In this video, we're going to go over the difference between self confidence and self esteem. These are often confused as the same, but there's a significant difference between having confidence in yourself and having self esteem. And in this video, we're going to cover the differences here between the self confidence and the self esteem. So you can have a better understanding of what both of these actually mean. So self esteem is the intrinsic value that you see yourself having in the world. This is your own internal value, your own word that you place upon yourself, essentially how much positive regard and or self love that you have for yourself.

Do you love yourself? Do you see yourself as someone that has a tremendous amount of value to add to the world, right? self esteem develops from experiences and situations that have shaped your view of yourself. So different things that you've encountered different situations in life, and it's possible that you're self confident in certain areas of your life but still have low self esteem. An example of this is where you can be self confident talking to, let's say, females, okay? Let's say you're a male, and you have no problem going up and talking to the opposite sex, right?

But you, for whatever reason, have low self esteem, the internal value that you have of yourself for yourself, for the entire world, how much value you can provide, right? And if you have confidence in talking to the opposite sex, but then you don't feel that you're very valuable to people, well, then your actions unconsciously, are going to be that of somebody who has that low self esteem. And with that low self esteem, what's going to happen is you're going to be very confident, right, talking to females talking to the opposite sex, getting into relationships, but then once you're in a relationship, you're not going to feel very valuable to the other person, you're not going to feel very valued. To the world, and so you're going to do things, and you're going to take action in a way that shows that you're not very valuable. So then you're going to oftentimes, you know, cause relationships to to break up, you're going to cause other people to feel certain ways, like you have something wrong with you, right?

Because you have this self confidence in talking to people, but you do these different things that portray you and convey to the world that you don't have very much self esteem. And this is what low self esteem typically looks like. So statements such as I'm not good enough, I'm going to ruin this I don't like myself. These types of phrases are examples of how someone feels who is struggling with low self esteem. Remember, somebody who is confident talking to the opposite sex, but then thinks that they're not good enough in a relationship or as a partner, and have these thoughts of, Hey, I'm going to ruin this. That's where that low self is.

Steve comes in, right. And that's where it typically ruins relationships because that particular individual has already that thought process in their mind that they're not good enough that they're going to ruin this. And so all of that becomes a self fulfilling prophecy. And low self esteem typically comes from unhealthy friendships, personal relationships, right family trauma, different types of experiences that have created this particular thought pattern, and belief about oneself. And so these patterns of thinking, manifest themselves into feeling bad. And as I mentioned, they'll turn into self fulfilling prophecies because if that's what you're telling yourself, if that's what you're believing, then your actions are going to be in accordance to what you believe and how you're feeling.

So once you start to accept yourself and embrace your uniqueness, your self esteem is going to improve which is going to make you more confident and so increasing your self esteem about becoming confident in different areas of your life. But then also being able to acknowledge, understand, become aware of negative thought patterns that are going on in your mind that you can control, right? Because oftentimes, we have different thought patterns, different trains of thought that are going on in our mind. And we feel that we have no control. And we have to give in to that. But there's a lot of different techniques that we can do to stop negative thinking patterns dead in the tracks, and then be able to replace them with positive thoughts with positive things that will help us change our limiting beliefs and our view of ourselves so that we can increase and improve our self esteem.

Now a really good example of someone who has very high self confidence in one particular area, but then has low self esteem is an example here of somebody who is really good with public speaking, right? Somebody who has no problem going and talking to A stadium full of people, right? But asking their boss for a promotion. And asking them for more money typically scares them because in their mind, they're saying that you know what, I don't think that I'm very valuable. I don't think that my boss sees me as someone who is valuable in their mind so that they could give me that raise. Right?

So when they have that low value of themselves, they're scared. They're terrified to go out and ask people right to do something for them, right, give them a promotion, because they may deserve it. Right? They may be have been working their butt off, but if they don't feel inside, that they are valuable, right, then there's no way that they're going to be able to do things in accordance to having high self esteem. So they just you know, keep their mouth shut or don't take action on it. And it just becomes a self fulfilling prophecy.

They Don't believe in their value and their worth. And it typically manifests itself with just, you know, not taking action in that particular area. So, hopefully you're able to understand now the difference between self confidence and self esteem. And through this course, as I mentioned, we're going to go through several techniques, different strategies that we can use mentally, so that we can overcome negative thought patterns and be able to replace them with positive ones. So that's going to be here for this video, and we'll see you on the next one.