So now let's talk about what is assertiveness? Because you may be saying I want to become assertive, but I don't know what what it is I don't really know how to use it. And I would like to start with what is assertiveness. So, assertiveness is when you share what you want, what you need, and what you feel with respect and integrity. So, it means that you will be able to share what is inside you with other people and you will be respecting their needs. I would like you to treat others well.
Because when you will learn the communication techniques, you will see that they are aimed to treat others well. It means that if you want to be aggressive with them, if you don't respect them, I think that assertiveness may not be for you because they are becoming a search if remember, is communicating with respect to with integrity, you will be valuing the other people's needs, you will be respecting people, but you will be expressing what you want with total respect, integrity and honesty. So really, I encourage you to treat others well and treat others as you wish to be treated. So this is really great rule here, treat others as you wish to be treated. Also, I would like just to remind you, that the only behavior that you can control is your behavior. Because there are many people who think that in communication, you can control the other person sees that you will communicate and you will be able to control the other person's behavior.
And that's not the case. Because let's say that I'm interacting with you. I have 50% of the interaction, and you have 50% of the interaction. It means that it's an illusion for me to think that I can control 100% of the interaction. The only thing that I can control is 50%. So I will be stating what I want, what I need, what I feel with respect and with integrity, and then it's your part to accept it or not.
And I will show you the best ways on how you can really state what you want, and show what you feel show you needs to other people. And then they're the highest chance of them accepting, but I just wanted to show you that you can't control someone else's behavior. You can control your behavior. So this is what you will see in the scores. And how you can become assertive basically, is how can you control your behavior, how you communicate with people so that there are high chances of them accepting something or doing something that you want. Becoming a surgeon.
It's something that you do not something that you are, because there are some people who tell me, Alan, I'm not assertive, you know, I'm not like that. It's just the communication technique and Everyone can learn to be more searching. Becoming more searching is like playing sports. Everyone can get better at it, you will learn the best tools and the best techniques. And then if you practice them, you will become a search. Okay?
You can choose when to be a search, you will have access to tools and techniques to become a surgeon. And you don't have now to communicate with people all the time being assertive. It's like when you have a car home. Let's say that you want to go to the supermarket or you want to go to a place you don't always need to drive the car. Sometimes you can take the bus, it's here you will have the best tools and the best techniques that you can use when you want an if you want to use them. Okay, so this is what assertiveness is about, remember is to share what you vote what you need, what you feel with respect and integrity.
You can control your behavior. I would like you to treat others well. It's something that you do not something that you are and you will choose when to be assertive.