Now whether you are an employee or you have your own business or you're the boss of work, the general rule of thumb when fighting divorce is that you should take some leave together yourself. If you cannot take two weeks or even three or four days, take as much time as you can, what is reasonable even if it's a few afternoons in the week, not only are you going to need that time to be alone and think but you also need some privacy to kind of experience the emotions that you're experiencing. Some people find that they need that kind of work routine to carry them through the crisis and the comfort on that work routine is one thing but we wary of throwing yourself into work as a total distraction too soon. As we've said in previous videos, you work can often become one of those shows short term emotion avoidance tactic, so be careful about having work be your thing or your crutch to avoid feeling.

When you do go back to work. There's some general tips that are helpful. First things first is very common. To feel foggy and unclear during the first few weeks of a divorce, or breakup, your mind is going to be preoccupied with all these feelings. And it's therefore a really good idea to write down action points and notes from meetings. So that you have that reference.

Pay very special attention to requests that have been made from you. And remember that with all that adrenaline and cortisol in your bloodstream, that hippocampal function in the brain is limited. So write those things down. Next up, is ensure that you communicate clearly about what you're willing to take on and what timeframe you can commit for those outputs. Add on a buffer of at least 30% of all deadlines as you not going to be your usual productive self. So if you're used to doing things if you say two days I would say do it in two and a half or three.

And you know, with add on a little bit more time so that you have some space for the kind of vacant nest that you're feeling. Next up is make a point of taking a break at least three or four times during the day. definitely take a lunch break. In the afternoon, make sure that you also get out and go for a bit of a walk. Leave the office if you can get some fresh air, it's important to take that time out when you're under severe stress. Walking has also been proven to be a good way to kind of ground ourselves when we're feeling very emotional or stuck in our head to remain calm.

Also drink a great, great amount of water and peppermint tea. also cut down on the alcohol levels and during the week so that you don't feel all dehydrated and kind of spaced out during the day. We also recommend if you're feeling full of anxiety and a lot of stress to use something called rescue remedy. Rescue remedy can be obtained from most pharmacies and how stores and just put a few drops on the tongue and it really soothes and calms people down. It's a homeopathic substance so it's not necessarily something that needs to be prescribed. A great way to remain calm and focus at work is also to listen to something like the negative divorce breakup reboot.

So that can be obtained from our website, which is negative or stock And that's a kind of audio hypnotherapy relaxation program. And it will help you put in a great space so that you can focus on what all this life looks like when all this problem and situation is over. If possible, do not discuss the details of your divorce or your breakup was one of your colleagues. Even if these people are your good friends in your life discussing these details outside of work, and with these people, it's only going to make things more complicated in the workplace. Often you can become the big gossip topic of the day. I will also avoid long crying sessions with your colleagues at a bar when the parking lot when the kitchen area.

I know that it can be really delicious to win the sympathy vote but this strategy is not going to help you get promoted or be seen as someone who is successful and competent. Having all the details of your personal life basket around the office will only add to your stress and that can count against you if you're looking to climb the corporate ladder later. Run. So those are some general tips. Let's look at more specific tips if you're in a situation where you yourself are an employee wanting to keep your job, or likewise if you're the boss or in charge and you're looking to keep your job as well