Abuse is like a virus that spreads in overt, covert, and even unintentional ways, breeding dysfunction within families, relationships, and the next generation of society. Obvious abuse is easy to identify, but many times abuse can be spread without the victim or abuser realizing it. Regardless, the abuse impacts our lives, our health, our wealth, and all that matters most to us.

Abuse can occur to people of all ages, in all levels of severity, and it has compounded effects throughout life. Whether the abuse came to you as a child, adult, or senior, or whether it was unintended or intentionally caused harm, destruction, or even murder, I believe it’s time to:

• Stop ignoring the dysfunction in your life and family, and be real with the facts.
• Stop lying to yourself, and be honest with yourself.
• Stop blaming others, and start exercising self-responsibility.
• Stop the hurting, and start the healing.
• Stop giving up, and find hope with a new perspective.

Everyone has flaws. Everyone has been hurt. Everyone needs hope. Yet, too often abuse, whether overt or covert, breeds dysfunction from within the family unit, which passes on to the next generation. We may be one-of-a-kind as individuals, including how we were raised and our current circumstances. But, I assure you, we have a lot in common, The desire for love and happiness, feelings of hurt and sadness, and even abuse, which is that pervasive. It happens even when you don’t know it.

Abuse is inevitable throughout our lifespan. We can’t avoid it, and the risk of becoming infected continues whether we like it or not. Broadly speaking, abuse can be experienced in two ways; directly or indirectly. Direct abuse is the form we are most familiar with, and typically the scariest because victims are directly involved. If you’ve been raped, then you know the horrors of direct abuse. On the other hand, indirect abuse affects us when we observe abuse, which conditions our mind and behavior to believe this abuse is acceptable, tolerable, even normal. These are often “family secrets.” For example, if you were a child in the vicinity of domestic violence, then you may have experienced indirect abuse, which may have led to other conclusions about marriage, family, and life in general.

We will expose the abuse that has bred dysfunction in your life. My desire is that this process will help to relieve you of the burden you’re carrying. I hope you will discover the abuse in your life and recover to the point of true healing. This is not about revenge, but it is about getting the facts, re-framing the abuse, being able to empathize, and having the strength to stand up for yourself, even if you’re at your weakest.

Are you ready to transform your story from victim to victor? Let's get started.