to all of us. It happens in a lot of different forms and a lot of different places and a lot of different for a lot of different reasons when this goes on for too long, okay, so you have those shifts in your systems and they happen for too long, or there are too many changes happening. There's such a big shift in your endocrine immune or nervous system, or all three, it becomes like a system overload. And so you'll start noticing some system symptoms like that. Let me know if this sounds familiar symptoms like getting sick more often, or you break out on your face suddenly see that coming through migraines, you have trouble falling asleep or staying asleep, which lack of sleep is is also a trigger for stress.

So this is a vicious cycle here. How many of you guys have felt any of those things migraines I have Yeah, totally, totally. So that's like system overloads happening. That's when you've gone from kind of stage one to stage two, if you will. There's not actually clinical stages like that, but just to break it down for you. So when that happens, you're going to start noticing changes to your reproductive health to, which we're going to talk about in a second.

Before we get into what happens to your reproductive health, I want to talk about grief specifically unresolved grief as a trigger for stress. Those of you that registered as early birds got several bonuses, one of which was you got to have helped shape the content of this workshop. And the common thread that I saw, among many of you was of grief. Many, many, many of us have experienced losses of some kind. And so many of you have this experience of heartbreak of losing a baby or multiple babies. And I don't think I'm off in saying that all of you are experiencing some sort of grief as it relates to I feel about your body and how it's working or it's not working.

And while this is not a grief specific workshop, I could literally do like a several hour thing on grief alone. We will be talking a little bit about grief and its impact on stress and fertility from the from this particular angle. So before we go forward, I want to clarify the grief can happen after a death and it on death loss, so you can be experiencing grief even if you have not experienced pregnancy or baby loss, and that can be in the form of say, miscarriages as death losses, miscarriages, biochemical pregnancies, ectopic pregnancies, recurrent pregnancy loss, stillbirth, but also loss of health, loss of the dream family that you've always wanted. Loss of faith in your body loss of getting pregnant failed cycles on their own having either you're going through fertility treatment or if you're trying to get pregnant on your own. And you see the negative pregnancy test over and over that can be a trigger for grief.

Absolutely. Now this is how it often shows up and then you probably recognize sadness tearing this irritability, numbness, feeling detached Difficulty feeling joy or hope. Anger is a huge one, feeling jealous or resentful. You know, you get those baby shower announcements or the birth announcements or the pregnancy announcements and you're just like you're You have no idea how hard it is. That's a sign of grief. That's a sign of unresolved grief.

But these are emotional symptoms. And what we're going to focus on today are the physical signs of grief, fatigue, digestive trouble, headaches or migraines, chest pain, difficulty breathing, muscle aches and pains or soreness. I mean, I bet you had no idea right? But there are so it sits in your body. Is anybody resonating with any of these? Do you notice that some of these signs and symptoms are coming up?

You're just feeling more tired and rundown more easily. nausea, constipation, diarrhea, heartburn, feel something sitting on your chest sometimes that can happen happens. It happens and this is what I want you to start noticing and this is my goal for What this workshop is these emotions sit in your body and how physical manifestations. And why is that important? Because those are your clue that your stress response is on and activated, meaning your endocrine, immune and nervous system have experienced shifts. And you're possibly getting into the system overload phase something sense, and you want to address that and alleviate that quickly and here is why that there's a very, very deep physical component to your stress.

Common triggers for these types of results are poor sleep, which means less than six hours per night on average, and unresolved grief are the ones that's showing up in research over and over and over. So if you are trying to get pregnant if you are going through fertility treatment and you're not getting pregnant, and you're not seeing that positive pregnancy This is something really important to look into because this could be going on right now, your stress response is on and it is impacting your reproductive health. Now it is not just for you though, if you have male partners, this affects male men too and you can take this back to your partner and review that with them. Research has shown that when the stress response is on in men it results in low testosterone which results in low sex drive, which if you're trying to conceive naturally is extremely important, right, and also low sperm production, which also can result in less like in the sperm being less likely to fertilize an egg that month.

And again, for men to a common trigger for this, this particular outcome is poor sleep. That's one that's showing up in research over and over and over. less than six hours of sleep affects sperm quality. It affects concentration, appearance, ability. to fertilize an egg. All of that is affected.

And what does it say for pregnancy? Now if you're interested in how stress affects for pregnancy, definitely check out pregnancy brain. All those details are there. There's tons and tons and tons of research in that. But I do at least at this part of the journey, I wanted to share that it does reduce embryo implantation rates, even in IVF pregnancies when you've done everything right, you have the the most the genetically normal tested embryo and all of that it's still even then we've cordless of other factors can reduce that and it increases risk of miscarriage and recurrent pregnancy loss. There is so much here and I want to stop for a second and talk about this.

So we have no misunderstandings. Number one i'm not saying that your failed cycles, your miscarriages or your losses are your fault. Okay? This is there's no blame Hear this is not your fault. You did not cause this, you did not cause this, okay? Two out of three times.

The reason for a miscarriage is chromosomal abnormality. That means it has nothing to do with stress. Right? I mean, you could, I guess argue that maybe abnormalities were due to maternal or paternal stress that impacted egg or sperm quality, but we don't know that for sure. So most of the time, most of the time, it has nothing to do with stress and is a genetic issue. It is a chromosomal issue.

Okay. But there are times that I've heard from women and many clients, they just know that I think stress has played a role here. It is not causal, but it played a role. Okay. And that's what I want to get you to understand. Here is why this is so so important.

And this is stuff these are things that are not a lot of doctors are talking about, it's infuriating, because there's so much we can do about this Why is this important? Because when you know you have the power to make choices for yourself, when you are trying to conceive after everything you've been through last preterm delivery, high risk pregnancy and fertility, when you're going through all of that it feels like a crapshoot sometimes. But when we understand how our bodies work on this level, right, we understand that there are triggers that make changes to 123 of these important body systems that results in these symptoms that I'm feeling. And that's kind of a connection. Suddenly, a lot of these quote unquote, unexplained situations start to make sense. And when you understand how your body works, and how some of the situations you found yourself in makes sense, you start to regain a sense of control over what's happening, not control over the outcome.

We're not we're not trying to control the outcome here. But we are able to restore some power and some control over the journey to the end goal which is getting you pregnant. Having a healthy pregnancy, right? Suddenly choices open up to you that didn't matter before, or you didn't even see them as choices before, or you didn't realize how important those choices were before. And that's what I want for you. Because when we're trying to get pregnant, we don't have great answers about what happened in the past, or why it happened or how to prevent it in the future, like losses, or failed treatments, cycles or months with negative pregnancy tests.

And doctors are saying, well, we don't know. Well, we just try again. And we have we don't we're not sure. What happens when when we hear that is we start trying to do all the things, right. We change our diet or exercise, we exercise more, we exercise less, we sleep more, we sleep less, we try to do all the things but we're missing the big picture, which is that our bodies are giving us clues as to exactly what they need, the way that our body speaks out, so to speak. With the symptoms of system overload is our clue into what we need to do to turn that stress response off.

So we can stop doing all the things and we can do the one thing, or the three things that are actually going to make a difference. And that's what we need to focus on. And that's what this workshop is all about. And showing you how to do exactly that. Before we continue, and I show you how to do that, and so you can experience it for yourself. One last thing I want to clarify, again, number one, this is not your fault, right?

Everything has happened. None of it is your fault. And to what we're talking about is not a causal relationship. Stress does not cause infertility or pregnancy complications. But there's very little in reproductive health where we can draw a linear relationship to say one cause the other right. Stress does affect your chances of conceiving Yes, with enough ultra To your endocrine hormonal and or your immune, immune systems, it really can throw off the balance that you need of those three systems to achieve an optimal conception environment with optimal players, so to speak, right, we need healthy eggs, healthy sperm and healthy environment for that embryo to go in.

And this is true whether you're trying to conceive naturally with medications or you're doing IVF. Okay. Now, knowing this is only part one, here's where I find most women get stuck. They know that they're stressed. You know, you guys are here for a reason. You know, that's stress management is important.

You've experienced something on your journey that's told you wait, this might be a missing piece to this, right. You have an intuitive sense that something is affecting your healthier fertility in some way. But again, I don't want you to be doing all the things anymore. Right. Diet and sleep and deep breathing and affirmations, and month are as an all usually trying to do it all. And it's not working, it's not sticking.

Because the problem is that these strategies only work for a short while, an hour, maybe a day, maybe a week. And then you see another negative pregnancy test, or you hit a loss anniversary, and everything just unravels and you feel like you're back to square one, right? who felt that way before? Tell me yes or no. in the in the chat or you're just like, I thought I had it under control. And wait, now I feel exactly how I felt a week ago or a month ago when I was before I started doing all this work.

Yeah, Mm hmm. Totally. And happens. It happens because these tools that we're trying are nonspecific, disconnected and cognitive. What that means is nonspecific meaning anyone can do them. They're not specific to you and your situation and your body.

So they're not specific enough. So they do provide some general relief. But it's not long term lasting relief to is disconnected meaning there's no real good way to measure whether they're actually turning off your stress response or not. They're just kind of a feel good strategy, which is great. There's nothing wrong with feeling good. But if you're trying to turn your stress response off in order to bring these systems back into working function, then this is not going to be good enough.

This is just it's just something that is a bandaid, so to speak, it feels great, but it doesn't achieve deeply what you're trying to go for. And third is their cognitive meaning. They are head focused affirmations and word focus like month rise. They're they're very much about changing the way you think about things and mindset, all very good tool. But they don't last, especially when, like I said, you're dealing with your body so deeply, right. So the new approach that I teach, I'm going to teach you right now.

Body center, somatic bottom up approach. It's new, it's gonna sound weird if you're not used to this. And it's, it's a complete shift in how we experience our bodies and stress. Because we're not going to deal with what's happening in your head. If you are a client of mine, you know, I always, always, always say, right, it doesn't matter what's happening in your head, what's happening in your body. We're going to focus really closely on your body and what your body's telling you to help you address the particular symptom of that system overload.

So you can stop playing darts with all these tools and actually do the things that are going to help you. Right, so we're about to move on to part two. We're about to move on. If you have any questions on anything that we've covered so far, drop them in the q&a box, and I'll get to them at the end. Okay. And make sure to upload any questions that show up if you like them and want to have them particularly answered earlier, All right.

These tools work great. All right, I'm not saying that they won't work. But I find that this body centered approach works tremendously well. And when you have a very physical situation, like health problems, or going through fertility treatment, and especially when you're pregnant, your body is so deeply involved in the process that you need to have working well, that it only makes sense that we work on the body and focus there first and most right to give you exactly what you need to turn that stress response off. And then the anxieties, the worries that what is the negative mindset, all that will fall into place, I promise. It's just the more power the more you practice it, the more powerful it becomes and you'll see how that works.

Okay. So, if you guys are ready, we're going to jump into part two, okay. Like I said, if you have questions Put them in the q&a box. Otherwise, we're going to do this exercise, which is a really fun one that I really enjoy. And I hope that you will too. So before we start, just make sure you have a pen and paper ready or someplace to take notes as soon as the exercises done for you to kind of write some insights that come up from this exercise.

Okay. How's everybody doing? Feel like I haven't heard you heard from you guys in a while you guys are usually awake is feeling okay. You guys, okay? hope everything's going okay. We heard from you guys.

All right, when you're ready, awake, doing good learning. Awesome. Great. Okay, good. Good. Good.

I'm so glad All right. So this is going to be really fun. So when you're ready with your paper and pen, just type ready in the box, and then we will get going, we're going to jump right into the exercise. Ready. Ready. Ready?

We got a couple. Okay, great. So the goal of this guided exercise is to help you notice one part of your body where your stress is hiding, because we're going to create a plan on releasing the stress that that from that particular body part when you turn off your stress response. So just to clarify one more time, I know it is a little confusing. When you have that system overload. Your body will show you that in some of the ways that we talked about some of those symptoms that we talked about.

So that's we're going to really pinpoint and get very specific about we're going to figure out where that is in your body right now. Now We'll say it usually takes the private clients up to about two weeks to really master this exercise and to master this concept. So it's totally okay if you don't get it right away. Come back to it, watch the replay. Do it over and over and you will get there. I promise we'll get there.

Okay, so here we are, here we go. When you're ready, sit comfortably. You don't have to write or do anything right now you're just listening. When you're ready. I want you to close your eyes. And take a big deep breath.

Breathing in through your nose for a count of four or five. And breathing out for double that count. Okay, I want you to do it again. Breathe in for a count of four or five And breathe out for double. Now I want you to start at the top of your head. Just do a quick scan of your body and just notice what's going on.

Don't judge anything. Just notice that what parts of your body feel warm. If you're cold, pop your time tight. Feels relaxed. Just notice When you get to your toes, take another big deep breath in for four or five out for a double. I want you to think of the most serene place you can.

It can be a real place or someplace imaginary. Think about that place and imagine yourself in this place. Walk a few feet forward and look all around you. What is it about this place that feels so serene? Take a look around and notice what you see. Are there objects or people?

Maybe both. What colors do you notice? What grabs your eyesight that grabs your attention when you look around. Now turn your attention to your ears. What sounds Do you hear? Could be the sound of nothing.

Or there could be noises in the atmosphere and the end where you are, what do you notice? Now take a deep breath in through your nose. What do you smell? What sense are in the air? place your hand on different objects or textures around you. How do they feel when your hand is rough or smooth, hard or squishy?

Coarse or silky? can even pick something up and rub it against your cheek to see how it feels. How run your tongue on your lips What taste do you have in your mouth? Take some time to explore this place. What hidden gems Can you find that make this place so serene for you? Take them in with all five of your senses.

Find a place to sit and take in the piece. still allow it to overcome you. taking another deep breath turn your attention to your body while you're still in this serene place. How does your body feel? Take one last look around and know that this is a place you can always return and stand up from when you're sitting and walk away and when you're ready, open your eyes. When you're back, grab your notebook and jot down some notes.

What changes to your body Did you notice after this visualization focus on specific body parts and try not to focus on your mood or your thoughts when you're done typing in the chat so I'll know when to continue. And if you have any insights you want to add, share them in the chat to give you guys like a minute or so to do this. Lower Back loosened yes amazing amazing how you guys doing you guys need some more time Shoulders loosened up and I feel slightly warmer where I was cold before. No love the client story I have to share in a second. That's amazing, Amelia, thank you so much for sharing that. Love it.

Love it. Love it. So cool. So cool. So I'm going to move forward onto part three. So I am looking at the time and me and my blobby self.

We have gone over a little bit, so just want to make sure that we're doing okay on time for you guys. Um, such cool such cool responses you guys are sharing. Thank you so much for sharing. I love that you've experienced this. Yes, it was exactly the intention of it. So we're gonna and move on to the strategic plan of this.

I want to start with why does this work? Why does this work? Does anybody have thoughts? or ideas? Why? Why did this work for you guys?

It's not magic. I'll tell you that. It's the premise of Mind Body medicine. psychoneuroimmunology is the fancy term for it. And it's the work that I do this is and that's this is, this is what it is. It is that there are two paths to stress management.

There's cognitive and there's physical, right? We talked about this just now. And the cognitive side is mental work, mindset work, challenging negative thoughts, affirmation, all of that, right. But what I found in my work, is that when there's such a physical experience like trying to get pregnant fertility treatment being pregnant, the cognitive Work just doesn't stick. It just doesn't stick. Right?

We talked about this earlier, it lasts for a day or two, maybe a week. And then you get bad news or something happens and another month goes by. And you're just back to where you were. And I in my practice, and also in my research, I found that approaching it from a physical perspective works so much better. It works faster. Look how fast this was right?

And the effects are much, much longer they last a long time. One because it removes the judgment of I shouldn't feel this way I shouldn't be thinking this way I should be more positive, or you can't really do that about your body as much when it comes to something like this right? And it gives you something very, very concrete to focus on that can have immediate results. I am all about the path of least resistance and fastest and longest lasting results. You guys have been through enough. It is time to feel better.

It's time to get your body in a place where you can get pregnant and sustained. In a healthy pregnancy, right, that is my whole goal. It never made sense to me why we should do and I see this. See this as a therapist, right? It never made sense to me to go back and do the the type of work I used to do as a therapist, when all I wanted was immediate improvement of my health, for the sake of my family, right. That's what this is all about.

And Amelia, you'll really appreciate this. I wanted to share with you how this works there. I had a client who I worked with last year who was about to start an IVF cycle, who's our first IVF cycle and she was so anxious because of our history, recurrent pregnancy loss she lost how many babies is so heartbreaking. And through our work together, she realized that when her anxiety rose about her IVF cycle, feed got cold feet every single time we did exercises to help her tune into her body every time we triggered it with anxiety, her feet got cold So literally, our work together was on temperature regulation of her feet. That was literally the focus of our work for so long, because that way, what we did was it was like a shut off. You know, we talked about a system overload.

When that system overload, sometimes you need to shut the system down. And this was our entry point for her body. And when we did that hurt anxiety, and all those thoughts that just kind of ruminating of what if, what if, what if, what if, what if it was a baby? What if IVF doesn't work? What if this What if it actually improved, and by that point, we had not done any cognitive work? I actually do very, very little cognitive work with my clients.

And we did this because by literally warming up her feet, it was so amazing, so amazing. So you might be wondering, then why did I do a visualization which is clearly a cognitive exercise, and it's because I want you to notice how your body responded? Right? When we do some kind of work, any any type of work that makes us feel better? I just feel good strategies like we talked about visualizations, affirmations, yoga, even, we say, Oh, I feel so much better. I feel so good.

And that's great. But I want you to know, I want you to take a deeper I want you to know, how did it make you feel better? Where did it make you feel better, because that is a very, very important information when it comes to managing your stress and preparing your body for pregnancy. Okay, so we're going to move into the strategic plan of this, this is a, a group effort. So jump into the chat when you can and share your thoughts. So step one of this, so pull out your paper and pen if you've got it.

And I want you to pick your body part. Okay, what I mean by that is, so for example, Tiffany, you said your lower back, loosen, so maybe your lower back is a good place to start. Couple of you shared a couple different parts of your body. So if if you had multiple places of change in your body, pick one, pick just one. Okay? We're working under the understanding that the body part you choose is the one that is your body's way of getting your attention the loudest.

It's like your loudspeaker. Literally in your body. How cool is that, that we have this. We all have different parts of our bodies that are always alerting us that our stress responses on for my clients. It was her feet when her feet got cold. That was her body's way of telling her we're getting into system overload here.

So it's not going to be the same body part for everyone. A goal is to help that particular body part feel better, literally like warming up your feet to create a create this bottom up effect so that your thoughts and your mood will follow because they will follow. I know it's such a different way of approaching this. It might be You're really roundabout and kind of strange, but I promise it works really, really well. Because when your stress responses off, that's when the mind shuts down. Right?

It slows it quiet. That's how our bodies are built naturally. And so we're just going with what is built, the way our bodies are built naturally. So pick one, pick the one that felt maybe the most better after the visualization. And once you picked it, put it in the chat. We'd love to hear what you guys choose.

Lower back. Yeah, that was a pretty obvious one for you for sure. All right when you got it put in the chat, I'm going to keep moving forward here. Step two of the strategic plan is to name the end result. So we've got to be really, really specific about what we're working towards. For my client.

It was to warm up her feet. It wasn't just I need to focus on my feet, because that's not enough, right? It's her feet were cold. It's not like they were aching, where they were hurting or they were swollen. Because each of those things have different tools that we're going to use so for her it was warming up her feet that was her goal. So on your notepad, you've got lower back written write, what is the end result?

What is your goal is it to relax that part of your body is a two more minute visit to loosen it is it to make it hurt less Think about that and write that down. And when you've got that then we're gonna have some fun together. We're going to brainstorm You guys ready? Let me know if you need a little bit another minute in the chat otherwise I'll move forward. Okay, great. So here's we're going to brainstorm and I want you guys to put some you put your ideas in the chat, okay?

You're wondering, well, how in the world do I do this? We're going to start brainstorming some ideas to personalize this plan. Okay, so you've got the body part. You've got the end result. Now how Do we do this? So what I want you to think about, we're going to do the top three ones that come up most often for my clients pain.

Or I should say pain relief, warmth and tension release, right? Those are the three end goals that come up a lot. For my clients, yours might be different, and that's totally okay. If it is put it in the chat, and we can brainstorm with you. But just to practice right now, what are some really, really easy and direct ways to relieve pain or bring that warmth or release tension that are immediate, like they don't involve other people? Like, I have to schedule an acupuncture appointment or I have to take this particular medication?

What is something really easy, like you doesn't even have to be about you. Let's just brainstorm some ideas. So we have some going together, because I want it to be the path of least resistance. Right? So let's make this extremely easy. I'll give you an example to get us rolling for my client one.

One thing that we did was for warm freshers working on warming up or feet. wearing socks. Very simple. never occurred to her. I worked with her through on some very hot days last year. never occurred to her.

Right until we talked we talked it through. So wearing something very simple what else what other ideas you guys have for pain, warmth or attention really throw them in the chat. Let's Let's collect some ideas. laying on the floor rolling around in the back. Yeah, it's a great one. Put your hands on spot where you have pain.

Yes. That's such a good one. Stretch. No. Totally really, really good one. Really good one.

I love these. These are great. Keep them coming. I'll share with you guys some of the show. Keep a couple more coming and then I'll share with you the ones that I brainstormed. heating pad.

Aha that's one of my favorites. Yeah. Some here are some that I came up with as well. He did. Of course, was there a more pain, touch is extremely powerful. You don't even have to massage just to literally put your hand if that part of your body is really hurting that badly I did have a client whose hips were hurting so much.

She didn't want anyone to touch her hips at all. So but any type of touch actually relieves pain. So she had her partner, they would just actually lie together. skin to skin and that would help us or even something as simple as holding hands. Right. touches important deep breathing was touches important, really powerful with pain relief.

Humming is really powerful with pain relief to if you breathe in like we did earlier, breathe in for kind of four or five and hum out instead of breathing out really good for pain relief. I'm warm fireplace I had a client last year, who loved sitting in the sun. I realize we're not in the time of the year when there's a lot of times in a lot of places, but just sitting in the sun and warming herself up really helped warming up with clothes warm drink, swimming or hot tub releasing tension yoga or stretching. deadweight I love It's so like so, so easy. It's ridiculous. You just put, like, for example, if your hand that's hurting, you can leave your arm on the armrest and just drop your hand and let it just kind of hang at the edge of your armrest.

Like let go of trying to hold it up or anything like that. It's amazingly powerful and so easy massage. Um, yes, professional massage is awesome. But and but if you can't get to one, or if your partner won't do it, or isn't around self massage works great. Awesome, great. These are just some ideas.

Keep thinking about these things, right? Because these are the house this is how you're going to get from your body part to your end goal. This is how it's gonna happen. Keep it super easy. Keep it simple, keep it path of least resistance. Okay?

Now if you notice the point is not just about doing the activity, like stretching or putting on socks, it is literally about targeting that one specific area because that is the area of your body that needs attention and paying attention to how that particular body part responds to your efforts. Right, so it wasn't enough for my client to just put on socks. A lot of our work then came after that when you put on sock, what happened? What happened? How did your body chatted, your feet change? Obviously your feet got warmer, but what else changed?

What else happened in your body that changed? So here is what I'm recommending for you guys after today. Now, as participants of the workshop, you're going to get seven days of emails for me to just keep you guys on track. As you're practicing this over the next seven days, so I will help you over the next seven days for this. But here's the plan. Today, I just want you to notice that body part, your lower back, right, that body part.

Just notice it today. And what I recommend is if you have your phone with you put in a reminder for every two to three hours for today. And every time it rains, ask yourself, How are my feet? How's my lower back? How are my shoulders, just ask how's my lower back how's my lower back and notice if they're say, like cold, like my client, for example, then go back to those tools, the house that we just created and that that table and pick one of them to just keeping my client example going to warm your feet up, use one of them to warm your feet up or for your lower back to loosen it. Pick one of them and do that.

When you check in with your body every two to three hours. This is your signal that your stress response is on and you You can do something to turn it off right away. That's the brilliance of this is that it doesn't take long. It really is very quick. It's really, really quick. And I love that about this.

Then starting tomorrow, four times a day, engage in one of these tools use them all morning, midday, afternoon before bed. So in the mornings, you know, sometimes early mornings can get really crazy. So I have a lot of clients do this in the car when they're driving to work, literally the same client about the feet would do this on their drive to work every morning. And she would check in with her feet, but how am I doing? Oh, are they cold, which happens a lot when she's about to go into a really big meeting. And so she turned on the heater that pointed it to her feet to warm up her feet in the car and by the time she got to the appointment or her meeting, she should be feeling much more confident, much more ready for the appointment.

It's amazing how fast this works. So it will work like that for you too when you practice it. midday on your lunch break, use one of the tools in the afternoon on your way back from work or something, and then right before bed because it really works powerfully to help you to go to sleep when you do this because one of the things that keeps you up right is when your stress responses on and it shows up in a lot of different ways, like thoughts and aches and pains and all that. But the ultimate reason for it is your responses on it, if you can turn it off by, you know, addressing your lower back or your feet or your shoulders or whatever that is, you will actually sleep better at night too. So give it a try four times a day, for the next several days and and see how it changes for you.

And after seven days. So like next week, next Saturday, Sunday, take note of what other ways your body and mind have changed. Because if you will, if you're paying attention, you will notice changes there are shifts that are happening or shifts that are happening that are trickling from the body up right And then repeat you do this every day, every week. It's a habit, it takes time. And the more you do it, the easier it's going to become. Now this, this works amazingly well, when you're in those moments that bring you a lot of things, right.

So when you're ovulating, you're dreading, dreading intercourse. For the eight millions month in a row Aillagon all this not going to work, or grief triggers like anniversaries. When you're anxious in the doctor's waiting room, when you're anticipating your doctor to cold blood test results, when you're waiting for the whole pregnancy test to turn when you're making decisions about your future when it whether it's related to fertility or not, but especially medical decisions are really stressful to make and so checking in with your body. And especially this particular body part actually will help guide you on getting through these moments that bring you eggs. This is what I asked my clients do all the time and it really really works, where you get out of your head and you Focus on what are my feet? How are my feet feeling?

Are they cold? That means something's not right about this particular situation. Something's not right. Because you can talk yourself in and out of anything but your body doesn't lie. You can tell yourself, I'm fine. I'm okay.

I'm fine that my pregnancy test came back negative, I'm fine. We can try again this month is okay. But if your feet are freezing, like my clients were, or if your back is really tight, it's a really good indication that something's not right here, your stress responses on and it's actually going to hinder whatever efforts you're trying to make anything. When our stress response fires up, it's a it's a biological protective mechanism. And it's it's your body's way of telling you help fix something, change something so we can keep going right? And we can, we can keep going towards what you what you want what you need.

And the fastest way to shortcut them turn that off, is to give your body what it needs. The rest of it will fall into place. Absolutely it will. It completely falls into place. But it works only If you've trained yourself, so you've got to do this repeatedly, consistently every single day, so that when you find yourself in these moments that are scary or overwhelming or anxiety provoking, then you know to tap into it without even thinking about it. And like my particular client, and they have to make a decision about donor egg or not for IVF when they had the conversation with her doctor is a doctor that I work with frequently, quite love.

So I knew she would appreciate this. I, she mentioned to my client that okay, this is what I'm recommending, consider donor egg. And my client emails me and literally says, I didn't even think anything other than how cold are my feet. And that's, that's what helped guide her decision. Right? Not her feet, really, but you know what I mean?

Because that was her indication that something feels off or something feels Okay, and I think I can I can handle this. So it's really, really powerful, really, really powerful. Now, you might be asking, wondering, What about grief? How do we circle back to grief because that was something that came up a lot for a lot of you. And when you're trying to conceive, there's a lot of triggers for unresolved grief in the losses that you've experienced. And the truth is, it all starts the same, identifying the part of your body that's speaking out the loudest.

That's the part that's, that's holding on to this grief. Right? That's, or that's your body's holding on to the grief is letting you know through this particular body part. And so it's important to get into the habit of taking care of your body, especially and that's a very vague, big, overwhelming thing to say, which is why we're starting with one body part at a time. And when you master that one body body part, it slowly starts getting quieter and quieter. There'll be another part of your body that kind of starts getting a little louder, okay?

I'll handle that too. Because the goal is to turn off your stress response. And when you do that, it's easier and less painful to actually release grief. From your body because you can create a sense of calm and safety in your body. And then we gain some predictability, right? When I put on socks, my feet get warm.

When I sit by the fireplace, my feet get warm. When my feet get warm, I feel calmer, right? That becomes predictable, you're creating new habits, you're creating more predictability in your body which has gone, which is completely gone after you've experienced losses. And, and by doing it this way, the fork is not as painful. Otherwise, what happens is you go to therapy, or you journal or you go talk to someone or you think about it over and over, and you go deep, right? You go way into what happened.

And it's like setting fire to an open wound and then putting salt on it. Whereas if you do it this way, and you address your body first to create that sense of safety and calm and predictability. Then when you think about the losses, you come up against a loss anniversary, you come up against an triggers for your loss, then it's much more easier to handle. Because when your body is calm, the mind follows. Okay, it may sound like magic, but I promise this is literally biology. This is actually how our bodies are built to work.

We've just completely lost our way when we are guiding ourselves and guiding others on how to get through some of these really difficult challenges. But when we get back to basics on biology, physiology, and how our bodies are built, it works really, really beautifully. It works quickly, and the effects lasts a long time. So what's the big picture here? How does this fit into the big picture of you're trying to get pregnant cuz that's why you're here, right? The symptoms we talked about in part one, the system overload.

Those are the ones that show you that the three core body systems under credit, nervous and immune systems are all off balance, all or some one, two or three are off balance. And the stress response is on, right. But the stress isn't the problem. It's that we don't get enough relief from stress. Our body has a built in repair mechanism that works down to the cellular level, to repair the damage that's caused by stress that causes these symptoms that we feel, right. And if we don't activate that system enough, we start seeing these health challenges and reproductive issues become bigger problems.

That becomes that those are the symptoms that we feel. And that's how this works. The more you engage in this strategic plan that we talked about that particular body part, and focusing on that end goal, and how can I reach that end goal as many times as I can, every single day, what you're doing is you're shutting off the stress response. The goal is not just to warm up or your feet, right, my client was shutting off a stress response every single time you do it. That's what happens. And that has a cumulative effect, just like stress does to repair your body and prepare you for pregnancy.

Does it cure all fertility challenges? No. But it will. And it does improve fertility challenges, especially those that are affected by either the endocrine nervous, or immune systems, which is a lot of them. Not all of them, but a lot of them. And it also makes fertility treatments more effective to, if that is where you are on your path to building your family.

It's a new way of looking at fertility, stress and reproductive outcomes. I know I will give you that it is totally different. It's not a direct, like, let's go straight into it unless just rip off the band aid kind of thing. But I don't believe that that works. And I in fact find that to be far more painful, especially when you're going through something so physical, like trying to get pregnant and being in being in staying pregnant and delivering a baby. I just don't think that it works and I've seen it over and over and over with my clients.

So be patient with yourself. The more often you practice it, the easier it will become. until it becomes such a natural habit that you won't even think about it anymore. And it becomes this thing that you always do. You wake up in the morning when you're having your coffee, you're going for a walk. And when you're making really hard choices on your fertility journey, I see it happening with every single one of my clients.

And all of them have gone on to get pregnant after so much heartache, because it works because we're getting back to basics on how our bodies function. But it takes effort because you're creating a brand new habits you have to practice it over and over and over. I know this is gonna work amazingly for you. I cannot wait to hear how this goes for you too. Please keep me posted. This has been so fun.

I know we're coming up against the end of our time, but I do want to open it up for q&a. So pop your questions up in the QA. We're going to get through these really quickly. I see one already in here. I'll start doing them one by one. You guys are amazing.

And I'm so glad that you're here. So let's do this. Let's do this. All right, for exercise two, should I be visiting this place I mentioned today over and over again, a times of stress or new place each time. Okay, great question. You know what?

We're gonna go with the path of least resistance. If this place works for you. Go there every time. Go there every time. There's no need to make it more complicated than it has to be. Okay.

What are your thoughts about working through grief while pregnant if you don't have a chance to release it before getting pregnant? Oh, so good. I love grief work. I just gotta say a lot of grief work. I think it's so powerful. And when you do it from a somatic perspective like this, it's so much easier to do.

And so yes, it is possible to do, what I would suggest or what I would say is you want to make sure Whatever the work you're doing is extremely gentle and not triggering. Okay? And how will you know you're going to get triggered, it's not by necessarily what's happening in your head. And exactly what we just talked about the body part that you have identified as the one that's holding on kind of your loudspeaker, if you will. If that gets triggered, or any of the other body parts you have, if that gets triggered, that means it's going too far. It's going too fast, it's going too deep.

And I would not recommend doing it because what that does is it adds stress to your body during pregnancy, which you do not need. And if you haven't already, check out pregnancy brain. I'm not sure if you're pregnant, or if you're asking just generally but for any of you who are pregnant, I know we have a bunch of people who weren't able to make it live today. So if you're catching the replay check it out. Pregnancy brain if you're already pregnant, on strategies on how to manage grief when you are pregnant because they're very, they need to be extremely gentle, extremely gentle. And this the somatic way of approaching grief I have found to be by far the most gentle because we don't go straight into it like I used to I used to do that as a therapist, go straight go Alright, let's talk let's go let's talk about what happens your losses go Let's go there.

And no, no, we don't do that. We should not do that during pregnancy it's not good for your pregnancy health so I don't recommend that. So find it find a way to do it very gently. But I think it's certainly possible to do if you haven't done that, um, pop more questions and as they come up, there are two questions from people who I know are not who've registered or not able to come live. Who had questions that they wanted answer one was Can people with low m h. conceived naturally and the answer is It depends. Um, the lower the AMA, I mean, I don't know a lot of details.

So this is something you need to talk to your doctor about how low is your Hmh. And what else is going on in your health, your fertility health, there have been a lot of improvements for a lot of people who take d h, EA supplements to improve their EMH. And when you when your m h goes up, the chances of you conceiving also increase. But this workshop is actually really helpful for you too, because research that was just published not even a year and a half ago, showed that stress, physiological stress that we hold in our body that we just talked about, actually lowers Hmh levels. And so supplements are great, but this is also some of this work is actually something really helpful. It's going to be helpful for you and might actually improve your levels, but talk to your doctor and see, get a whole perspective on it's not just a match, but look at all Your numbers and get a sense of what's going on.

Um, and then somebody asked about is PCs going to kind of improve with stress relief? And the answer is Yeah, it can. You know, diet and exercise are usually the go to diet, exercise and weight loss are the three go twos for PCs, but what we have also found is that women with PCOS, which is polycystic ovarian syndrome, they show that they're their stress response. There's not the particular part of the body that you can check. It's called the HPA access. That is on if it's enhanced heart rate activity isn't is enhanced as well.

And there are particular chemicals that you can test for blood. It's not a routine blood test. So it doesn't usually happen other than research is high for women with PCs. So in addition to diet, exercise and weight loss, effective stress management by releasing that stress from your body Like we just talked about today is going to be tremendously helpful. And you shouldn't you should start to see, PCs is one of those things. It's frustrating.

But when you when, when the stars align, we can get your body to just work quite right. It responds quite well to a lot of these lifestyle changes that we recommend. What other questions you guys have if you have some time, I'm happy to stay on for a few more minutes and answer whatever else comes to mind. Just drop it in the QA. Also, let me know how was this for you guys? Was this helpful?

Did you guys find this to be a helpful workshop? Must be a little bit of a lie. This was very helpful and comforting. Thank you for hosting this. A lot of aha moments. Fantastic.

Oh, yep. Okay, great. Oh, good, good. Good. I'm so so glad. I'm so glad.

Um, do you guys have any other questions? I'm happy to stay on for a few more minutes and answer any more questions that come up. And while we're waiting for those questions to come in, I want to let you know, this was really fun for me to I'm so glad that you guys are here. This is something I want so many women to know about, because there really is so much hope. That's really what this is all about. is restoring hope.

Right? We go through losses and infertility and not being able to get pregnant. It's so so bleak some days. And when you see how much power you have in your bodies, is it going to cure everything? No, but there's not one thing in the world that's going to cure everything anyway. When you see how much is public possible in your body, that hope comes back.

And that's what you need more than anything as you're going forward, trying for one more month trying another fertility cycle, waiting for that pregnancy test one more time. This is invaluable. Really it is, and it's in your body. I really want you to walk away with seeing how easy it is. It can be simple, it really can be. And on top of that, you've got all these other tools that you can you can add to it, too.

And it's it's you. It's right there at your fingertips. It's right there. Another question come through. Have you seen women who experienced recurrent pregnancy loss benefit from these approaches to? Oh my gosh, yes.

Oh my goodness. Yes. Most of my private clients who are trying to get pregnant have experienced recurrent pregnancy loss. Yes. Because what you have going on here is not only the grief, right? Any number of losses is too much.

But when you have recurrent pregnancy loss, you now have this almost expectation. Well, you have this like track record almost, which sounds terrible to say. But that's how it feels in your head and in your body like, this is what keeps happening. And so you start anticipating it and expecting it. And what we have to do in the work that I've done with my clients is to undo that expectation. That's in your that undo the habit, that expectation and allow for your body to release the many layers of grief.

Because there are many layers there. There are many layers there. There's the fact that you've lost the baby. There's the fact that you lost more than one baby. There's the fact that what does it mean about your body, about your future about Your family, all of that is there. And the fact that now you've lost.

I'm not not sure about you specifically, but for a lot of my clients, they say they've lost faith in their bodies to be able to do this properly. Right. And so these are so yeah, I mean, it's a very long way of saying yes, it works beautifully. And the way the reason that it works again, is because it's gentle. It's really gentle. I'll tell you for my clients who I do grief work with the first four weeks of the work, we don't even talk about the loss, we do just this.

I want you to reconnect with your body, because that's another thing that happens, right? When you go through this, I've experienced it myself too. you disconnect from your body because you're, you're at war with it. You are, um, you don't trust it, and so you're not connected with it. And so when you go through this big piece of it is reconnecting with your body, listening to your body. Again, really paying attention, creating that predictability, that We talked about in the workshop, a new predictability that's actually a safe predictability that you can count on, and rely on.

And that kind of almost gets you back on the same team with your, with your body. And from there, it's much, much easier to release the grief from your body. And that's that's the work that I do so yeah, absolutely. It has been beneficial. seen it happen. It's a really beautiful process to witness.

I'll be honest. So yeah, that's there. Any other questions that you guys have? Anything else? Come up to mind? Everything is fair game.

Will you ever do a grief workshop? You know, it's so funny. You ask this. It's not funny. But funny in that I was putting this together. And I was I was looking through your all of your forms.

And so many of you, I think about seven of you that were registered. I want to see maybe like five of you mentioned grief is something you wanted covered in here. And I was putting this together and I'm like, You know what? I should do grief workshop. So I love that you asked this because yes if there is interest if there's interest and to think about it because the grief one I really I want to go deep into it, so it might be a little longer than an hour. Um, but yeah, if there's enough interest and there's enough people who want want me to do it, I would be thrilled to do a grief workshop.

I think that would be really helpful for a lot of people in our community. was amazing, guys. This is so so great. Thank you for hanging with me. If you have any more questions, I'm here I'm around for a couple more minutes. Thank you for being here.

Thank you for trusting me with this. Thank you for giving me your time. I know time is so precious. Everybody is so busy. So I appreciate you spending the last hour and a half with me. If you are interested in more support, more personalized support, I have that available just head over to my website barage Fh funding comm or shoot me an email.

I'm not seeing clients quite yet I have one more month of maternity leave left. But if you're on the early waiting list, which I know a few of you who registered are, you will be receiving an email, I think on Monday or Tuesday, I think Monday with some next steps. So you can keep an eye on that. If you have just, um, or if you have ideas for additional workshops, like somebody just posted about a grief workshop, totally email me and let me know if we have enough people interested. I'm more than happy to put that together. I think that would be wonderful.

Whatever is going to help the community. I know what it's like to go through this. I really do. Infertility loss, recurrent pregnancy loss, high risk pregnancy, prematurity, kind of checked a lot of boxes over here. I get it and whatever I can do to help make this process easier, because you're not, we're not what is happening to you. And you are more powerful than you feel right now.

And if there's anything I can do to hit that home and guide you through that, I am more than happy to do it. That is what I'm here for. And I would love to help you. So if there are no more questions, we can wrap this up for today. Thank you all so much those of you that came live. And for those of you that are catching the replay, you all should get an email later today.

With the link to this replay, you'll have that for 48 hours and there's gonna be a little bit of gap while we move it over to a new platform and then you'll get another login link for the replay to keep. Okay, thank you all so, so much. Have a wonderful rest of your day. And a really nice weekend. Stay warm wherever you are. We'll talk you all soon take care