Hello, hello, hello. Welcome to Week Five training for the happiness makeover course. And today we're going to be talking about the power the art of letting go and letting go of things that are no longer serving you. I'm sorry for my cat in the background. He's going nuts right now apparently it is play time. So disregard all the craziness on whatever he's doing.

I'm gonna try to ignore it. Because unfortunately, I can see him in the video. So I'm going to try to ignore him. But as we grow as we develop as we heal as we transform in our life, there's going to be things that are no longer serving us whether that's a person, it's an event, habits in our life, there's going to be so many different things that we need to let go of. And I want to just give you this visual so that can help you really see how much pain and hurts having things in our life is going to be affecting our circumstances in our life, which we don't realize it is doing for us until we take the time to acknowledge what it is that is no longer serving us. And I want you to just this coffee cup right here.

Whatever it is that you're holding, if it's a bag, if it's your phone, if it's a purse, if it's a child, anything, you hold that item in your hand right now, and it's not heavy at all, but the longer that you're holding on to it, it's going to get heavier and heavier and heavier and the weight is not going to change. But how it is affecting your external circumstances your internal circumstances is going to change because you can only hold on to something for So long before it causes you pain before you're, it's no longer serving you a purpose. And you need to take the time in your life to realize that this is benefiting me right now. But down the road, it may not be benefiting me. So when you start something, you generally can't stop. So the more time you take to acknowledge that this is no longer serving you, the easier it's going to be to let go from your life to remove it from your life.

And there's a couple activities that I have for you to do in this this module. And that is we have one that is just to brainstorm everything, to brainstorm the people that are no longer serving you, whether it's friends, its family, its coworkers, whoever it is people that are no longer serving you events that no longer serve you whether that's something that you have been volunteering for something that you do through work, whether you know, you have a volunteer position at work, I don't know. But there's events that are no longer serving you. Maybe it's something you did throughout your entire life that suddenly you're like, Hey, I no longer and I'm enjoying doing this, but it's something that I feel obligated to do. So I'm going to continue doing it. absolutely do not do that.

If it is no longer benefiting you. If it does not feel good to be doing it anymore. Stop doing it because you know what, we only live one life. And if you're not happy doing the things that you're doing, you need to put a value on your time. You need to value where your energy is going. And if you are doing all these events that are not serving you, you're going to drain your energy.

So there's different situations that are longer serving you. There's so many examples. I could give you I'm not even going to dive into that because you know exactly what situations are no longer serving you. So write those down. And there's habits that are no longer serving you. So like me, I'm sleeping in, I was binging on Netflix.

I was checking my phone in the morning, I now put my phone on airplane mode. As soon as I wake up in the morning, I have Do Not Disturb on all through the night so that in the middle of the night, I don't get any notifications. I don't get any phone calls. And it has served me so much to do that. Because when I wake up in the morning, the first thing that I do is I relaxed my body. I pray and then I end up opening my Bible.

I then turn my phone on off of airplane mode and I actually have an app in my phone where I can watch sermons from my phone. So I do that and that's the first thing that I do when I wake up. Whereas before a habit that was no longer serving me. I would open my phone at all. at Facebook, I would open it to my messenger, I'd open Instagram and I'd get all this overwhelm and all this craziness of all the things that I realized, Oh, I need to do this, I need to do that I would respond to this. And you could do that.

And by world's already turned into chaos because I don't have that time to have with myself, I don't have that time to fill my cup before I even wake up. I don't have that time to do my gratitude practice and just think of all the amazing things I have in my life that I'm grateful for. I wasn't making the time to do that in the morning. And that was not serving me. So I stopped doing that and I shifted my morning, morning habits. And the other activity that I have for you is going through what I call a sorting plate.

And this is something that's gonna probably be really hard for you to do and I want you I want it to be hard because I want you to really look deep into your life. And think of all the things that you're doing all the people, all the events, all the situations, all the habits, I want you to think about those because a lot of those are things that you necessarily don't need to be doing. So whether it's something that is not serving you, it's something that you can't control, something that's draining your energy, something that is not urgent. That is what I want you to be doing with these activities. So chances are, I mean, it may not be something that even qualifies with those. But as you're going through those, they should fit into one of those categories.

So I mean, I have for an example to give you an idea of how this activity goes for common thoughts. How will your review go at work? You have a review coming up at work, and you're freaking out and you're panicking going, oh my goodness, I get fired. Am I going to get all satisfactory rating Am I going to get very good? Am I going to get like, there's so many things that we can worry about that really is not worth your energy. And when you're thinking about this review that you're going to have at work, you can't control the outcome, this is not on you.

So this really, you are setting yourself up for all these negative thoughts. You're going down this downward spiral, when you can't control what is going to happen. This is something that is a waste of your energy, it's a waste of your time, and you need to just release it and just be okay with whatever happens and carry on with your day. And something that's draining your energy. Maybe you work at a job or career that you're not happy with. But it's time to make that shift and transition into something else in your life.

That may be something that is draining your energy, maybe it's house cleaning, maybe you need to hire a house cleaner, and there's no shame in hiring a house cleaner sending thank you cards. That's it. fantastic thing to do, I love to send them out to my clients, I love to send them out to just people in town or whoever I love sending out gifts. But this is something that I want to do. And it's not something that is urgent. It's not something where you know, so and so I was expecting a thank you card or a birthday card or a Christmas card or whatever.

They don't know that I'm going to be sending that. So you know what if I send it out a day later, a week later, a month later, it doesn't matter because this is not something that is urgent. This is something that you can put off on the side and go Okay, when I get a chance to do that, then I can go and do that. But it is not something that you have to do right now. You don't have to be stressing about it and focusing all your energy into like, Oh my goodness, I don't get this done. I'm a horrible parent.

I'm a horrible, horrible entrepreneur. I'm a horrible co worker and a horrible friend. And whatever it is that you're internalizing This is not urgent, and that is going to put you down the negative spiral of all these thoughts that really don't need to be going through your brain. Because I will tell you right now, that as soon as you have that one thought, it's going to turn into two thoughts. It's going to turn into three thoughts and then four and five. And next thing you know, you're in your bedroom crying, you don't want to wake up and you are suddenly going through an even deeper negative spiral and tell yourself how you're a failure.

And whatever it is that you're going to start telling yourself You don't have to go through that cycle. So that's why doing this activity is so crucial because a lot of the things in your life if you are one of those overachievers, if you're one of those people, that listless lis, you're one of those people who just you're a type A personality, and you have to get everything done right now because everything is crucial and you know, it's life or death. If this doesn't get done. So, if you are that kind of person who is you have to get everything done or if it's a life or death situation. It's not like that that is something that you're telling yourself. This is something that has stemmed from your past that has created you into that person that feels.

If I don't get this done right now, I'm a failure if I don't get this done right now, you know, A, B or C Hey, stop, it is gonna happen anyways, but I want to tell you right now that you have to be getting this. You don't have to, I really want you to get this assignment done. Because it has changed my life drastically since I've been able to prioritize what is actually needing to get done and what I feel like has to get done.