So how does this all impact our body? Let me tell you the one thing that was probably the most frustrating thing that that my wife and I experienced. Of course, this was stressful. Do you really need someone to tell you that this isn't stressful? We know stress isn't good. We know there's a million things we could do for short term temporary stress relief, and then we can feel better for a couple hours, couple days.

But we know that it's these thoughts that build up it's these what if scenarios is this constant rumination of what should I be doing next? What is in our lifestyles that might be causing this and all these things that start to just exist that does lead at the end of the day to a stressful environment? And I had this great opportunity to meet a Dr. Amy Beckley. She is a PhD in pharmacology. She's also an expert in, in hormone signaling in Amy was educating me on that The importance of psychologically understanding where we are when we're living with uncertain times in our ability to psychologically connect in give couples the tools to say I have some choice on how I interpret what's happening to me, I have a choice in terms of the meaning that I give, I have a choice in terms of what I decide to do next, and how I take on this identity and how it rules my life or not.

And I think it's the room getting to the root that we can actually shine some light on the thoughts in these thoughts can wreak havoc on our reproductive health. So I'd like to show this short video from Dr. Amy Beckley describing that technically what's happening to in our emotional health in our reproductive health, let's play this short video. If you think about, you know what it means to be healthy. You need a healthy body and you need a healthy mind. And, you know, the healthy body is something that we think about first, the body has has one main goal to keep you alive, basically. And so all of your resources go to keeping you alive.

Your reproductive health is to create life. Your body needs to know that you're taken care of and you're in balance and you're in good health before it'll let you conceive and carry a child. If everything above is in balance, your menstrual cycle will also be imbalanced when our bodies as women are under stress, our cortisol, our stress system deals from our reproductive system. It basically says you're too stressed out we do not believe that you can carry a child to term and so they take they take those resources and turn it into cortisol which is a stress hormone. So it's very well you know, documented and researched that they are very interconnected once their mind right and there's there's trouble levels are in check. Their body will be more able to conceive and hold a pregnancy.

I mean, it's simple biology. So you can't just say I'm not gonna be stressed out today, you actually have to physically do something, take actions to to manage stress to just say I'm not stressed or I won't get stressed or I won't think about that is not good enough. I hate it. When doctors say this. I totally get it. Like, Oh, just don't think about it and then you'll conceive.

Okay, yeah, he's right. Then don't just say that I would have loved if your program existed when I was going through this eight years ago. It would have been phenomenal. I would have absolutely gone through it. I take steps to keep my body healthy every day. And I you know, if you have a program that takes steps to keep your mind healthy every day, it's absolutely gonna benefit you.

I love what you guys are doing. I love the program. It makes a lot of things Since I support it, I wish I had had it. So Amy's words are fascinating in in it's been an incredible education for me because at the highest level, I think that it's easy to think emotional health is just nice to have it's feel good. It's, it's, you know, it's just feel good stuff and reproductive health is physically fixing ourselves and getting to the bottom of what's happening. And I think her takeaway is that those systems are not mutually exclusive.

Those are highly independent and correlated and connected. However, how do you get to the root of our thinking, how do you make this shift that emotionally can bring us healing and strengthen a level of trust in the process when we're living with that uncertainty that can actually transform our reproductive health enter ensure that that court is always not stealing from us, I think bodies are smart. I do believe that for so many people research, as well as when I think about my wife and our own personal journey, there was so much worry. From early, early on with a couple months of of our delay in conceiving there was such a great level of worry and anxiety. And I don't think that we knew how to process that I don't think we knew what to do with it, except for she would go to yoga and do some meditation.

But you can see when the thought was right back in our head, and I do think the dynamic from my wife and I and our relationship and choices we made and how we interacted and the way my wife looked at her body, that all these things are different. We've got to get to the root of our thinking. And that can have a profound impact on our reproductive health. So I understand it's easier said than done. I understand that this kind of work of vulnerably exploring emotionally as an individual as a couple takes courage and those that do it however. I mean, I think we're, we're asking, many of us would do anything to kind of wish this problem to go away.

I think that to spend an hour a week for eight weeks or whatever it might be called this date night. But we've got to look deeper into our eyes at each other and we've got to start to, to emotionally connect them and that just have an outstanding impact on your quality of life and reproductive health.