Hey husband hero, I'm so glad you tuned into this video today about helping in the hospital. There's four main things that I really want you to consider when heading into the labor and delivery process and being helped your wife in the hospital. Now my wife and I rolled into the hospital as she was fully active in labor. We passed one of her co workers now my wife is a nurse, and one of her co workers there that morning, and I saw her and I was pushing my wife in the wheelchair. And I saw her co worker and I was like, Hey, what's up and my wife's not feeling good. I mean, she's in labor at this point.

And later, we talked to her friend and she said that was kind of a classic moment if the husband was so excited, and the wife just was trying to make it to the next minute. And so this is why I think it is so crucial and essential to help your wife in the hospital. And like I said, there's four main things. The first one is controlling the pain. Your wife is just trying to manage each minute to get through the pain that she's in. Experiencing through contractions, the second one is functioning minimally to answer the necessary questions that she must answer in the hospital.

The third one is, is my husband specifically me going to help enforce this birth plan that we've set out. And the fourth one is, I just need to get this baby out. Alright, so let's talk about the first one, controlling the pain, you're going to want to help her in that moment to remember how to control the pain, she's going to need to relax your muscles. She's going to need to breathe deep through the contractions, she's going to need to not fight the contractions, she might have to get into different positions, she would have to sit on a birthing ball, she might have to lean over the bed, she might have to simply lay down and breathe. There's all sorts of things that she might be going through, and you need to continue to talk with her and help her through that process. All right, the second one and this was not what I expected.

So as soon as you get into the hospital, depending on where you're admitted, whether the ER or you're called straight to the labor and delivery unit, there's going to be a myriad of questions coming at Your wife. So this is where I recommend you know as much about your wife's personal information, her pregnancy information, her birth plan, and just whatever else they might ask, try and be prepared. Talk about these things with your wife before you get to the hospital. I remember so clearly this hospital administrator, she was a secretary, and she was trying to gather information. And she was actually trying to find out which pediatrician we're going to after the baby delivered. I understand it's her job and my wife is literally at that moment throwing up into a bucket.

And she's like almost pulling the bucket down to like, keep asking my wife questions. And I said, Ma'am, can we talk about this later, perhaps? I wanted to say a lot more than that. But you got to remember, try not to make a scene. Try not to get frustrated. You want good care.

And you got to remember that these people are human and you would hate to upset the wrong person and not get the care that your wife needs. So try not to be too egotistical at this moment and be kind to those assisting your wife through the labor and delivery process. Alright, so Like I said, make sure you know different facts about your wife personal pregnancy birth plan. Alright, that rolls into the next point, are you going to be accountable for your wife's birth plan, she has so much going on in order to push this baby out. Knowing her birth plan and following it to a tee is very important. So talk about the birth plan with your wife, we've provided a whole checklist for your wife to create a birth plan of her own.

And so review that with her talk about it, ask her questions. Why does she want to do that? When will that happen in the labor and delivery process, so you can be aware of making sure that that is enforced, if possible, ask a ton of questions to the nurses to the doctor. That's what they're there for. They're there to care for your wife. And so you want to make sure that you're asking, okay, what's going on.

Now? Why are you doing that? Does that correlate with the birth plan? Okay, we actually are going to be doing that. Can we not do that? Is that something you have to do because of something my wife is going through medically, that if you don't do that, she'll get in risk of you know, bleeding or whatever, whatever.

They're just going to go through You're kind of the normal routine. So you need to make sure you're telling them okay, this is what we want to happen. No, we don't want pain meds. No, we do want vaccines, no, we don't want vaccines, whatever it might be, be the enforcer of the birth plan. Let your wife know I've got this. I'm taking care of this, how we she can focus on delivering the baby.

That is huge. That took so much weight off of my wife, and I know your wife will appreciate it as well. Alright, lastly, getting the baby out. I think this is super crucial. Whatever your wife needs at this moment, be there for her. My wife was very warm during her delivery.

And so I constantly was filling up rags with cool water, putting them on our head. I probably did that three or 400 times throughout the pregnancy, labor and delivery process. And that's something that she really appreciated. I stood by her side. I didn't touch her much except putting that on her head. She didn't really want to be touched.

Talk with your wife. Maybe she does want to be touched. That'll be up to her. So that's something that's really important is helping her as she's getting the baby out. Also I'd recommend, if she wants you to go look and see if the baby's head is coming out. Do that even if you're squeamish of blood or your wife looking very strange in her lower extremities.

Make sure that you're doing that for her because you are being her eyes. You're being the one that's saying, yes, you're doing this. Yeah, the baby's head is, is this far out, and then it's this far out. She can't see that. She needs to know that she's making progress. My wife's biggest concern was, am I actually doing anything?

Is this pushing it actually helping? And so I had to tell her Yeah, you're one push closer, you're one push closer. And I feel like I've said that so many times, and then the baby finally came out. And so you really have to be there be her eyes be her help through that process. Alright, now I want to leave you with one more thought before I conclude. And that is when you feel like you can't do it anymore.

The baby is about to deliver. And that's something that I had to say to my wife when she was overwhelmed when she felt like she couldn't take anything more pain and she was absolutely exhausted. And that is a process that many, many women will tell you that they have gone through, after the fact that they felt like they couldn't make it another second, and then the baby delivered. So when your wife gets to that point, she says, I just can't do this anymore. You say, That's the point. When you're almost there when you're just about to deliver, keep fighting, keep pushing, you can do this and your wife needs that from you.

She needs to know that she can do this. I hope this has helped. If you have any questions about the pregnancy labor delivery process, I would suggest you jump onto your wife's parently account, go into the husband hero section, and take that topic and writing your questions myself or some of the other dads inside apparently would love to answer those questions, encourage you and help you along in this process.