In this video, we're going to go over the myth of the shy gene. Now, a lot of people that consider themselves to be shy, or have a shy characteristic, they consider themselves to be that, right, that actual label, they are just a shy person, there's no way around it is just who they are. Right. And while I agree that some people are more open, more outgoing, right, and naturally, you being a shy person doesn't necessarily mean that you are completely shy, completely shut off, and that you don't like talking to people, you just have to be a little bit more reserved, but the whole concept of being born shy and having this shy gene and you're just born with it. It's completely false. And I'm going to share with you how this is really a false narrative here.

This is something that people have identified with, but it's not necessarily true. So let's go right ahead and jump into this here. So most people who act shy Do it because that's the label that they've placed on themselves. They have taken the identity of You know what, that's just who I am. I'm a shy person, I am shy. And so what they're doing is they're reinforcing them being shy by stating this to themselves and others, they're telling other people, hey, this is just who I am.

This is just you know how I am. And so this all becomes a self fulfilling prophecy, right? Because what you believe to be true is true, regardless of what others think or say, or whatever kind of logical argument that may have against you. Because ultimately, in our world, in our realities presented by our beliefs, what we think about ourselves, right and externally projected. So here's the thing, people do not become shy automatically. When they're born.

There's no shy gene, right? And so what ends up happening is people become shy because they've learned to behave and act in that particular way. Right, just like with color, confidence, right? You can be born with confidence right? Right out of the womb, you come out and you're just naturally more open, more talkative, right? And you're more extroverted.

However, people that are, you know, completely shy have taken that identity. And while people may be more extroverted than others, and some may be more introverted than others, that doesn't mean that they're completely one way or another, right? It's about not being able to just label somebody, I am this I am that right? It's about understanding that it's always somewhere in the middle, the truth realize somewhere in the middle, right? Because you think about it, somebody who is shy, who has just expanded their awareness and now knows and believes that you know, what, shy is just something that I've placed on myself a label that I have let others and myself you know, reinforce. And so it's become a self fulfilling prophecy, but I know that I am resourceful and that I can change This by placing a different label on myself, and by utilizing different techniques and strategies so that when that thought comes into my mind of me being shy, then I have the resources available so that I can overcome that thought, and actually not reinforce that I'm shy and reinforced that I'm actually open and talkative.

And I can talk to people without any problems, right? So shyness is really just a way of acting. It's just an action that you do, right? It's just like having confidence. It's just something that you do, right? And it's a behavior.

It's not an adjective that describes a person. It's not a state of being, it's literally a way of acting, you're acting shy, you are not a shy person, right? You can behave in a competent manner as well. You always have the choice. People that are locked into the belief pattern, and the label that they've placed on themselves that I'm shy, right they don't realize that they are placing themselves inside of a box, and they're not able to look and expand around that, right? Because again, having shyness or being shy is really just a behavior.

It is not describing somebody. And when you think about it, a lot of people that are shy, typically don't like talking to people because they're afraid of what others may think or say about them. They're afraid to get critiqued, right. So think about somebody who is shy because they're seeing inside their mind. They're saying, Hey, I don't think this person is going to like me here, she won't like me, and then feeling bad inside, and then picturing themselves getting rejected. So it's all these different pictures and it's processes that are running inside of their mind, that is telling them and reinforcing them, that they are shy, and they get fear and they get paralyzed, and then they don't want to go out and step into the real world and actually not do things that are actually going to reinforce their shine.

So, it's really important to understand that shyness, again, is just a behavior. And when you understand that you as an individual are not shy. It's literally just a behavior that you do. And you understand the mental process that you go through. Once you have labeled yourself as shy, then you can utilize the resources in this course the techniques, right, the methods to be able to stop that negative thought pattern, then in its tracks, and exchange that with a more positive thought process so that you can eliminate the actual trait or the description of yourself right as somebody who is shy. So that's going to be here for this video.

And we'll see you guys on the next one. Thanks.