All right, so let's give you some tips. If you're an employee and the office, then you want to work out how to make sure that your divorce doesn't impact your career or your work. First of all, first and foremost, make sure that you tell your boss or your manager what you're dealing with. But do this in a very brief and Matter of fact way. Don't give them the gory details, just tell them the basics and then ask for a few days off. deal with any urgent matters that won't wait until your return.

And if you think that you're going to get very overly emotional then just write a very formal email or letter. Now, no matter how evolved, you think your workplace may be most working environments are not equipped to handle an employee's personal issues. Unfortunately, I found from personal experience as well as many, many clients we've worked with. Divorce is a very personal issue and HR human resource departments are very unsympathetic, and do not offer adequate support or guidance. You must understand that human resources job is to minimize company risk and you crying in their office is a risk that needs to be mitigated and they're also obliged to report that to your boss or boss's boss. So I definitely wouldn't lean on HR and I definitely wouldn't tell your colleagues or your boss the gory details of your breakups situation.

Next up, take some eyedrops and good soft tissues to work. If you find you need a good crying session in the bathroom. Use the eyedrops so that the emotional state is not clearly obvious to everyone. If somebody asks you What's wrong with your eyes just say, hey, fever, allergies, what about I just move on very swiftly. Keep in mind although times a year you are hired to do a job. All your company really cares about is whether or not you can do the job that you're hired to do.

And at the end of the day, your company doesn't owe you anything as most companies expect their employees to leave their personal issues at home. Therefore try to remain professional and as unemotional as possible while at work. The exercise I will teach you at the end of the career section will help you remain unemotional at work. But if you feel yourself getting emotional, excuse yourself and leave the building for 10 minutes, a personal tip for me is do not let others at work see you being overly emotional. They might judge your competency based on your ability to handle strong emotional stress. So they're the wrong crew to lean on for support.

Communicate very clearly with your boss about what he or she can count on you from and on, and also ensure that you give deadlines and try to stick as best you can to them. If it looks like you're struggling to meet a deadline immediately communicate that the deadline might get missed and recommit to what is possible. If you just start lapsing deadlines, not getting back to emails, you are actually putting yourself at risk. And you do not want to do that. Your colleague and boss are also going to be looking to see if you're working less hours. If they think that you're going through something you'll notice that some of your colleagues will start making notes about your arrival time and you're leaving time Therefore, unless you have permission to work, nice work the full a lot of time you're hired to work.

If it looks like you might arrive late to work, communicate immediately that you're going to be late and ensure you work later to make up that time. I once worked in an office environment where somebody was going through chemotherapy treatment. So unfortunately, he had cancer. And he had chemotherapy treatments were happening during the week. And we all as colleagues in the office started noticing that he was coming in much less and even though he was going through a terrible time, the gossip in the office was this guy was getting special treatment. So you'll notice with people there isn't a lot of sympathy regardless of the situation you're going through people notice if you're getting special treatment.

And so you got to make sure that you take care of that and you don't have their perceptions of influence your career and where you're heading. If you have the option to work from home do so it's easier to maintain professional etiquette via email than to be around colleagues and people you work with every day. Also, if just a practical thing you might want to inform the accounts department that you're going through a divorce because it might change your tax code and ensure that you also include your current tax code when your email when you're emailing them. So I hope those tips help you out. If you have a specific issue you want to discuss, please feel free to contact us on negative