And then let's talk about the last piece. It's the surrendering This is where all the magic happen but this is where truly statistically there was a change. It was that where that pain the uncertainty, the anger, the grief creates us exhaustion, where there was just this final blow or people got to this point save not enough. I need to be who I am now I need to take stock I need to haul I need to begin feeling what the journey is doing to them it It leads to summon summoning of this change summons a change from the struggle to acceptance, but never never, never stopping. Never. There was not some persons that we would stop trying or giving up.

It was just a change in the way in which they looked at themselves, their bodies in the relationship they had with their journey. Think about that. What's your relationship with the journey that you have? This journey is yours. It's not going to play out like your best friends or your neighbors. It's Yours in our ability to own it, our own journey.

And to own it individually own it as a couple is incredible. So it's where you let go a lot of these past disappointments and the need to control it, we start to realize this might not be playing on our timeline and how we might be open to where journey might be taking us. And there's this level of hope and peace that's really rekindled. So it's a very powerful, powerful chapter. It's tough for me to do due diligence. I think once you're into that this chapter, you'll hear it but things to think about is in this rawness, it starts to become reflections.

We want you to think about how you might start to let go and shed the disappointments how you might shed this need to control the future while not ever giving up on this journey that's a lot there to rationalize and think through but but take a moment to do so. We want to talk about what became apparent through all this research was this reaching for life where people are actually started the reframe how they define themselves, moving from broken to whole and rediscovering things they love to do. As individuals. And as a couple, this is where life didn't wasn't on hold as they're living through the struggle. And then the last pieces is renewal and growth. It's where we move from living to try to really trying to live and how we start to embrace life again, and coming from this place of soundness and trust.

And I think that when we can bring people to that place, again, no one no one in this space, even the best treatment can suggest conception. But I think that we absolutely can put people in a much better, healthier place. And let me just tell you that there is so much research and evidence in terms of the importance of psychological interventions on pregnancy rates, it is proven that pregnancy rates actually increase when we psychologically understand and connect the challenge that I had as my wife and I as we didn't go to therapy and If you need therapy, you need to you should go to therapy, we are not a replacement to therapy. However, for so many people, they're just trying to fight through this thing kind of in the comfort of their own home. And I think that our ability to provide you a resource that can be done individually and certainly needs to be done as a couple can absolutely bring you that strength and that strength isn't just feel good strength, that strength can actually statistically make a difference in terms of outcomes.

So we covered so much in a short amount of time. I want to leave you with three things that are probably just things messages I've said but let me just leave you with three things to consider as you move forward. One. You absolutely need to do this processing work yourself. I will share with you some some amazing words from couples that talk about feeling free coming out of a cave and in a woman describing the amount of anger and resentment that was there. They just they didn't they didn't know it.

They weren't acknowledging it. They were surprised It versus processing it. It's incredible. The words that women and couples are using to describe what happens when we understand what is happening to us when we make sense of it. So that processing has to happen individually for you first. So you know, I'm big on the couple, but it has to happen individually for you first.

So I really encourage people to, to spend that time to individually to cognitively understand what we're going through. Number two, the same thing needs to happen as a couple. We have a lot of women to do our program first. And I just need to define my my footing first just had to almost understand what was going on because I didn't understand it, in that I couldn't wait to do this with my partner with my husband. So many people said it just allowed us to talk about things were in the room that we just didn't talk about. So the processing has to happen together.

So point number one, you need to understand what's happening. Number two, you've got to do the work together. We've got to get deeper in terms of our understanding of each other's emotions, the validation and really understanding how do we connect and meet in between, when we might be at different ends of the spectrum in terms of the power, we're experiencing what's happening to us. And then thirdly, and only till you do one, and then I think couples can really start to set a path that makes sense for them. If you there's too many things you're going to be told to do to look at, to try to not do to remove, you can be lost in the sea of suggestions. You need to come from a place that's centered, centered in united as a couple.

And then when you are in for my wife and I, for so many others, the path forward became clear. There were certain things that that needed to stay in our lives because they meant something to us into our relationship. And other things were clear that we felt good about these decisions and in the path that we might take. So until you do one in Once that is accomplished, you will have that clarity and clarity is sometimes half the battle known what we don't want to do is a great indication to know what we need to do. So that's my suggestion to you do the work, do the work together in that sit down and kind of create your plan that feels right for you. So that is I really hope that that this was helpful.

It's a lot I understand it's thick. I want to encourage anyone that if they do become a member of organic conceptions that you get full access to our course our cognitive based course for couples, all online privacy of your own home. It does come with a workbook and journal kits, wonderful kit that so many people said is my survival kit. either download it or we send you the kit. You'll also get access to our private community, just people who are moving through the class together, because we're going to equip you with the words and the language and this The poor community is really there to lift each other up. This isn't a place that we're talking about negative thoughts and what's not happening.

It's how we keep each other lifting and trusting. And as part of that we have a mentor community, women, like my wife who've been in it, who are there to connect with you, they're there to talk with you. And then every month we go live with a virtual support group. And that's our chance to talk openly, and talk about things and things that are hard and, and how we continues to use the principles to keep us all you know, trusted and connected and united. And then the last piece is I have this organic inspirational series every month I interview a couple, that's a couple of still still on their way still progressing forward. But they're using the concepts of what they learned in the self discovery work, to live healthy lives in the way they talk about what they're going through and what they're experiencing, and how they're using the tools to to live healthy and productive lives is just incredible.

So every month we give you access to another interview and it's just incredible. To keep you connected and keep you motivated and keep you really dialed in on emotionally staying healthy and well. So that is it. I thank you again for this time. It's been incredible for me to be able to share my own personal message and the work that we've done with the organization. If we can help you in any way possible, please feel free to reach out and connect with us.

We are here for you. We have your back. And we really trust you that you've got this in in the UK really congratulate you on your courage and vulnerability to spend some time emotionally exploring so well done today. Take care