In this video, we're going to go over the vocabulary of confidence. So we're going to go ahead and jump right into this here, I want to make sure that we dig deep into the vocabulary of confidence. So let's go right ahead and jump right into this here. When it comes to communication when it comes to talking to other people, when it comes to voicing your opinions, most people are typically speaking unconsciously, which means that they don't give a lot of what they're saying a lot of purposeful thoughts. They don't really think about what they're actually saying to the point where it makes perfect sense. And it's logical, right?

And so these type of habitual patterns reflect and reinforce a person's thinking beyond confidence, or the lack thereof. And so in most people's communications, there are certain words that they're using to describe certain things that are reinforcing their lack of confidence. And so here are some words that you want to eliminate and completely remove from your vocabulary. Okay? So, first one here, try. So if you're saying try, what you're really saying is you're not confident in your abilities.

And if you've seen the old Star Wars movies, and you know about Yoda, he was a Jedi Master. And one of his famous quotes was, there is no try, there's only do, right. And so when you are talking, and you're saying, Hey, I will try this, I will try to do this, which means that you don't have confidence in your abilities, right? One of the biggest things that has really changed my life is being able to look at things from this perspective. Okay, let me give you an example here, of this whole try and how I've changed it. So I look at things to the point now where it's like, I may be wrong, but I'm never in doubt.

Which means that I'm not just going to try right to do this. I may go and I may fall on my face. I may do completely wrong. But I'm never in doubt, right? Because the thing is, if you try something, you're typically going to be hesitant, you're typically going to be not giving it 100%. Because you don't believe in your abilities, right?

Versus if you have complete confidence in your ability, right, and your ability to make things happen, even though you're going to fail at first. Because when you have the thought process of trying, you're not going at it full force, you're not giving it 100%. And when you have the thought process of You know what, I may be wrong, but I'm never in doubt. I may fall on my face, but you know what, I eventually will get it. I'm never going to give partial effort. I'm going to give 100% of my effort, every single time.

And I may be wrong, but you know what, I'm never in doubt. So think about this word, try here and remove it from your vocabulary. Okay, and the next word is hope. So this presupposes is a lack of action. So I hope things will get better. I hope my situation resolves itself, versus I'm going to take action.

And I'm going to make this happen. And I'm going to make this situation better, right? So you need to take control of those words and change them to action words, because it presupposes you making a change and you change in it. Hope is just a matter of like you wishing, hoping praying, and just kind of sitting there thinking and hoping that something's going to change, you need to be the one that's making the change, right? Here's a good example of some sentences from the shy sentence to the confidence thing. So here's a shy one.

I hope I can travel to Europe someday, versus I'm making travel plans to travel to Europe next month. Think about how definite and precise that is. And it's action oriented. And you're setting a timeline right, that goes back to this moment. goals, right? Where you have very definite plans.

And, you know, they're measurable, there's a timetable in there. And you're not just hoping and wishing that someday somehow you're going to get there. And you're going to do X, Y or Z, right? So understanding the vocabulary of confidence is really important here, because these kind of words will completely derail your confidence. So here's some more words to eliminate and completely removed from your vocabulary. So would, presupposes there's something or some condition that stopping you.

So here's some examples of a shy and confidence sentence. So a shy when I would talk to that girl now, if only I didn't have these clothes, if only I had better clothes, if only I had, you know, prepared myself mentally, whatever, all these different excuses and all these different things that we want to tell ourselves versus I will talk to that girl right now. Right? So that's difference with wood with the shy and confidence type of sentence now could presupposes there's something or some condition that's stopping you the same exact thing as wood. So a shy sentence versus a confident one, a shy one here, okay? I could go meet that person a confidence since I will go and meet that person.

If you really think about wooden could, it's really about understanding that it's not about you, potentially probably maybe doing something as Hey, I'm going to do this right now or I'm going to do this this day, right? This date that I have set up. So really, really important here. And then we have should, and wish so let's go over should here should implies that there's expectations projected onto you that you don't have a choice in how you want to behave. So think of a sentence like this. I should be doing this right now.

I should be doing my homework right? According to whom, whose expectations, so saying should is like keeping yourself hostage, right by limiting your choices. So here's a shy sentence. I have a test coming up I should be studying right now. Versus I have a test coming up. I choose to study right now remember, all of these are about you taking control and taking action and making things happen versus just hoping and wishing and locking yourself into a box, right?

And here's wish this is one of the biggest killers here presupposes that something is out of your control. It's just like throwing a penny into a magical fountain, wishing that something's going to happen for you, right. Here's some examples of a shy and confidence sentence. So I wish I had more money versus a confident one is I want to make $5,000 a month and I will create a plan and take massive action to work my plan so I can start making $5,000 a month. Notice how precise definite, right? There's a time table on that.

And it's really definitive. That's the biggest thing here, you want to get as definitive as possible. And you want it to be where you're going to be taking action, instead of just hoping and wishing and praying. So I really wanted you to understand the vocabulary of confidence, and be able to change the words that you're using to describe things right, you're no longer going to be using wish, hope, could should, using words such as try and hope, because you're going to be definitive, you're going to say, I will, I am. I'm going to be doing this right. Because you are resourceful.

And you have been confident in different areas of your life and you can be confident in any area of your life that you want to be. As long as you understand how you're talking to yourself, utilize the right resources, utilize the right techniques. So these are the words that you want to make sure you eliminate and a completely removed from your vocabulary. So here's some words that you want to add to your vocabulary to enhance your confidence. So words such as absolutely, definitely positively, without a doubt, of course, certainly, naturally Sure, right? All these different words do for you.

They communicate a congruent message that says, Okay, this is how it is. And I'm confident of this. And there's absolutely no doubt in my mind that this is the way it's going to be right? Notice how people respond as well how people respond differently to you. Once you're using these types of words. Let's say one of your friends or your significant other asks you Okay, hey, what do you want to do?

There's a number of responses that you can actually respond with. And so here's a couple that one is undecided, and the other is a confident sentence. So let's go through these here, one by one. So the undecided sentence, this is I don't know. I don't care. These are people who are just kind of like add, you know, shrugging their shoulders, I don't really care, I don't really know, this is an app.

And then versus somebody who is confident, they're going to use a sentence like, Hey, I definitely want to go and grab a bite to eat. And then later, we can go watch a movie, or I definitely or absolutely want to go do this, right, you know, and it doesn't need to be completely precise, right? Because going and grabbing a bite to eat, then you got to go and choose where you want to go. But at least you have been a lot more clear about your intentions, right? And so understanding the differences here between someone who is confident and wants to do something, and someone who may want to do something, but is maybe too shy to say exactly what it is that they want. Remember, people who are participating in shy behavior are typically going to be undecided.

They don't really want to, you know, say things that may hurt other people's feelings. They don't want to receive criticism. So oftentimes Don't just let other people decide, but you as a confident individual are going to change that and use confident behavior and respond confidently. So that's going to be here for this video and we'll see you on the next one. Thanks