Great, now you have a better understanding of the importance of mentors and really why you should spend time to identify a mentor and build that relationship could because it's really going to affect your career and your life in positive ways. Now we want to figure out how do you find the right mentor for you. So let's take a look at that process. We're going to cover eight steps to help find the right mentor for you. But before we begin, as usual, get out some paper and pen so you can take some notes. Number one, find someone you want to be like.

This might take a little bit of time and research, but don't be discouraged. You'll find somebody quicker than you think. Identify a handful of people who you would like to be like, make sure that they are fairly local, so it's reasonable to meet them. Remember, these are people who you need to build a relationship. With you need some one on one face to face time. Then choose people who have qualities that you would like to have yourself.

Don't simply choose someone because they have a great job or make a lot of money. You don't want to be superficial. Remember, we're looking for someone who was able to help you become more like they are regarding their philosophy, their skill sets and their experience. Also, take the time to do some research of people in your industry, in your major in your field. If you can't already quickly Name three to five people. So what I'd like you to do is make a list of people who you might like to emulate who you might like to be like, are they local in your area?

If not, where are they remember, we want to be as local as possible so you can meet them and what quality Do they have that you admire? What qualities personal or professional do you like about them? Take a moment and try to answer these questions on your piece of paper. Number two, you'll need to study the person, at least a little bit. What I want you to do is learn more about each of these persons you've written down. Google them, see if you can find their blogs, visit their social media, I'm sure there's somewhere online and make a list of what you think their personal strengths are and their personal weaknesses might be.

You'll come up with better ideas as you research them a little bit more. So start with Google, choose one person, Google them what pops up, you might be surprised. Do they have a possible book, a blog, or they own social media? Check out their Facebook account if they have one Twitter account if they have one link Didn't account which they probably do. And number three, ask for a short meeting. However, don't ask them to be your mentor any point.

Remember? That's a no no question. Instead, ask for that short meeting and try to keep it I don't know, 30 minutes to an hour, short and simple. You don't want to burden them in any way you want to make this as comfortable as possible. So make it informal, perhaps grab a cup of coffee. Try to have that natural conversation, but bring along a few specific questions with you that you would like to ask them to learn more about them and their perspective on things.

Write down three questions you might ask each of these individuals. Now, depending on the person, you might have different questions, who knows? Try to individualize your questions, make them more specific to each of the persons that you are potentially meeting? What advice would you like for them? What would you like to know more about them personally? Would you like to know the struggles they've encountered?

Would you like to know their biggest accomplishments? Would you like to know just general advice they might have for you for evaluate each meeting after the fact, after you've actually finished and completed each of these meetings. Ask yourself, if you'd like to spend more time with this person, if you had a good feeling, and you want to spend possibly more time this person and build a relationship, great. Maybe they're the mentor for you. Did they encourage you more or tell you what to do more? Remember, a good mentor is not someone who's telling you how to do things.

Instead, they're guiding you in a general direction. So if they're encouraging there's another green flag that maybe This person is a potential good mentor. And did you leave the meeting feeling inspired and better about yourself, if so fantastic. If you get a green flag for all three of these, then this person might really be the mentor you're looking for. Number five, follow up with those you hope to see again. Now let's say you have five meetings, some of these meetings might not go as you expected, you might not get that good feeling and encouragement from some of these people.

So you might scratch them off your list as potential mentors. However, those that you do want to keep on your list you want to follow up with and there's a specific way you might want to do that. Number one after you choose a potential mentor or mentors, send an email or a text within 24 hours and kindly thank them for their time. That's just good. Again, good manners, then let them know that you would like to meet again some time. Don't put anything specific down yet, because you want to get a feel you want reciprocation.

You want that feeling that they also enjoyed their meeting and might like to spend some more time with you again in the future. And if they seem willing to meet again, then take advantage of that. Offer to get something on the calendar as soon as possible. Make a date set a time. But of course, don't set that time too soon after your initial meeting six, let the relationship grow naturally so fantastic. you've planted that seed of a relationship.

Now you want to let it grow as it normally would. You don't want to push it. This is the start of a relationship, hopefully, a long lasting mutually beneficial relationship. Don't try to label This person as your mentor just yet, that takes a little bit more time. Be sure to listen to their advice, apply that advice in your life, and let them know how things work out. All right.

So ladies and gentlemen, pay attention to this one. This one is key. Let me repeat this one more time. Be sure to listen to their advice, then apply that advice and your life take action, make things happen. And then after you've done it, and you've put in the effort and time and tried, let them know how things have worked out. Mentors will really appreciate it, because it shows that you've really listened to them and you've taken the time to implement their advice.

Seven, expect challenging times. That's just the nature of things right. real growth requires challenge we don't really grow without that challenge. Expensive your mentor to push you at times. Yes, your mentor is a guide. But they're also there as that parent figure in a sense, and that parent figure is going to push you in times of challenge throughout obstacles so that you become better tomorrow than you are today.

And be willing to push yourself and accept criticism for your mentor. Criticism is a necessary thing, at least constructive criticism is listen to that criticism and use it to your benefit. And don't be afraid to ask for feedback. But if you do, again, make sure you act on that feedback. And finally, number eight, don't give up stay committed. Mentoring takes time and effort.

And throughout that time and effort. You've got those obstacles and challenges. Some people give up way too early. And remember you only fail when you give up So over time, this relationship should benefit both of you, both you and your mentor in several ways. Learn from the overall experience, because one day, you will be the mentor, most likely, you will have developed the experience, the skills, the understanding, to mentor someone else, potentially at one point in the future. So I want to leave you here with One important note, remember, Keith ferrazzi, the author of the book, never eat alone, he made a special point that he doesn't want people to forget.

And that is, make an effort to identify somehow how you can get back to your mentor. Now, this might not be obvious at first, but as the relationship grows, and as you better understand your mentor, you'll find ways to give back. Make sure you do that. Now that you've taken the time to go through the process of Better identifying potential mentors, I want you to get out you're identifying a mentor worksheet and looking at the notes that you've taken just recently put that into this particular worksheet. Real quick. There are 123 examples, all the same information with potential mentor number one, put in that person's name.

Then, what do you like about this person? What qualities do you admire from their listening resources where you can learn more about them? These may be books, blogs, social media, etc. Finally, list these three questions that you would like to ask them regarding their advice, potentially your major, your industry or their lives. Keep this information handy. So the next time you get ready to meet any of your potential mentors, you'll be ready for that meeting.

Okay, so let's recap our eight Steps to find the right mentor. Number one, identify people that you want to be like to study them. Do your research, Google them. Three, get that short meeting over coffee or something like that. Remember, 30 minutes to an hour is fantastic. For after the meeting, evaluate that meeting.

Did you get a green flag or a red flag regarding them being mentor quality? Five, follow up with those who you would like to continue a relationship with. Six let the relationship grow naturally. Remember, don't push it. Seven. Expect these challenging times they happen to everyone so you don't give up.

And finally, stay committed. Congratulations, ladies and gentlemen, guys and girls. Now you have a much clearer idea on how to find the mentor that you need and you want let's get ready for the final section of this core lesson, mystery question answered.