May I ask: Do you have an inner critical voice that tells you negative things? Which holds you back in your life?

I do. As many as 85 percent of us hear this "judge" who says we are not valuable or good enough. The voice was born in our childhood. Our parents had the biggest impact on us then. ​In 45 minutes you can have learned how to stop this critical judge in your child. 

By Norwegian certified
coach for kids, Terje Nordkvelle.

Children who dislike themselves are often angry and insecure. Children who like/love themselves are harmonious, polite, and have inner peace and security. Read further to learn methods that will help you.

Here is my experience after working as a coach for children and youth for 14 years: "The kids that succeed in life, are the ones who like and love themselves."(This applies to all people, regardless of age).

Making sure your child has good self-esteem is more important than grades and doing good in sports.​A feeling of inner safety, a good self-image, increases your child's confidence in social settings, into studies/work-life, and dating.​ The secret to being liked - is to like yourself.

Arent Confident People Arrogant?

Many people think so. The fact is that arrogance often stems from fear and insecurity. People who behave arrogantly are actually often insecure, but think they must be perfect to be accepted and liked. They have their inner judge who criticizes them when they make mistakes.

People with really good self-esteem see their own value. They carry with them a sense of calmness that makes it ok to fail, and they have the power to be:​ respectful* empathetic* caring. Other words are harmonious, in balance, and strong on the inside. Because of this, they become very popular. In school, with friends, and at work.​

It is probably my own past with little faith in myself, which is why I am so passionate about this work. Little luck with girls, school, and sports. Even today I hear the voice say that I am not smart or handsome enough.

​My judge still does not fully understand this:

That I have actually helped thousands of parents communicate so that their children do not follow their negative voice, but instead see what strengths and qualities they have.

Checklist:

Have you said this to your child?

Good news: After helping thousands of parents in Norway, I now present my mini-course for moms and dads in English. (Course length: 45 minutes). Here you will learn what you can say to remove the inner critic in your child or make sure that it does not appear at all.​The course makes sure you lay the foundation for a sense of inner peace in your children, which they will enjoy for the rest of their lives.

This mini-course helps you also if:

Your child will not listen to you, will not talk to you, and open up.

The real reason they are angry or quiet is that they think they are failures and not good enough.

You want to be sure that you do not transfer insecurity - and help your child on the right path.

This online course consists of 10 methods:

1: An article where you learn the seven most important sentences that will help them get to know themselves. These are words all children need to hear from mom and dad. They warm the soul. ​(I recommend one sentence per day.)
2: A video (37 min.) where you learn this: a simple technique that leads to your child gaining better confidence and self-esteem.

An effective tool that causes your child to do chores at home, such as cleaning the room - without arguing about it.

A smart method that causes your child to open up and share problems with you. (I am very proud of this one)​

All ten methods are easy to use and fit naturally into everyday life. You can do this. In the course video, I also talk about the three most common mistakes parents make, when communicating with their children. And how to avoid this.

​If you have problems with children, the solution is not to yell, bribe or punish. It can make the situation worse.

In the video and article, you will learn the most effective conversation tools I use in my work as a coach for kids.​ The common thread in my teachings is to help them like themselves. That is what solves the problems. ​

The mini-course works so well because the children deep down want to hear these sentences and be spoken to in this way.

Not for everyone: If you feel that kids' self-esteem is important, I would like to congratulate you. Then you belong to a minority, Unfortunately.

Me at age 15. I did not like myself.

You can do this. Parents talk about good results. Fast. When kids like themselves, they are so much easier to get along with.

My discovery: Many mothers and fathers I talk to think the most important thing behind a good relationship is that the children like their parents.

​I thought so too. It's not. It turns out that the key to a really good relationship lies in how well people like themselves - in conversation with you. That's the secret.

Top tip: If you can help them like themselves - they will like you, their behavior will improve and you will get the relationship you dream of.​

Challenges such as loneliness and drugs are not problems. They are only symptoms of the real cause:​ How well they like themselves. 

Five Frequently asked questions:

• Q: Do you really think that a short online course can help me?
• A: Yes. The reason is that you learn new, concrete words and phrases that change how you communicate.
• ​Q: What results can I expect?
• A: Most parents talk about aha moments and that the child changes behavior.​
• Q: What am I going to learn?
• A: Ther seven sentences, three smart communication methods (In the video), and knowledge of the three most common parental mistakes.
• Q: How long does this take?
• A: The video is 37 minutes and you can read the article in a few minutes. When it comes to using and saying the words and sentences to the child, I recommend one method a day. A total of ten days.
• Q: For which age group is the methods best suited?
• A: To all. It is never too early to start, but the wording/sentences should be adjusted according to age/person/ level.

The course is tailored to:

Help kids to better self-esteem and thoughts about themselves, which is the key to a good life. And improve your relationship with the child/teenager.

A warm greeting from Norway and Terje.

Terje, Norwegian, and Max, Beagle/Drever.