In this video, let's talk about how to manage dejection, which is essentially long term frustration or depression that go, you know, last for a certain period of time, I'm not talking about cleaning up clinical depression, that's totally something else, but generally a feeling of being down for a while. Okay. And you will notice that a lot of the steps to rectify this, I'll repeat, just like you did with anger, and a lot of these negative emotions, a lot of the steps will repeat, and you'll see a pattern of how to deal with them. And hopefully, you'll start to apply the pattern count constantly in your situations and use that get comfortable using this pattern of solving down and generally have this as eventually as a subconscious tool that you don't even have to think about and you'll know how to deal with this situation. So first, you have to identify, hey, I'm in the middle of this dejection.

I'm feeling down I'm not sure what to do after identify the cause, again, is the cause rational or maybe Did you just have your goals too high. And then of course, you came up short and you felt like a failure. So the immediate way out, is to look for immediate sources of motivation. A little earlier in the course, we talked about how to get motivated. In the short term, I went through a long checklist. You also should use humor humor is huge in leadership in emotional intelligence.

Humor is hugely can always motivate people right away with just a little bit of humor just lightens the mood, and has a lot of the negativity just just go away just fall off. So always when you're managing people always use humor and get the overall mood to be positive and high, okay. And even that's also for managing yourself as well. Now, a lot of the times dejection or long term frustration will happen because you see what you're doing as failure UT no solution, this happens to intrapreneurs. In the beginning, there's a lot of failure. This happens in sales, there's a lot of failure.

This happens when you're doing anything creative is a ton of failure. And the process of dealing with this failure is really hard, you can get really down on yourself. And some of the, you know, of course, we experienced highs and lows, but some of the lows can be quite low. And I've been there myself when I was just starting my business. And even now, of course, I go through periods of ups and downs in my business and the downs, they don't feel good, they don't feel good. And I don't always succeed at everything I do.

Even though I have a lot of experience of what I do now, even though you know, I can say, I've attained a certain level of mastery, I still fail a lot and whenever I try something new or creative, it still has a high failure rate. So we all feel some rate of failure all the time. It's just important not to let us not to have it let us get it not to let it get us down. So here are some potential solutions. First, you can have a support system or try Sources this can be either joining a mastermind or just having peers or family that that can rely you can rely on for support, to listen to you to give you feedback. And to kind of just bring you back up.

Sometimes having a business partner is the simplest thing you can do. Because always when you're down and you all every one at some point will be down. The business partner is there to get you back up to suggest something that might work. And if you can get that sometimes you can use a coach. That's what a coach is boots for the coach is going to get you back out in your downtimes. And you should also check for distorted thinking maybe your goal was too big and maybe that the failure do you perceive wasn't a complete failure, maybe there were some successes in it.

That's a possibility. And long term, you need to problem solve and re strategize so that you don't get frustrated and have the same failures happen again and again. A coach can Help you rethink your overall strategy. Maybe it's a business strategy that's not working. Maybe it's a management strategy that's not working, whatever it is, get outsource, I'm sorry, get outside opinions and advice of how to overcome the source of your perceived frustration or failure and and eventually focus on it and work hard at it enough to get over the thing that's causing failure and succeed at it. So that way the dejection can become enthusiasm and positivity and the feelings that you get when you have progress because those feelings are all positive and exciting.