We're going to practice the eulogy in just a moment. But I want to give you a few more tips on a couple of things I really don't want you to do. I understand if you do that, but it's not helping. The first one is drinking. I understand funerals. people drink to drown their sorrows.

If you're giving a eulogy, you may think it's giving you courage. It's not the problem with drinking, if you're speaking is it can slow down your ability to have recall. So if you're up there nervous in front of people anyway, the alcohol can slow down your ability to recall information. And then you have that Oh, I'm sorry. You're looking scared. You're looking at uncomfortable and now instead of the sympathy going to the person who just passed you're getting sympathy because people are Oh, is he gonna make it through this you?

You don't want people's sympathy for your speech. Now you may want the simple thing because This was a close person you lost. But the focus should be on the person who just passed away, not on whether or not you're going to get through this speech. So I would avoid alcohol because it can slow down your ability to recall information and to think clearly. You may think it's going to give you confidence, I've got other techniques to give you confidence, so don't worry about that. The other problem a lot of people have alcohol is it just makes them read and it can make them sweat, and that makes them look uncomfortable.

And finally, if you've had more than a little, it can slow your speech. So instead of putting honor on the person who just passed away, people are thinking, hmm, does this person have a drinking problem? Or are they drinking just because they're sad about a funeral? You don't want people speculating on that. That's why I would recommend You're the one delivering the eulogy. Anytime but they're even if it's evening time.

Just don't drink until after the eulogy, please. It's not that much to ask. The second big thing to avoid is trying to read out a whole speech for work because you want to get it just right. This is not a speech that's going to be judged on getting it just right. or leaving something oh my gosh, I forgot. When they were 23 they had an internship with a such and such.

Now, your job as the person delivering the eulogy is not to give the entire chronology of the person's life. put a spotlight on the highlights, the high moments, the good things about this person, and that's the real problem with trying to read the speech. If you're reading the speech, especially if you're not a full time professional newscaster You are going to sound like this you are going to sound flat and you're going to sound sound monotone. And you are going to sound about as interesting and as interested as if you are reading the phone book. That's why you can't read the eulogy and be effective. It destroys the personal element plus, you're not going to be able to look at people I mean, you should be looking at various loved ones throughout this huge presentation and again, it is a presentation.

So please keep in mind, don't drink alcohol before you speak. Don't read the speech. Those are two. Big Big no knows our address another one in just a moment.