In this lecture, we'll talk about how you can converse, but not without the people with yourself. Welcome to habit 10. I want to bring your attention to two aspects. Number one, how you talk to yourself. And number two, how you talk to yourself. This sounds a bit strange, but I'll clarify.

I'm not crazy in this lecture is not about schizophrenia. The other day, I was driving my car and I was listening to radio. I heard that British scientists found out that people who are intelligent above the average would prefer to spend more time with themselves rather than going out with friends and partying all the time. every successful person I have ever studied, spends time with themselves alone. And what do they do? They think contemplate Ask questions and reflect on the events that have happened.

They're asking questions and answering them in their heads in these are the kind of conversations I referred to when I started this lecture. First, let's take a look at how you talk to yourself. Can we ever caught yourself doing something that doesn't go your way? And you say, Oh, I'm so dumb or I'm stupid, or I'm an idiot, I'll never make that work, etc. Here's what you should know. This is negative self talk that brings you down all the time.

It hurts your mental health, your self image, your subconscious doesn't make a difference between you talking seriously or joking with yourself. I agree. A lot of times when we talk negatively to ourselves, we don't really mean it. But that doesn't matter. You should stop imprinting negative sentences negative self talk in your Your subconscious, so I advise you to monitor your self talk. If it is negative, change it, it hurts you.

And we're talking nothing more, but self awareness. Since you're watching this lecture, you will remember my words about negative self talk. And next time you'll say something negative to yourself, your brain will click Hey, wait a second. That's not right. I shouldn't talk like that. I'll be proud of you when that happens.

But something else will happen as well. You will start noticing your closest friends and family members doing the same talking negatively about themselves. They haven't watched this lecture. So you need to take responsibility and talk to them about that gently and politely explain to them why this is not the right thing to do. Tell them that they're hurting their self image, and their subconscious mind doesn't know the difference between reality and joke. It will take what the Seriously, let's move to the next aspect how you talk to yourself.

And what I'm implying. Here are the questions you ask yourself. Your questions can be empowering and constructive. Or your questions can be disempowering and destructive. A question is empowering and constructive. When it's answer benefits you, it makes your brain look for solutions and resources.

A question is disempowering and destructive when it's answered doesn't benefit you, and in fact, magnifies negative feelings. Tony Robbins goes even further and says, your state and ultimately your life are the result of the questions you ask. For example, when you're thinking about achieving your goal, you might ask, will they be able to achieve that? Or you might ask how can I achieve it in the easiest way possible in having fun during the process? See, the first question is loaded with doubt. The second question pushes your brain to look for solution in resources inside yourself.

It's not a matter of possibility anymore. The second question is much more empowering. Would you agree? Or another example? Why did that happen to me? Especially when you have no control over what happened?

When there were external factors that you could do? Absolutely nothing about? How much would that question help you? Why did that happen to me? does it bring you a benefit? No, it doesn't.

In contrast, you could say really, the situation was pretty messed up. What What can I learn from all this? I know I didn't have control over it. But still, what can I learn? You see the difference? The questions you ask yourself, change your focus when you focus in something negative, you will feel bad.

When you focus on something positive, you will feel good. And when you feel good, you're in the optimal state for achieving your goals or do the activities that will lead you to your goals. And next time you feel better about something, I want you to remember that you can change your state by answering an empowering question. You can even try asking and answering these questions right now. What are the things that make me happy in my life? What are the things I am grateful about in my life?

What is great in my life right now? thing from the answers and notice how your state changes. This is the power of questions. And the formula for depression is the same. Just go ahead and reverse the questions to the negative. You can even look for outside of your life and you will find negative and positive things to Be happy or sad about.

It all comes down to focus. Alright, let's recap. Number one. Monitor negative self talk to your subconscious mind doesn't know what is real and what is joke. Three negative self talk brings you down all the time for your questions can be empowering and constructive or disempowering and destructive. Five empowering questions benefit you and make your brain look for solution and resources inside yourself.

Six disempowering questions don't benefit you and in many cases magnify negative feelings. Seven the questions you ask change your focus your state and your feelings. Eight you will perform at your best when you are in optimal state when you feel good Thank you for watching. My name is Vladimir Rakoff. Stay purposeful