So in this video, I want to share Julie's progress. So after doing all the decluttering and organizing her apartment, we got started doing coaching sessions once a week, every Wednesday, from two to three, we will spend one hour and then I was trying to help you the move forward with whatever challenges he was facing. So you began to share with the audience like, what challenges were you facing right after doing the recording and the organizing that we did together? I think it was just around like what I did from day to day. Yeah, time management. Yeah, I guess I never thought of it that way.

Right. So like, planning things. I've never really done that. Well, I mean, I did when I was working, but now with no structure. It's over so many years. I just haven't really been I've had Have no excitement surrounding anything.

Hmm, no. No energy. And no, that's something due to with my eating and that But still, I just have no motivation. Like while I'm talking to my friend as I got my mojo today, and it's like that was like every day. So that was frustrating for you. Yeah, because part of me just felt okay just to sit back and then, you know, with everything organized now I felt really comfortable to do as much but then I was like, do I really want to just sit here on the couch every day and that's what I've been doing for months even after when few guys helping with the organizing and part of me wanted to move on.

Then but then when you talked about, I guess we just started talking about something. We were talking about me you're coming back here to do some things, more things here with some time that I had still available. And from there, you start to say something about well, what? Well, I talked about a few things. No, we will talk later on, you said something about how would you like to do some coaching around getting moving forward in your life and doing some more maybe get to a point where you do want to go home to dinner, maybe even do some part time work. And those are some things I have been thinking about.

And then all of a sudden you were saying that you would like to offer that to me and I just, I've just started crying because I've I've never had that kind of help and support in my life where someone no just like, I've thought about coaching in the last 20 years, like all that stuff is coming up from like coaching and stuff. But I didn't think of it that way. Even when you said that at first it was just like sign to help me do some of the things that I want to get out lunch. like seeing if I do want to go. Volunteering again or planning my days and getting out and doing the things that I need to do. Everything is just around.

I just have to do it. Nothing was was around. I want to do it. Cool. So can you share the exercise? One of the first exercises that we did?

Yeah, one of the first ones we did was by January. You're asking me to describe like a day and a week. What that looks like to me. Yeah, I have a nice week. Yeah. and exciting.

I always like what exciting, nothing's exciting to me enough. There's no joy in in my in anything. And so for me to, for you to say that to me or encourage me to do that. That was hard. I think I even called you about it. Because I just wasn't really sure, but it's like the it's always resistance to change, right?

Yeah, like a part of you wants to change. But the other part is kind of afraid. Because it's the unknown. It's uncertain. And it's like scary, right? So the first thing that we did was Oh, yeah.

So you asked me about this. Then I talked to a friend of mine. And she was I told her Yes, I told my friend about this and asked if she could help me with my homework. That's how I looked at it. And she said, yes, it should be available. And so she was going to check in with me and and start and I would just start saying some things to her, but she never did get around to calling me or texting me.

So Oh, yeah. The other thing was, you were asking me to do some things, either alone or with friends and to notice a difference. In situations and how much I can get done, so yeah, but, but I did do that, and I can't remember exactly what it was. Yeah, because you didn't have all the answers. Yeah, because I that's why I called my friend told my friend about it. Cuz I just I didn't even know where to start.

And that's, that's I just kind of went blank but you kind of force yourself to answer that yes. Crossing that's how does a nice day look for you How does a nice week look? And then once you have to start defining that, that's when you it's hard, but that's when you start becoming aware of like, I would like this. I don't like that. And then what do we do after that? Well, you did say to me to put little notes everywhere to say I I will find what excites me and I do Put notes all over the place and it was kind of notes.

No, I didn't. But um, yeah, I I put the notes up and i and i would i would start saying I would say it. Yeah. And it was hard to even say that first. And when I was saying it's going fine. I will I was like, I will, like, intentionally I will find something.

But then I was really hurt that that excitement thing? Yeah, for a long time. So then what was after that? Um, oh yeah, there's something I make sure that I dream and include anything that I may enjoy. And that was not I couldn't think of things that I enjoyed. The only thing I enjoy, or at that time for sure was just having my new apartment.

And especially with it now, being organized, but this is the type of apartment that I wanted everything that I wanted with it. And with Marlin, Marlin and me, that's really, I really wasn't visiting anybody. So that was really hard to me to think of what I would enjoy doing. But I did sit with a friend and we she actually, here she wrote down all the stuff here of what I would really some things I'd like to do like going to Oh yeah, what I would like to always thought of this I have enough money, just won some money or have extra money that I talked about. And then she started asking well describe it. So that's, that's what you asked me to do.

And let's see. There we go. We have there is another thing of I don't know if it's going to Spain, but it was like going up way somewhere and having the money and I remember that now. Saying that you have the money to do anything you said anything you wanted to So just going for going somewhere just learning what's going on with me I think you lost something over there so anyways, um so I went through and she wrote down the story of where I wanted to go and and I went through like going over there like having limo Take me to the airport and I just took off for a few days or something and and motel and just do whatever I want over there and go to a party and have the clothes brought to me and Pampers and just nothing I had to do great food, pampered some new things and just Do whatever I wanted over there for a few days.

So that was something that I wrote down from what you want me to talk about how white Why do you think this exercise? How do you like that? What was the purpose of the exercise? was to get me excited to get you excited. Yeah. And I look back in hindsight now I see how I was going on and on.

She was writing down everything I was saying. I kept going, like, I didn't think I'd keep saying something wanting to keep doing that, you know, expand on what it was that I was telling her. And the stuff about the dog motel not and yeah, I'm not answering I was like really, really excited but it was like, brought back some things that I have been thinking about before. I was having a lot of mental health. Like the mental health break down with everything going on in my life, and it brought back some of those things that I had thought about. I would love to do.

So would you say that your mindset changed? Yeah, yeah. Wait, yeah. Oh, yeah. Yeah. more optimistic more like, yeah.

I can't say the word excited but okay. I didn't feel I felt like I felt more on that side. So you're starting to start to feel more energy that way and use it to allow yourself to feel excited to Yeah, because there's something that you were blocking wearing. Yeah. Because I've you further Julian deserve it? Yeah, I'm just I think I wanted it but yet been so long without it.

That I'm like, No, I really, or can I do this? This is gonna be all too. Too much. You don't know how to have it? Yeah, yeah. Okay.

Yeah. So what do we do? After. So then we started doing you showed me what you do with your calendar and you started every day marking calendar when you started putting down stuff. So we started with the morning because I mean, the whole day was overwhelming for you. So we decided to get started with the mornings.

At Derek noon. Yep. And then tell me more about that. How was that exercise? I got to because I was being accountable. That was that was the other big thing about doing the coaching was, I need to be accountable.

And you knew when I make a photo when you did it every day? Yeah. And I yeah, I sent you a picture of it every day. And sometimes you didn't get to do it. And that's normal, but sometimes you do get every day so it was like a process. There's no there's no there's something here at St.

I lost. This was a march 3 I lost the Mojo Until that stuck, felt overwhelmed, and they started reading a whole bunch of other things here. But the, this journaling, for now is helpful to be more mindful of my time. And then I was tired the rest of the rest of the day. But that's Yeah, that's the huge thing about it. That was certain.

So after doing this for a few weeks, like, what improvements Did you see in your life? I started to Oh, yeah, I remember saying to you, I was starting to feel realizing how much time I was spending, just sitting, sitting in the morning and just thinking and not doing. Yeah. And that frustrating. Yeah. And I think through that time, too, that's where it starts stopping and that was it.

Sir, I really wanted to stop that and start thinking about that more and doing something about it. I got some goals. So yeah, I was thinking about goals. Like I was actually saying My goal is to eat by 930. Like, I'm up for a couple of hours and I still haven't perfected that yet. Nothing.

It's perfection is just around because I'm borderline diabetic that I really need to be more structured with my eating but with everything else, now that I'm trying, I'm doing the planning, realize I'm doing this and how much I've spent time in the mornings do nothing that I was starting to push myself to do a little bit more in the mornings before noon hour realizing how much I'm spending before noon, even right up until about 10 o'clock. I realized from doing this after a few months, I'm actually doing things between like 10 and 12. So you'll become aware of the activity That you were doing at the time that they were taking how you were feeling your energy levels. Yeah. And then you started to change things around until you found, like the recipe that works for you better, right? Yes.

So now I've seen I've gotten away from doing this for a while. And now talking about this, this is really good. Good. I deal with doing this because I'm starting to realize, I know I was all always always doing something three grateful things every day to Hmm, I don't know, that made a big difference. But it's got me thinking about it, which was a really good thing. And I think I want to start doing this again, because I'm finding myself still I'm kind of falling back into that doubt.

And in the mornings, this is a great exercise because once you once you do it over and over for a few weeks, it becomes a routine. So you may not need to do it again because you already know and you are aware of the activities that you want to do and the older of them. But once you start feeling that frustration coming back, that's when it's a good idea to maybe Do it for a few more days and see what's happening. Right. Yeah. And, and it's good that I'm because I'm feeling that way that I have you to be accountable to as well.

Like I'm still needing that support. And with having this continuing to support right now. It's I'm still leaning on it a bit because sometimes I'm like, Oh, yeah, coaching in this week, but I look back at it after a couple of weeks or so now. I'm like, still needing that because I, I'm leaving that, that sort of someone to lean on to push me again. And I'm so much want to get to the point where I'm not having to rely on someone to push me and you will, you will. So this is a work in progress it takes is like another we are being lazy.

Yeah, peeling the onion. So these was the first exercise that we did. And then in the Next video we're going to talk about finances because I was in the right yes. So stay tuned and in the next video finances