So the X Factor indicate when there are children involved or business involved. Now, if there are children involved, it's really important not to expose them to your marital conflict. When children are involved in a breakup or divorce, it's really important for parents to behave civilly. Now accept, of course, this can be hard. And it's important that you end up being the bigger person in this equation. And it might always be hard, but there will be times you have to see your ex, particularly at school events where you need to discuss something related to their parenting.

And in these cases, the rules are really, really clear. Number one, do not speak badly of your eggs in front of your children ever. Respect your child's right to have a relationship with both of their parents and do not use your children as a go between or a carrier of nasty messages. Just keep them out of the marital conflict. Number two, do not volunteer unsavory information about your ex in front of your children. No matter how tempting it is, no matter how much you want to expose yourself.

For who they really are, think that your children need to see the truth, it will always backfire on you. Children by nature will always side with a party that they feel has been aggrieved or attacked. So your attacks will backfire on you and could jeopardize your own relationship with your children. Number three, do not argue in front of your children, be polite and set a good example for them. Number four, prioritize having an amicable relationship with your ex. Even if the aggression is coming from your ex.

It's important that the children feel that you're representing a united front. So even if there are occasions when siding with your ex will still make your children feel that they saw a team between the two of you. It's probably a good idea. Sometimes you need to concede some of your positions to win the overall game, which is that the children feel happy, harmonious and they do that when you have a united front. Number five, make sure that your marriage marital settlement or your divorce settlement, or your breakup is really really here on all the details. Tails.

This ensures that there are no misses misunderstandings or miss confusions in future. And number six, don't give your children false hopes of the parents reuniting. It's important that they do not receive confusing messages. If your ex pushes your button, then think ahead before you see them and ask yourself, what are the triggers? How will I keep the peace and stay calm? What is it that I want to achieve in this interaction?

Now if your ex is particularly aggressive, we have a video that explains exactly how to handle someone who is particularly aggressive in that situation. Stay tuned for the next video.