Resilience is very popular as a topic currently. Everyone's talking about how to build resilience in order to cope with the stresses and strains of everyday life and the odd exceptional circumstance. It's become very fashionable for organizations to look at building resilience in people, and they look to the Chartered Institute of professional development they cipd psychologists, coaches and trainers to help them with assess while endeavor. Yet there are a number of commonly used phrases that are often used when working with resilience and these may exacerbate the issue. These phrases are used so often you probably use them yourself every day without even thinking about them. Resilience involves bouncing back.

Resilience is often defined as your ability to bounce back from the stresses of life. The idea of resilience as an aspect of human behavior originates from material science where it describes the property of the material to resume its original shape after distortion or stress to bounce back. The issue with the phrase bouncing back is that there is an expectation that people are going to return to a state where nothing has changed. You show good resilience by possessing a firm, reliable acceptance of reality, a deep belief supported by strongly held values that life is meaningful, and an ability to be creative, adaptable and to improvise. This has got nothing to do with bouncing backwards or forwards because you continually evolve and improve yourself by learning from your environment and your mistakes. And in this way you develop your resilience resilient people are better at managing positive and negative emotions.

Emotion is a complex state of feeling resulting in physical and psychological changes that influence thought and behavior. Emotions are controlled through the interactions of your amygdala and hippocampal complex within the limbic system of your brain. This part of the brain has no language processing ability. It's your neocortex, the thinking part of the brain that assigns the label to the emotion. The issue with the phrase positive and negative emotions is that it assumes some emotions to be good and some to be bad. Emotions are emotions.

You experience them for a reason. They developed over eons through evolutionary processes as a survival mechanism. It's not the emotion that's positive or negative. It's the thought process and the behavior that accompanies it the requirements the label. Anger is often referred to as a negative emotion. Yet it serves you well to right or wrong.

To be more attentive and careful in your thinking and to motivate you at certain times. Fear is often referred to as a negative emotion. If it's so negative, why can you get so much enjoyment from horror movies and scary films? Happiness is often referred to as a positive emotion. It's suggestive of a state of blissful Nirvana that you must aspire towards. Yet, it's not an appropriate emotion that solemn occasions.

Also happiness will limit you in your ability to communicate effectively, negotiate well and make critical decisions. It can encourage riskier behavior. Yours encourage you to take shortcuts and lead you to make more mistakes. Resilience is developed through the intelligent application and expression of identified emotions. This is known as emotional intelligence. resilient people have good work life balance.

Resilience is about having a clear realistic focus of what's important and being able to prioritize effectively. The issue with the phrase work life balance is that it compartmentalizes everything into work activities, meetings, clients, trips, conferences, and life activities, family commitments, holidays, hobbies, keeping healthy. Think about it. The phrase is actually meaningless. Life is not at one end of folk With work on the other end, work is an integrated part of life. You only have one life, you just happen to live some of it while working and some of it engaged in other activities.

Like most people over the age of 20 work takes up a major proportion of your life and it has to be realistically integrated into all of your activities to give you a rich, rewarding and meaningful focus. Resilience is developed through realizing what is necessary and important. keeping fit and healthy and building rewarding authentic relationships inside and outside of work. It's all about personal organization and finding better ways to relax. perspective on issues and your ability to look at problems creatively is lost under continued stress the public polarity of resilience tries to rectify this. However, your good intentions could be diminished by the inappropriate language that you use quite inadvertently.